Author send_me_flowers Posted September 18, 2013 Author Share Posted September 18, 2013 Nope. You should do NC for at least 3 months. If you're not over him and want to get back with him and he doesn't feel the same way, you should stick to NC forever. thank you for your reply hopefully after 3 months i will be over him by than LOL :bunny: thank you for your reply Link to post Share on other sites
Author send_me_flowers Posted September 19, 2013 Author Share Posted September 19, 2013 That's ok. I haven't read your story or anything, but 3 months is a good timeline to reasses how you feel. After 6 weeks, you're still very much in the thick of it and unable to make a clear decision. i suppose thats right to be fair but i think its a moment of weakness i thought that, i should think sod him he hasnt came to me im not going to you but thank you angel Link to post Share on other sites
Ansem Posted September 19, 2013 Share Posted September 19, 2013 thank you so much that is what i needed to hear, you may have saved me from a worse time, i suppose i was thinking that if i did it would show him i cared but i shouldnt and you are right, i dont take anything you said the wrong way its the right way, thank you very much for your reply. i suppose i dont understand why he hasnt tried to see if im ok but truth is he dont and never has cared, also he never had admitted he cheated but i obviously know he has, hes that much of a dumb**** that even had her name imprinted on his arm:) maybe one day he will reap what he sow:bunny: and i will meet someone who will be 10 times better :bunny: thank you You're welcome; that's the appropriate attitude to have. Keep us informed with any updates or if you ever feel like contacting him again post here first so you can have some clear headed advice. You seem like a really nice girl, caring so much for someone that did you so wrong. Be it a cliche or not, one day you're gonna find someone that appreciates you and doesn't take you for granted. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author send_me_flowers Posted September 19, 2013 Author Share Posted September 19, 2013 You're welcome; that's the appropriate attitude to have. Keep us informed with any updates or if you ever feel like contacting him again post here first so you can have some clear headed advice. You seem like a really nice girl, caring so much for someone that did you so wrong. Be it a cliche or not, one day you're gonna find someone that appreciates you and doesn't take you for granted. thank you i will do i will post but hopefully that was music to my ears i need to hear i shouldnt care at all tbh i cant wait untill i get in the stage thats indiffrence i should care about myself i will ost here firstly and i cant wait untill im back to myself and learn from this troublsome time thank you again Link to post Share on other sites
Author send_me_flowers Posted September 19, 2013 Author Share Posted September 19, 2013 You're welcome; that's the appropriate attitude to have. Keep us informed with any updates or if you ever feel like contacting him again post here first so you can have some clear headed advice. You seem like a really nice girl, caring so much for someone that did you so wrong. Be it a cliche or not, one day you're gonna find someone that appreciates you and doesn't take you for granted. didnt i make a new thread when i said thinking of breaking nc? because its come onto this thread how strange!!! must be god reminding me what hes done because i only had 2 comments how werid is it that its gone onto this freakyyyyyy Link to post Share on other sites
Ansem Posted September 19, 2013 Share Posted September 19, 2013 Yea you did, but the moderators probably saw it fit to combine both threads for better management seeing as how they're related . 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author send_me_flowers Posted September 19, 2013 Author Share Posted September 19, 2013 Yea you did, but the moderators probably saw it fit to combine both threads for better management seeing as how they're related . really haha bet there having a right giggle now. i thought WOW god has gave me a sign!!! oh well ill take it as a sign from god!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author send_me_flowers Posted September 20, 2013 Author Share Posted September 20, 2013 I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I went through something similar back in 2009. Dated this guy for 8 months, lived together and he left me for a married woman. BUT he also was still dating his HS sweetheart of 4.5 years! She lived 2 hours away. So he was living with me, seeing his HS sweetheart on the weekends, and having an affair with a married woman at his gym (he was a personal trainer). How awful, huh? I was sick. I remember laying in a ball in the bed we made love in several times and just crying, the blood curdling crying. I was so shaken by what happened. How could he? He did so much for me and was so sweet! How could he lie and leave me for a woman 20 years older and with kids!? That was 4 years ago. He married that married woman and had a baby with her. The other girlfriend of 4 years and I become close friends for a little and bashed him and exploited him. I don't talk to her anymore, but we both moved on and realize what a jerk he was. Good riddance. I still stalk his FB every once in awhile. I get no feelings from it, just curiosity. That is how I know he is married and has a baby with her. But people like that don't change. He will continue to cheat. I'm just glad it wont' be on me. aw that is so sad i am so sorry see and you came through that and you will come through this. my ex said when i was in a bad way over my ex i would never hurt you ha look where i am now time will heal us both it has to, thank you for reading my stroy 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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