Movingforward2 Posted September 12, 2013 Share Posted September 12, 2013 (edited) Married 7 years, together almost 10. Seperated for 8 weeks. Gaining confidence by the day. Wife already filed divorce, wanting to "work it out quickly"..ya know, blah blah blah.... 2 kids, both will be destroyed. I'm not interested in working the divorce out quickly. It's not going to be either way. I'm not mad at her.....I get it. Took me getting TKO'd the 1st 2 weeks, a lot of self help, reading, counseling, praying, etc. Know what is going on, but ready to move on one way or another. I'm working the 180, and it does work. Bottom line: I'm not playing Plan B. Probably going to have to deal with her this weekend. I'm not going to argue with her, so should I just confront her and say "I'm not playing Plan B, so you decide right now".......otherwise I'm out. I feel like I'm at this point, either we are going to slam each other in divorce proceedings, or work this _____ out. Advice? Edited September 12, 2013 by Movingforward2 Link to post Share on other sites
worldgonewrong Posted September 13, 2013 Share Posted September 13, 2013 Stay resolute, no matter what. The kids will eventually bounce back. You need to be a rock for them during this stormy time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Movingforward2 Posted September 16, 2013 Author Share Posted September 16, 2013 Well didn't do it this weekend. I think my wife is having a mid-life crisis and has no idea what she wants. I know this, she doesn't want me for now, but I'm not sure I want her anymore....this whole situation just gets weirder and crazier. Link to post Share on other sites
JJLA Posted September 17, 2013 Share Posted September 17, 2013 Married 7 years, together almost 10. Seperated for 8 weeks. Gaining confidence by the day. Wife already filed divorce, wanting to "work it out quickly"..ya know, blah blah blah.... 2 kids, both will be destroyed. I'm not interested in working the divorce out quickly. It's not going to be either way. I'm not mad at her.....I get it. Took me getting TKO'd the 1st 2 weeks, a lot of self help, reading, counseling, praying, etc. Know what is going on, but ready to move on one way or another. I'm working the 180, and it does work. Bottom line: I'm not playing Plan B. Probably going to have to deal with her this weekend. I'm not going to argue with her, so should I just confront her and say "I'm not playing Plan B, so you decide right now".......otherwise I'm out. I feel like I'm at this point, either we are going to slam each other in divorce proceedings, or work this _____ out. Advice? Try divorce mediation. It's a good middle ground before you resort to litigation, which can cost 50,000+. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted September 17, 2013 Share Posted September 17, 2013 Well didn't do it this weekend. I think my wife is having a mid-life crisis and has no idea what she wants. I know this, she doesn't want me for now, but I'm not sure I want her anymore....this whole situation just gets weirder and crazier. Didn't do what? Assuming it means you didn't discuss things this past weekend... It's best to decide what YOU plan to do - then take steps to make that end result happen based on your decision. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Movingforward2 Posted September 17, 2013 Author Share Posted September 17, 2013 Didn't do what? Assuming it means you didn't discuss things this past weekend... It's best to decide what YOU plan to do - then take steps to make that end result happen based on your decision. I have somewhat moved forward. I have lost about 30 lbs and am in the best shape I've been in since college. I have been in counseling and improving myself daily. I have become superdad........We are only 2 months into this, and haven't even gotten our 1st court date. Probably going to take awhile to figure this out, but this website has given great advice. Doing my best to go NC, but I slide probably once/week. I'm going to hold myself accountable for NC from this point forward (minus the girls)...... Link to post Share on other sites
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