Are you attracted to your own race?

[MissBee]

Yes and no.

 

Attracted to their bodies? Yeah if they actually take good care of themselves, in which there isn't a lot of black women nearby that do.

 

Attracted to how they generally act? Hell no. I cringe every time I have to check out a black woman at my register because it is almost never a positive experience for me as an employee.

 

I never had this kind of consistent bad experiences from other races besides immigrants who can't speak English.

 

The most that I can see myself willing to do with a random, not-so-special black woman is sleep with her and, since her general attitude will surface long before I bed her, I doubt I would even go that far.

 

There is a reason why I prefer my childhood to be erased from my life permanently.

 

Just wow...goodnight sir.

[hopeislife]

Race is an overused term.There is no such thing as a 'white' or 'black' race.

i study anthropology.Science and evolution is a lot more complex.

The terms 'white' and 'black' are mere social constructs.

If you simply google the term caucasian you will see that it encompasses a lot of the world.The races of mankind is a great article.

It is all about the human skull.Skin pigment is a very very oversimplified way at looking at race and has little or no meaning in science when looking at different ethnicities.We are a lot closer to each other than we think.For example many people from the horn of africa are considered caucasian,

The meditterranean race includes people of not only southern europe but of south asia ,west asia as well as northern Europe and those people share great similarities with each other.

 

i am pred attracted to and mainly only date caucasians but like i said that includes more of the world than most people think.I think its natural to be attracted to people who look like yourself or your family.Its the way are are programmed.Its ingrained in us by evolution.I dont think its abnormal in any way.But having said that i see beauty in many different groups from the people of iceland to the people of sudan.I think however sexual attraction is different.

[Emilia]

I'm attracted to different races, I'm white but haven't dated white for a while. I think a lovely shade of brown is very attractive and I do appreciate beautiful skin. So I guess I'm for equal opportunity

[skydiveaddict]

I'm white, and only attracted to my race. If someone wants to call me racist, go right ahead. I'll still sleep at night.

 

Nothing wrong with that.

 

i will admit an attraction to Hispanic and Asian girls.

[emva07]

yes. Mind you, my "race" is one of the most diverse I wold say,

 

Hispanics can come from the whitest of the white, to the darkest of the black.

 

I'd say a good looking person is a good looking person. Every race has hot people and not so hot people.

Edited September 16, 2013 by emva07

[MrCastle]

yes. Mind you, my "race" is one of the most diverse I wold say,

 

Hispanics can come from the whitest of the white, to the darkest of the black.

 

I'd say a good looking person is a good looking person. Every race has hot people and not so hot people.

 

Totally. Hispanics physically have to be the most diverse ethnicity out there. They can look white, asian, middle eastern, black. Insanity.

[nomadic_butterfly]

HHmm..I would say it's only weird if you have negative things to say about your own race. A lot of black American men who don't date black women tend to bash them, a lot more than the black women who date out seem to.

 

I personally think it odd to not be attracted to my own race as it is a part of me and will be a part of my children too. As long as it isn't an inferiority complex or self hate I say why not. You are mixed not black (I think the one drop rule is dumb one should be able to claim ALL SIDES of them).

 

I will say as a Caribbean girl a lot of black American men aren't attracted to my slender/petite size 4 build (though I have a bubble butt and a size D rack despite the small frame lol). "Oh you have a pretty face but kinda on the skinny side." I was born this way and I don't have a redonkulous booty or huge thighs as the perceived standard of black beauty in the black American culture. I also don't fit the many stereotypes expected of me even by my "own people" causing further criticism. It's mainly Caribbean, African, and every other non-black American man that are usually attracted to me so that's who I date and focus on.

 

 

I'm asking this question because for me the answer is yes and no. I'm mixed race (Black/White). I turned out with a mix of both features of course. Pale skin, blonde hair, blue/green eyes...but ethnic everywhere else.

