PenelopeRay Posted September 13, 2013 Share Posted September 13, 2013 My ex and I were together since my freshmen year of college. He proposed, and a year before the wedding, he calls it off. We end up getting back together a week later, and get married the following year. We were married for four years, bought a house and dogs and did the whole married couple thing. Five months ago he asked for a divorce. I moved back with my parents (with the dogs that is 8 hours away) and we sell the house and we both start dating people about a month later, and we both move to new places. I begged for him to think about it, and tried to get him back for the first month. Lasts weekend he shows up at my door saying that he wants me back. He's in the car the whole time and never gets out. I end up having my friends pick me up and I go to there house, never seeing him. This is the second time he has just dropped me, and as much as I love him I can't be with someone who is constantly hurting me. He is now filing the divorce paperwork and I feel this knot in my stomach that won't go away, and I'm not sure if it's love for him or heartache. Link to post Share on other sites
Mariposa10 Posted September 13, 2013 Share Posted September 13, 2013 First of all, I'm sorry you're going through this, I don't think I can even imagine how much you're hurting. First he said he wanted to get back together and then he filed for divorce? Sounds like he's not sure about what he wants... I hope there are people here who can help you with some useful advice. Good luck and stay strong! Link to post Share on other sites
Porridge Posted September 14, 2013 Share Posted September 14, 2013 Sounds to me like your ex is indecisive and still has a lot maturing to do. So much as you still have feelings for him, you can't keep putting yourself through this emotional turmoil. And even if you did reconcile, you'd now have a constant niggling doubt about what lies around the corner. I think you owe it to yourself to put this one down to experience and move on. You're still young and have a world of opportunity out there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PenelopeRay Posted September 15, 2013 Author Share Posted September 15, 2013 Thanks for the replies. He still says that he wants me back, that he would do anything for us. I am so happy now in my new city, with my new life. Almost everyone I know, and I few people I don't, have told me how much I have blossomed, and that I have gotten my sparkle back. It's taken 5 months and a lot of tears, but I really think that our soon to be divorce is for the best. He went to go and file the paperwork a few days ago, but he said that part of the court house was closed on the day he went...?? I just hope that he dose it soon so that we can just both move on. Link to post Share on other sites
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