Would he prefer it if I was bigger?

[Visions_of_fallacy]

Yeah, a booby thread!

My partner spent the first year of our relationship claiming to dislike large boobs, as he likes slim girls (we didn't have any major discussions or anything, just the usual preference talks etc). All fine until I see photos of a busty glamor model on his phone. Hmm. Then he admits he likes all sizes. I tell him that whilst I'm upset that he lied, and yeah a little insecure, I'm also perplexed as he always said how he found fat a turn off. He is completely shocked by this revelation as he didn't know breasts were mainly fat (bless, he's 28...). Anyway, he claims to have been really put off and no longer likes big. Meh. I think he's lying.. He's since told me all his favorite porn stars, and yeah, they're all out of proportion busty. Most fake.

I know I'm pathetic but i feel ridiculously insecure now. I feel pretty horrible any time he sees my boobs as I'm convinced he thinks they're 'OK', but would think I was much hotter if I had a massive chest on my slim frame.

He's being sweet saying things like even when he liked big, he didn't in real life as he disliked wobble.. Funnily enough I believe that, he does seem very turned off by fat. But he'd still find me more visually appealing with bigger breasts, right?

I'm obviously a little obsessed with this issue! I'm aware.. Had ocd all my life. I know I'm obsessing, just can't seem to shrug this one off.

Any advice? Apart from the obvious 'stop being nuts', haha

Edited September 15, 2013 by Visions_of_fallacy

[Keenly]

All men would prefer if their skinny gfs had bigger boobs. Don't take it personally. This is just how men are. The nicer ones wont admit it to their gf.

 

I find men like thin girls because they prefer a thin girl with small boobs than a fat girl with large boobs.

 

I find what men really want is a girl who is thin with the big boobs (like you see on TV). Like a girl with a 24 inch waist and a C cup size bra. Few women naturally have this physique without plastic surgery, I only know 1 or 2 females in my life who naturally have this physique, so men go for the thinner girl and compromise on the boobs.

 

Based on what you said about your bf he sounds insanely shallow (and hes 28???? HOLY CRAP I thought he would be 17) You should dump him you can do better!

 

Unfortunately, studies show men have been brainwashed by these immaculate images of women in the media and porn definitely warps a guys perception of women's bodies...

 

 

 

Take this with a grain of salt, as most of this post is only applicable to the men who think that way.

 

 

Some men prefer small boobs, like me. Some men prefer smaller women not because of how it makes them look, but because of how it makes you fit together.

 

That and the easy to throw around in the bedroom.

[Visions_of_fallacy]

All men would prefer if their skinny gfs had bigger boobs. Don't take it personally. This is just how men are. The nicer ones wont admit it to their gf.

 

I find men like thin girls because they prefer a thin girl with small boobs than a fat girl with large boobs.

 

I find what men really want is a girl who is thin with the big boobs (like you see on TV). Like a girl with a 24 inch waist and a C cup size bra. Few women naturally have this physique without plastic surgery, I only know 1 or 2 females in my life who naturally have this physique, so men go for the thinner girl and compromise on the boobs.

 

Based on what you said about your bf he sounds insanely shallow (and hes 28???? HOLY CRAP I thought he would be 17) You should dump him you can do better!

 

Unfortunately, studies show men have been brainwashed by these immaculate images of women in the media and porn definitely warps a guys perception of women's bodies...

 

Thanks for your response. And yeah, he is very immature. I could be wrong but I've always had the view that it was incredibly sad for a guy past the age of 18 to be into the silly media image of women as barbie dolls! And having favourite porn stars... Well.. Yuk. But anyway, he does have lots of good points too!

I'm just curious, you say he's shallow? How so? Don't you think it's a little shallow to wish your girlfriend had a bigger bust anyway :-P and also.. Many guys do prefer small! Just, well, maybe not my guy.

[Visions_of_fallacy]

Take this with a grain of salt, as most of this post is only applicable to the men who think that way.