 

So, for me, since I call myself Black, I'm not attracted to my race because I don't really like Black men for a number of reasons. But, I am very attracted to mixed guys for a number of reasons too so I guess I am attracted to what I am...if that makes sense.

 

Also, am I being unreasonable or picky for desiring a mixed race guy since I am mixed race myself?

[nomadic_butterfly]

Calling someone who only dates their own race racist is prepostorous. It is most innate especially if one lives in a country where all you see is your own race 99% of the time i.e. India, Nigeria, Syria, etc. Most people prefer the simplicity as well. IR dating can be tough sometimes.

 

I'm white, and only attracted to my race. If someone wants to call me racist, go right ahead. I'll still sleep at night.

[kaylan]

I'm not attracted to Black men. Did I say why? Don't put words in my mouth and accept it.

Where did I put words in your mouth? Maybe you should hone those reading comprehension skills. I gave two different reasonings for why someone my not date a particular race. You zeroed in on one reasoning and took it as a description of yourself.

 

I think thats say enough right there since you got so defensive. Plus, I think people can read between the lines when yet another black girl comes to LS and says she doesnt date brothers "for a number of reasons". If it was just down to simple attraction, you would of simply just said so. But obviously theres more to it which you left out.

 

Trust me honey, brothers arent worried about your dating habits. I fully accept your dating preferences because I really dont care.

Edited September 16, 2013 by kaylan

[dichotomy]

I like my women... like I like my coffee...hot and full of booze.

Edited September 16, 2013 by dichotomy

[stillafool]

Pale skin, blonde hair, blue/green eyes...but ethnic everywhere else.

 

What does that mean? Is your torso and legs black or something?

 

So, for me, since I call myself Black, I'm not attracted to my race because I

don't really like Black men for a number of reasons.

 

 

If you are not attracted to black people why do you call yourself black? Can't you identify with the other half you are mixed with? I don't mean to be smart I'm just really confused and trying to understand.

 

 

But, I am very attracted to mixed guys for a number of reasons too so I guess I

am attracted to what I am...if that makes sense.

 

This makes perfect sense to me.

 

Also, am I being unreasonable or picky for desiring a mixed race guy since I am

mixed race myself?

 

Why would this be unreasonable that you are mixed and desire mixed race guys?

[Ursa]

I am mixed race, and I can be/have been attracted to people of any and every race. I can't think of any major ethnic group whose dating pool I haven't swum in. For me, the deciding factor is more about the brain than the skin.

[nessaaa]

I'm mixed with Indo- carribean and european.

Ive been attracted to all races! There's sexy in every race.

 

Are you not attracted to guys who have the same mix as u?

[King_Crimson]

Honestly, I like women of all races (although I've only ever dated Caucasians like me). I think there is a unique beauty that comes with race and the rest lies in personality.

[soccerrprp]

I'm white, and only attracted to my race. If someone wants to call me racist, go right ahead. I'll still sleep at night.

 

You sound a little defensive. Have you been accused of being a racist b/c your prefer to date only within your own "race?" If so, that is absurd. I'm not at all attracted to men, does that make me a misandrist?

 

Anyway...

[lionoftheforum]

I come from a place in the midwest that was primarily settled by Northern Europeans. I’ve been to several places, rural and urban, in Northern Europe. I can attest, a lot of those cultural norms stuck around after immigration and settlement. Basically a deeply individualistic, industrious, socially liberal, conformist, and conservative culture developed.

 

I dated a black woman a long time ago. However, that was her race, not her culture. She was from Zimbabwe. She told me straight out that young inner city black males were outwardly caddish and scoffed at responsibility. Dating these attitudes bothered her. IE, from her point of view, evidence of strong family skills and partnership bonds were expected upfront or no deal. If you can’t prove that you’re resourceful, get lost. What does this mean? After living in Chicago (Oak Park to be specific) for 8 years, she really developed a repellant attitude towards some aspects of inner city culture. She didn’t always like it, but she admittedly felt better off only hanging around with conservative white guys. I’ll leave it at that.

