cadetlesliebarbara Posted September 12, 2013 Share Posted September 12, 2013 hi, I'm 30 and I was looking for a girlfriend but it's hard to find one. I live in a country where there's no real culture of hooking up with strangers so you need to spend some time of friendship or acquaintance with a girl before bonding romantically with her like at work, at school or else. I run a small business by my own with no colleagues and all my female friends are engaged. I tried online dating but it's like looking for work during a major recession: no one's gonna hire you unless you have one hell of a resume! seriously I think there's no solution to my situation. women are too damn picky, they Always compile a budget plan with pros and cons before dating a guy! I tried volunteering in a cathouse but the girls over there were already in a relationship. shouldn't we take women back to the kitchen? they are so indipendent nowadays that they don't need a man unless he's at the top of the pyramid. I was considering to approach stranger women at the mall but I suspect they might think is kind of creepy. I never seen anyone doing that. Link to post Share on other sites
Dallers Posted September 12, 2013 Share Posted September 12, 2013 hi, I'm 30 and I was looking for a girlfriend but it's hard to find one. I live in a country where there's no real culture of hooking up with strangers so you need to spend some time of friendship or acquaintance with a girl before bonding romantically with her like at work, at school or else. I run a small business by my own with no colleagues and all my female friends are engaged. I tried online dating but it's like looking for work during a major recession: no one's gonna hire you unless you have one hell of a resume! seriously I think there's no solution to my situation. women are too damn picky, they Always compile a budget plan with pros and cons before dating a guy! I tried volunteering in a cathouse but the girls over there were already in a relationship. shouldn't we take women back to the kitchen? they are so indipendent nowadays that they don't need a man unless he's at the top of the pyramid. I was considering to approach stranger women at the mall but I suspect they might think is kind of creepy. I never seen anyone doing that. I stopped reading at the words women and kitchen ... Everyone knows a woman belongs in the bedroom. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted September 12, 2013 Share Posted September 12, 2013 I run a small business by my own with no colleagues and all my female friends are engaged. Look to these female friends. Perhaps one of them has a single friend who may be interested in you. I tried online dating but it's like looking for work during a major recession: no one's gonna hire you unless you have one hell of a resume! That's true. So when you are looking for work, do you just say "Eff it. Employers are too damn picky!" and give up? Or do you tweak your resume for each company, continue to build your skills, network, and do everything in your power to find a job? It's the same with dating. You don't give up when you are rejected. You just move on to the next prospect and don't take it personally. I tried volunteering in a cathouse but the girls over there were already in a relationship. shouldn't we take women back to the kitchen? they are so indipendent nowadays that they don't need a man unless he's at the top of the pyramid. Hopefully you are joking here. If you really think women need to go back to the kitchen, you have bigger problems than dating. (Plus I wouldn't wish any woman onto you!) I was considering to approach stranger women at the mall but I suspect they might think is kind of creepy. I never seen anyone doing that. It's all in how you do it. If you come across as easy going, smile, and seem casual, it isn't necessarily creepy. But - a lot of those women will have boyfriends/husbands/girlfriends or won't be interested in dating at all for whatever reason, so you have to be even MORE bulletproof when it comes to handling rejection. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cadetlesliebarbara Posted September 12, 2013 Author Share Posted September 12, 2013 pteromom, are saying dating is hard and there's no solution to it? Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted September 12, 2013 Share Posted September 12, 2013 pteromom, are saying dating is hard and there's no solution to it? Yes, dating can be very hard. The solution is to approach it much like finding a job. It's a numbers game. Maybe only 5 women out of 100 will be into you, so rather than feeling rejected that the 95 women didn't want you, you have to cast your net as wide as possible so you can find the 5. It takes courage, and it takes the ability to not personalize rejection. Link to post Share on other sites
CrystalCastles Posted September 12, 2013 Share Posted September 12, 2013 shouldn't we take women back to the kitchen? they are so indipendent nowadays that they don't need a man unless he's at the top of the pyramid. Er, no. If that was supposed to be a "joke", well I'm not laughing. You're implying that women having high standards is bad. I have every right to choose a good man and not settle for less, thank you very much. With that attitude, no one is going to want to date you. And please don't approach women in malls, that's creepy. Maybe you should join activity circles, or volunteer. I tend to meet a lot of men there- very nice men who like the same things I do so it's easy to find a common ground to start a conversation. Link to post Share on other sites
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted September 13, 2013 Share Posted September 13, 2013 hi, I'm 30 and I was looking for a girlfriend but it's hard to find one. I live in a country where there's no real culture of hooking up with strangers so you need to spend some time of friendship or acquaintance with a girl before bonding romantically with her like at work, at school or else. I run a small business by my own with no colleagues and all my female friends are engaged. I tried online dating but it's like looking for work during a major recession: no one's gonna hire you unless you have one hell of a resume! seriously I think there's no solution to my situation. women are too damn picky, they Always compile a budget plan with pros and cons before dating a guy! I tried volunteering in a cathouse but the girls over there were already in a relationship. shouldn't we take women back to the kitchen? they are so indipendent nowadays that they don't need a man unless he's at the top of the pyramid. I was considering to approach stranger women at the mall but I suspect they might think is kind of creepy. I never seen anyone doing that. People here seem to have a problem with this comment, but I agree. I prefer a woman in the kitchen over one with a job. Luckily, there are still MANY women in the world that believe that also (I know because I've met and dated them). What country do you live in? Believe it or not, a country with a lively hookup culture is not the best place to find a long term girlfriend (for obvious reasons lol). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GuyIncognito Posted September 15, 2013 Share Posted September 15, 2013 I'll ignore your misogyny and just say that you should not go talk to strangers at the mall just to find a date/gf, but if you see someone you're interested while at the mall, just strike up a conversation. Same with anywhere you might find yourself. Its ok to just talk to a stranger, but hanging around a mall just hoping to find a date is definitely creepy. Link to post Share on other sites
MrRightNow Posted September 16, 2013 Share Posted September 16, 2013 Try this method, works like a charm Link to post Share on other sites
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