 

 

Some men prefer small boobs, like me. Some men prefer smaller women not because of how it makes them look, but because of how it makes you fit together.

 

That and the easy to throw around in the bedroom.

 

Thanks. Just curious, have you always? After lots of Internet browsing it does seem like mature men prefer small. Boys like big. It's a generalisation of course.. But it seems to be the case. Just wondering if he'll grow out of it, if he grows up a little!

[noble]

I think some men "prefer" big boobs I suppose, but I think deep down it really isnt that big of a deal. Most women probably prefer a bigger penis, but if you met a great guy who you loved would it matter if his penis was small, or just average size?

Also, I think most men are just attracted to women -- period. Women. All shapes and all sizes. For example, my boyfriend says he doesn't care small or large breasts he just likes natural. He'd rather be with a woman who had naturally small breasts than a woman with fake breasts, but most of all I think men just want women who are confident in themselves and their bodies.

I've heard a lot of guys say that confidence in a woman is way sexier than her actual body.

[The Way I Am]

I feel pretty horrible any time he sees my boobs as I'm convinced he thinks they're 'OK', but would think I was much hotter if I had a massive chest on my slim frame.

 

Do you really think your bf is critiquing and grading your boobs every time he sees them? Or do you think maybe he's just enjoying the fact he gets to see and play with boobs?

 

Do you constantly compare your bf's looks to movie stars or his penis size to porn stars? If not, what makes you think he's doing that to you? Stop comparing yourself to other women. Unless your bf is incredibly shallow, he's not critiquing your looks like that.

[The Way I Am]

He wishes you had bigger boobs, he has favorite porn stars and talks about it to you. You sound really naiive and I feel sorry for you honestly. It is incredibly sad for a guy his age to act like a 17yearold so obsessed with media images.

 

BTW, some men never grow up. Hes 28, not 15. He wont grow out of this if hes 28 and doing this.

 

To be fair to the bf, we don't know if he just goes around saying these things (in which case, you're correct) or if he only coughed up the info after OP grilled him about who/what he finds attractive.

[Keenly]

Thanks. Just curious, have you always? After lots of Internet browsing it does seem like mature men prefer small. Boys like big. It's a generalisation of course.. But it seems to be the case. Just wondering if he'll grow out of it, if he grows up a little!

 

Yes. Its always been my preference. In fact anything bigger than a C us a turn off to me.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

Yeah, a booby thread!

My partner spent the first year of our relationship claiming to dislike large boobs, as he likes slim girls (we didn't have any major discussions or anything, just the usual preference talks etc). All fine until I see photos of a busty glamor model on his phone. Hmm. Then he admits he likes all sizes. I tell him that whilst I'm upset that he lied, and yeah a little insecure, I'm also perplexed as he always said how he found fat a turn off. He is completely shocked by this revelation as he didn't know breasts were mainly fat (bless, he's 28...). Anyway, he claims to have been really put off and no longer likes big. Meh. I think he's lying.. He's since told me all his favorite porn stars, and yeah, they're all out of proportion busty. Most fake.

I know I'm pathetic but i feel ridiculously insecure now. I feel pretty horrible any time he sees my boobs as I'm convinced he thinks they're 'OK', but would think I was much hotter if I had a massive chest on my slim frame.

He's being sweet saying things like even when he liked big, he didn't in real life as he disliked wobble.. Funnily enough I believe that, he does seem very turned off by fat. But he'd still find me more visually appealing with bigger breasts, right?

I'm obviously a little obsessed with this issue! I'm aware.. Had ocd all my life. I know I'm obsessing, just can't seem to shrug this one off.

Any advice? Apart from the obvious 'stop being nuts', haha

 

 

 

I love your apparent 'spirit' in seeking thoughts from the crowd, but I can't help but feel that you have brought female insecurity to a level that has me in awe.

