emva07 Posted September 11, 2013 Share Posted September 11, 2013 So I met my brother's best friend over a year ago. He seemed to have a thing for me, which I chose to ignore, the whole day he was coming onto me but I just ignored. A few days later he messaged me on facebook, but i was pretty short with him so it didn't go past that. Tonight he messaged me on facebook "hey you still up?.......what are your plans these following few days" so i say i don't know and he says "maybe we can grab lunch this week" so i ask "alone?" and he says yeah. so I said I don't know I'll let you know....and he says ok, i'll message you tomorrow, have a good night. How do I say in a non-rude way I don't want to go eat lunch with him alone? Were he not my brothers best friend I'd just say "i don't feel comfortable going to lunch with you" but in this case , i don't know. Link to post Share on other sites
Onward_Upward Posted September 12, 2013 Share Posted September 12, 2013 It depends really... If you're not attracted to him in any way, and you have no intention of hooking up with him, then please... let him down quickly. Don't let it drag on so that his infatuation grows and out of some sense of misguided "guilt", you allow him into your "friend zone". I mean, be polite, but be blunt about it. And then minimize the time you might spend around him. If, on the other hand you feel something may come of it in the future, but you're just not "ready" right now, then set limits on the relationship. For example, say that you'll only go to lunch IF your brother is there also, or some such thing... If the picture you're using as your avatar is actually you, then you are a beautiful girl, so it's no surprise he'd be attracted to you. So take it as a compliment In short, if you are just not "into" him: Then be merciful, and let him down sooner, rather than later. So he can move on... Link to post Share on other sites
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