happy4now Posted November 20, 2004 Share Posted November 20, 2004 I am so needing support for my internet relationship. I cannot believe that this has actually happened to me. I never thought I would get involved with someone on the internet. We actually met by accident when I was watching a chat room discussion for the first time. I thought he sounded very nice so we began talking...make a long story a little shorter...it has been 6 months now and we are madly in love with each other. The problem with all of this is that he lives in another country. I am in USA and he is in Europe. He is planning to come to meet me in 2005...May or June. I cannot tell you how excited I am to meet him. In the meantime, does anyone know how to cope with this situation. I feel so much for him and I cannot touch him. We have talked on the phone and we speak to each other on IM almost every day. I know that he loves me too.....It is so hard to wait for him. Does anyone have experience in cyber-dating and does it ever have a happy ending? Both of us know we have met our soul mates...now we just need to find a way to be together. His whole life is there, mine is here. How will it ever work and do you think it will ever get anywhere. I am so in love with him that it makes my heart ache every day. I want this to be a good thing....I know that he feels the same..it is a finacial thing and obligation to his father that keeps him there now. What do you think? Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted November 20, 2004 Share Posted November 20, 2004 We were just talking about this the other day at LS. Here's the thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?postid=347931#post347931 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 20, 2004 Share Posted November 20, 2004 I wish you all the best. Just take it REALLY SLOW...Be open and honest. Always. And make sure YOU demand that of him as well...IT cannot be onesided. Written words can be read into so many different ways. Just be very clear what all it means and every intention. If your gut tells you something isn't right...Chances are...Your gut is RIGHT. But I do believe some online romances do just happen. I know someone who is married now as they fell inlove online. They IM'd and talked for 2 years...Then decided to really pursue something. Just remember though, you are only seeing what each of you wanna see. Not the day in and day outs of everyday life, how each of you are after a long hard day, or family/friends fit into the equation too. It's too new right now, and as it should be, like every new and exciting budding romance. Just keep your eyes more open. All the best and keep on posting!! Link to post Share on other sites
DutyPaid Posted November 20, 2004 Share Posted November 20, 2004 it will only work if you can spend time together not just vacations if that is not possible why bother? find someone closer to home Link to post Share on other sites
Author happy4now Posted November 20, 2004 Author Share Posted November 20, 2004 whichwayisup: That was really fabulous advice and I thank you for your time. I am to the point of not really knowing what to do. I am 38 and he is 39. We should really know by now what we really want from life, I think. All I know is when I think of him, I get a funny feeling inside my stomach and my palms get sweaty. I haven't felt like this about anyone..online or offline in so many years....and only once in my life. We are taking things very slow and getting to know each other very well. I think we have the same values, morals and ideas on life. He had even talked to my daughter on line and they are becoming friends...which she thinks is really cool. I am very protective of her, and he is also....we don't tell her too much, just that he is mom's friend. He has no children of his own and I can tell that it hurts him very much. He has had some bad relationships therefore is very cautious about this one. He has never done this before either. We both know that this could end in terribal heartache for each of us because we are so far away, but we are going into this with open minds and hearts and are looking so forward to being together...even if it is only for a week. I do feel like I might be wasting my time, but how will I know if I don't pursue it? He is the sweetest man alive and I trust him with everything. I know I only see one side of him but we do talk about our days and our families, jobs, etc. so I know his views on a lot of subjects. He is very protective of me and does not want me to be hurt. I feel the same way about him. We have had intimate conversations on the web which makes us both feel so silly afterward. We have found that we both are very sexually compatable and it is the only way we can share our love for one another. We are committed to one another even being so far apart. I feel so helpless and desperate! I have never wanted anyone more and I don't know how I will get through the next 6 months without him. I guess we will continue to get to know each other until then. Thanks again...sorry about the rambling on, but I get so excited to even talk about him that I can't stop! Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted November 20, 2004 Share Posted November 20, 2004 Like I said in the link I posted, you are only hearing his story of what his values, etc. are and how he behaves. There are a lot of people who say one thing and do something quite different and you may have found one of them. The only way you can know for sure is to spend enough time together to see if his behaviour matches his words. Link to post Share on other sites
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