 

Firstly, it reads as if you are analyzing the word "fat" in literal terms.

 

If somebody tells you he loves Maple Bacon Doughnuts, you don't get to call him out on his having previously told of finding fat a turn-off. The fact that all breasts are "mainly fat" does not belong in your display here. (for they are still Maple Bacon Doughnuts on the grand scale of men admiring women).

 

Beyond that, I sense that you are in a vortex caused by human psychology swirling all around us, every day of our lives.

 

Any guy trying to imagine the outlook of a 13yo girl might first reason that she has breasts of some random size, and that she probably wakes up in the morning, and looks out at the world, and continuously floods her mind with thoughts of what might be nice about having that girl's random, but different sized breasts.

 

A female human just never goes to Victoria's Secret to pick through the 36C bras to consider why and how much she should envy the breasts of the other woman standing there and picking through the 36C's.

 

It is perfectly possible and reasonable that your guy may indeed "like all breast sizes", and what matters most, about the breasts of his girlfriend, is their randomness within the vast realm of breast sizes!!

 

There is such a unique path from being a person who grows to their teen years, and looks out at the variety of people all around, while admiring most of them for various reasons, before evolving toward selecting one as his/her life partner. The benefits of so doing result mostly from the shared personal/emotional investment (and not because either side has the ideal specs in terms of physical attributes, career achievements, or adoration by society).

 

The mentality which includes selecting one pair of breasts, for a lifetime, (which are of course attached to that one partner) is similarly filled with psychology.

 

I think men most want your randomness that way, and they would prefer that you be secure with whatever your random breast holdings happen to be.

 

 

 

The most significant difference between what men think about breasts, and what women think about breasts is the following:

 

"Men believe that there are no three breasts alike,

 

while women believe that there are no two breasts alike".

 

 

 

 

So even if you're a guy who met a great woman, and who landed on "36B" for a lifetime, you're still going to notice and be aware of breasts which represent considerable contrasts to those which are so intimately familiar to you.

 

Does the husband/partner of a woman with 36DD breasts ever get in trouble for admiring the 36DD breasts across the room??? - maybe, but just exactly what does his insecure partner decide to be insecure about in such situations?

 

Beyond all that, there are some guys who just wander from similarly-breast-sized partner to similarly-breast-sized partner just for following what is familiar to him.

 

As for porn stars, it is quite likely that the common emotional/life-experience traits shared by them (before getting into porn) are such that they are more common among larger-breasted women. (I wish we could know a study which cross-referenced breast size and age at first sexual activity, or even breast size and sex-crime victimization)

 

Identify in those porn stars greater numbers of the considerably insecure and you have a recipe for women who might be very quick to rush right out and get breast implants.

 

SO there are various reasons why comparing your breasts to those of the vast porn world won't yield a fair comparison or a true cross-section of the female population as a whole.

 

Finally, not so very long ago I came into contact with a pair of considerable breasts of size DD or higher, and I can still remember being right in front of those gems, and continuing to recite how I'm not a 'breast man' yet I do have considerable draw to the unique-among-my-travels element to those breasts.

 

And I could feel within me how authentic my words were, no matter the fact that I was well within the range of the gravitational pull of those breasts.

 

So I can't recommend enough that you just deal directly with whatever size breasts you have, and avoid letting yourself fall prey to the inner psychology which threatens you so much.

 

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[bubbaganoosh]

I was going to say that it sounds like he's immature. It sound like a guys old high school days where the girl with the big boobs got all the attention.

 

When I was a senior, I met a girl with a huge set of boobs. She was what they called a 4hooker. The hooks were the number of hooks on the back of her bra.

