MafiaGal4984 Posted November 19, 2004 Share Posted November 19, 2004 So here is a question for you all, (hello btw since I am a newbie). My boyfriend and I broke up 11 months ago when we were seperated by an ocean (yes literally) Since then we have contacted one another and within the past month have had numerous lunches with us and two other friends, we talk a lot more, and i found out he brought me up on a car ride back home, saying he has been talking to me again and that i am a great girl. Good sign right? Well, we have been trying to make plans for lunch which one of us always cancels, and recently otld me that he will be around this next week in town (while we are all supposed to be out of town except i will still be local) and that he will call me for a lunch or dinner possibly. Thsi was randomly brought up. Do you think I am on his mind again? And that maybe he wants us to get to know one another again? Any suggestions or comments welcome!! THANKS! MafiaGal Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 19, 2004 Share Posted November 19, 2004 Sounds like you are on his mind and I say you just go with the flow and see how things end up. I'd say he wants to get closer again but it is in your best interest to not assume that a 2nd chance will for sure happen because that will lead you to be upset if it doesn't. Again, just go with the flow:) Link to post Share on other sites
Author MafiaGal4984 Posted November 19, 2004 Author Share Posted November 19, 2004 Thanks for your post! Yea you are probably right. I will keep your suggestion in mind and just let whatever happens happens. This way there is no pressure on the both of us. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 19, 2004 Share Posted November 19, 2004 exactly. The philosophy of "whatever happens, happens" is the best one to take. Don't press anything with him and just let time sort it all out. You've got nothing to lose and only something to gain:) Link to post Share on other sites
Author MafiaGal4984 Posted November 20, 2004 Author Share Posted November 20, 2004 So here's a question for someone out there...what about when Ex's act wierd...like I am noticing lately he's getting really wierd with us and his friends around, but totally normal when its he an i - we tease one another etc, yet he has a hard time looking right at me i notice. what is with that? And I notice I cannot get him off my mind. Granted, I dont call him or IM him, or make myself available all the time, bc lets face it - im not...but maybe he does not know that I still see him as more then a friend? That was suggested to me the other day...how do i show that without scaring him off? Subtlity is key here. And why wont he look at me? and why is he diff with me whne his friends, who love us both, are around? And if he is talking about me to his best friend...that bodes well for me right? oh wow..someone help please Link to post Share on other sites
pancakepalace Posted November 20, 2004 Share Posted November 20, 2004 He probably feels akward because he would like things to be more than friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MafiaGal4984 Posted November 20, 2004 Author Share Posted November 20, 2004 Pancakepalace, Thanks for the post. If you really think this, which could be a def possibliity, any suggestions on what i can do? I dont want to put tooo much energy into it, bc if its supposed to be it will be, but like, how can i make him more comfortable, and throw out the "yes i love being friends but i still think of you as more" vibe? Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 20, 2004 Share Posted November 20, 2004 Flirt with him and stuff like that. Just sort of be like how you were when you two were together It isn't too hard for a guy to pick up signals if they are genuine. Link to post Share on other sites
pancakepalace Posted November 21, 2004 Share Posted November 21, 2004 Take your time and flirt like Weird says. Use actions more then words. Read this interesting article to get your mind ready for your meeting. http://www.sosuave.com/articles/dance.htm Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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