[MrCastle]

I come from a place in the midwest that was primarily settled by Northern Europeans. I’ve been to several places, rural and urban, in Northern Europe. I can attest, a lot of those cultural norms stuck around after immigration and settlement. Basically a deeply individualistic, industrious, socially liberal, conformist, and conservative culture developed.

 

I dated a black woman a long time ago. However, that was her race, not her culture. She was from Zimbabwe. She told me straight out that young inner city black males were outwardly caddish and scoffed at responsibility. Dating these attitudes bothered her. IE, from her point of view, evidence of strong family skills and partnership bonds were expected upfront or no deal. If you can’t prove that you’re resourceful, get lost. What does this mean? After living in Chicago (Oak Park to be specific) for 8 years, she really developed a repellant attitude towards some aspects of inner city culture. She didn’t always like it, but she admittedly felt better off only hanging around with conservative white guys. I’ll leave it at that.

 

That's not a racial preference but rather a cultural one.

 

If the choice was between a conservative white guy or a conservative black guy, and she chose the white guy, then maybe we're talking about preferences in terms of skin color, physical appearance,etc.

 

Which is something I always mention when threads like these pop up.

 

A lot of hispanic women I know prefer to date white guys but their reasons are not physical (I like their appearance more than other races) but rather "black guys and hispanics are too ghetto, asians are too nerdy, etc"

 

Perceived cultural stereotypes are their reasonings.

[Aslanbek]

I'm not attracted to Black men. Did I say why? Don't put words in my mouth and accept it.

 

 

So.......why?

[Aslanbek]

I love everybody. I'm Puerto Rican and love my fellow Rican girls, but no more than any other group of women. There are attractive ones in every ethnicity.

 

Never really understood people who only found one group or one physical type of person attractive. Isn't that boring? Life has given us so many different people, to only want to date one specific type seems kind of...odd?

 

I do find this very bizarre. When I was young and stupid, I admit I liked almost every type of woman except Asian. Then I lived in Hawaii and Asia and found out what a fool I was.

 

There are attractive women in every ethnicity on Earth. That's why I say I do find women of my race - human race - attractive.

[thefooloftheyear]

I find attractiveness in women of all races and ethnic backgrounds..

 

As a white 100% Italian guy, I have dated all types, Asian, latino, eastern european, Irish, etc. all except black women. I would, just never had the opportunity...

 

I do get along best with Italian women, ironically, and I prefer brunettes over blondes...*shrug*

 

 

Sometimes its best to forego only the physical appearance/attraction and figure out which type of mate you are most aligned with in terms of life philosophy and general compatibility. Because all the attraction in the world wont hold you together if you arent on the same page with those other issues..

 

Like Judge Judy is fond of saying...Beauty fades...

 

TFY

[thefooloftheyear]

I guess the redheads are out huh?

 

I don't consider race in being attracted to a man. At the same time, I've never been attracted to a man who didn't have dark hair.

 

Values, personality, and sense of humor are what I look for.

 

Hey, save that kick....I said I prefer brunettes over blondes!!! ...

 

TFY

[ASG]

Yeah, I'm mostly only attracted to white guys.

Sure, I've found the random black/asian/whatever guy attractive, but as a general rule, I'm all about the white boys.

[MrCastle]

I do find this very bizarre. When I was young and stupid, I admit I liked almost every type of woman except Asian. Then I lived in Hawaii and Asia and found out what a fool I was.

 

There are attractive women in every ethnicity on Earth. That's why I say I do find women of my race - human race - attractive.

 

Very true. Wish more felt that way. Oh well.

[thefooloftheyear]

Nice try. Still not answering the question.

 

No worries. A lot of men can't handle redheads.

 

No, they arent!

 

I grew up in an area where the population was pretty much 80 % irish. I know ALL about dem redheads....ALL;)

TFY

[skydiveaddict]

I'm asking this question because for me the answer is yes and no.

 

The answer is no. I'm terribly attracted to Hispanic girls.