 

One night we were at a dive in movie, (This took place in the 1960's) and were in the back seat rumbling, stumbling, bumbling and I'm trying to get her bra off and she finally told me that there was only one hook and it was in the front. I remember unhooking that bra and it looked like a small explosion when it came loose. These two giant boobs came out like two air bags in a car accident. Honest to God I was afraid of them. They looked like they were alive and covered her whole front and she wasn't a overweight girl, just a girl with over size boobs. I couldn't understand how she got them back in her bra. I saw them again and with the lights on at her house and I never saw bigger veins in my life. From that day on, I liked the smaller boobs on a girl. You could have made a monster movie with those boobs.

[road]

Men like big rack's.

However past a D cup it just to big.

 

As to being a 10. Girls can be just as pretty with a A, B, C, or D cups.

Their are many actress' that 10's that have A and B cups.

Their are many Victoria secret models that are A and B cups.

 

Their are many non celebrity women with A and B cups that are 10's.

 

You should not worry about your breast size. Your BF is dating you, he finds you attractive.

 

Are men to stop watching a movie because the actress has a cup size bigger then his woman has.

 

Hair impacts looks and is easier to change the rack size.

 

Also many women would improve their looks more if they went to the gym and toned up then if they got a boob job. I have seen too many women with too much gut get a boob job. The results are a still fat girl with a bigger rack. She was unattractive and fat before, spent money, still fat and unattractive after.

[Babolat]

I "think" I am a boob guy, nice B, C or D cup. Though my first 2 LTRs were with A cup woman and I loved their breasts, loved their entire body.

 

The last 2 woman I dated were busty, D+, with implants. I loved their boobs, though in the end, well, they are "just boobs". I go for the entire package. I say that over and over on here. I do not fixate on one body part.

 

Yeah, I nice set of boobs will turn my head; cleavage will turn my head. But I go for the overall body.

 

Love your body and do not let your bf treat you this way. There are too many men out there who will love you for who you are. If he has a photo of a naked chick on his phone, well, why? That's just sick to me.

 

And this whole "Men like big boobs" to me is just bunk.

[AMusing]

Then he admits he likes all sizes. I tell him that whilst I'm upset that he lied, and yeah a little insecure, I'm also perplexed as he always said how he found fat a turn off. He is completely shocked by this revelation as he didn't know breasts were mainly fat (bless, he's 28...). Anyway, he claims to have been really put off and no longer likes big. Meh. I think he's lying..

 

Well of course he's lying, the poor idiot. You're pushing him into lying to you, then you're upset that he's lying to you! Drop this subject with your boyfriend; it will be a favor to him and to yourself. Note: I'm assuming he isn't spontaneously announcing his cup size likes, dislikes, and favorite porn stars; I'm betting that you've asked him. If he is spontaneously telling you these things, than he really is an immature fool who needs to learn to keep his mouth shut, and you should tell him you don't like hearing about it, as it damages your self image. But, assuming you are probing him for his preferences:

 

Stop! There is no benefit in knowing his absolute preferences: the answer will never make you happy, and you can't do anything about it anyway. He is clearly attracted to you, and that is all that matters. Nobody is attracted to just one person; most people find a range of traits attractive, including cup sizes. Plus, everyone (male and female) will be attracted to some physical trait that their SO doesn't have. I can guarantee that you could change something on your boyfriend that would make him more physically attractive to you. Say... a stronger jawline, or bigger biceps. Do you fixate on his weak chin while he's undressing you? Are you going to "trade up" for a different guy, because he has stronger arms than your current boyfriend? Should he get jealous, because some actor is attractive to you (and most of the female population)? No... because you love your boyfriend, you are attracted to him, and you want to stay with him. He feels the same way about you. You need to trust him, have confidence in your body, and quit harping on the breast subject.

 

Again, I apologize if he's the one continuing to talk about it without you asking. If that's the case, he has some growing up to do.

[road]

As bobalot said, it is the whole body. A large rack will not make a 1 into a 10. There are plenty of women that have a large rack. That all they have for aclaim to fame. Along with too much waist, butt, thigh. But they are still from the Lee family.

 

Beast, Ghast, and Ugh.