Jimbossn Posted September 13, 2013 Share Posted September 13, 2013 (edited) I have destroyed my marriage. I honestly don't know why but i put a remote listening device in our bedroom and tried to hear my wife masturbate. It didn't work very well so i gave up. But my wife found it, i told her what i did. Now she is afraid to even be in the house for fear i have spy cams every where. I love her so much we have had a very close intimate relationship for 20+ years. Now i have destroyed it. I don't want to loose her, i don't know what to do! She is moving out and wants a divorce. Edited September 13, 2013 by Jimbossn Fix wording Link to post Share on other sites
Nyla Posted September 13, 2013 Share Posted September 13, 2013 I don't blame your wife. What you did was a breach of privacy and very degrading. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted September 13, 2013 Share Posted September 13, 2013 There has to be more to this story. This seems like a wild reason to just up and end a marriage. Do you have a history of sneaky behavior? Any trust issues in the relatonship? Why didn't you let her know you wanted to listen/watch her pleasure herself? Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted September 13, 2013 Share Posted September 13, 2013 It was a pretty big breach of trust, particularly given the sordid reason you had for doing it. I certainly understand her anger and paranoia, but I can't help but think that maybe, just maybe, divorce is an overreaction after 20+ years together. On the other hand, maybe it's not depending on how the last 20 years have gone. So, how have they gone? Was this a huge one-off on your part or are there other things she's considering? How long ago was it that she found the bug? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jimbossn Posted September 13, 2013 Author Share Posted September 13, 2013 So it happened a couple years ago, but from her previous life she has trust of men issues. I have been reading men are from mars women from venus and realized we haven't been communicating very well. I unknowingly would invalidate her feelings. I would say she has always had some trust issues with me. One instance she brings up is i was walking and holding hands with my son he started acting up so i squeezed his hand to pull him in and he cried. I believe she over reacted and was horrified, but she states that hurt her trust as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jimbossn Posted September 13, 2013 Author Share Posted September 13, 2013 Nyla - yes i don't really blame her either it was a huge breach of trust. But we had a close intimate relationship on a level that i believe is difficult to obtain. I am so sad that this has happened. Link to post Share on other sites
Nyla Posted September 15, 2013 Share Posted September 15, 2013 I am sad for both of you too. I wish that you had asked your wife's permission before recording her. Link to post Share on other sites
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