mea_M Posted September 24, 2013 Share Posted September 24, 2013 I believe its all part of the grieving process so just let it flow right on out of you. Expressing is healthy and helps us to heal. You will get there. I'm certain of it. Chin up and march on. :-) Mea:) Link to post Share on other sites
Author ruby77 Posted September 24, 2013 Author Share Posted September 24, 2013 Thank you all for your kind replies. Its encouraging to know that this is to be expected. Its just so frustrating, thought I was done with all this. Feels like I will never get there at the moment. Link to post Share on other sites
JoelBarish Posted September 24, 2013 Share Posted September 24, 2013 Thank you all for your kind replies. Its encouraging to know that this is to be expected. Its just so frustrating, thought I was done with all this. Feels like I will never get there at the moment. It's just going to take time. You need to get excited about life again. How, you may ask? I don't know, I am not you. Figure out what excites you and go for it! Link to post Share on other sites
mtnbiker3000 Posted September 24, 2013 Share Posted September 24, 2013 Thank you all for your kind replies. Its encouraging to know that this is to be expected. Its just so frustrating, thought I was done with all this. Feels like I will never get there at the moment. I'm with ya. 6+ months NC here and always up and down. Back and forth. Never ending. Hopefully it will end for us soon Link to post Share on other sites
Author ruby77 Posted September 24, 2013 Author Share Posted September 24, 2013 To those of you in the same boat, do you feel that it is taking too long, that you should be over it by now or am I being too hard on myself? What do you do with all your spare time? I know I should be keeping and getting excited about things but I have no motivation, no enthusiasm, no life. Its really getting too much. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JoelBarish Posted September 24, 2013 Share Posted September 24, 2013 To those of you in the same boat, do you feel that it is taking too long, that you should be over it by now or am I being too hard on myself? What do you do with all your spare time? I know I should be keeping and getting excited about things but I have no motivation, no enthusiasm, no life. Its really getting too much. For me it's been just over 2 weeks and I feel it's taking too long. I only feel that way because my ex seemed over it instantly. Truth is one relationship from my past only lasted 5 months and took me over 3 years to get over. Now here I am doing much better this time with only two weeks behind me. My point is it takes however long it takes. I tell you what though, if I hadn't spent so much time looking back it wouldn't have taken 3 years last time. As to what we do in our spare time, Anyanova posted a thead about that subject that got a lot of replies... Link to post Share on other sites
Author ruby77 Posted September 25, 2013 Author Share Posted September 25, 2013 The problem I'm having is that I know I should be doing things to keep busy and I have some projects I could be getting on with but I feel almost scared of doing it, like there's no point in doing it and I get no enjoyment from it. Does that make sense? How do I find enjoyment again? Link to post Share on other sites
Author ruby77 Posted September 27, 2013 Author Share Posted September 27, 2013 Ah the weekend is here. Time for me to feel the worst I have ever felt in my life and cry my eyes out for a few days. I am sick of this. Sick of feeling like my life is over, sick of feeling sad, sick of feeling lonely and sick of being me. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Scorpio Posted September 28, 2013 Share Posted September 28, 2013 The problem I'm having is that I know I should be doing things to keep busy and I have some projects I could be getting on with but I feel almost scared of doing it, like there's no point in doing it and I get no enjoyment from it. Does that make sense? How do I find enjoyment again? Yes. It makes absolute perfect sense. It sounds like you're suffering a bout of depression. For me, they tend to show up once every 6-8 months and last anywhere from 4-8 weeks. It sucks. Waking up and immediately feeling this panicky knot in the chest. Not fun. As for how to find enjoyment again, I always have to wait until the depression goes away. While it is around, virtually nothing is enjoyable. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ruby77 Posted September 29, 2013 Author Share Posted September 29, 2013 Yeh I agree that nothing you can do will get you out of it. When you say it happens every 6-8 months for you, is that because of a break up or just generally? Link to post Share on other sites
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