Nygal78 Posted September 16, 2013 Share Posted September 16, 2013 I recently contacted my ex. It has been 11 years since we dated or spoke. He was really receptive and we talk/text a ton. We have seen each other once and it went well. you would think there was no time lost between us. I have told him i have feelings for him, but i have no idea how he feels. He says things that make me think he has feelings, but then he will act totally opposite. He will not discuss it further. He has become great at avoiding the subject. He tends to remember more about our past and always seems to look back on it fondly. I am definitely getting mixed signals. i am at the end of an unhappy marriage and he is separated. I don't know if it is because i am not separated yet or if he just doesn't have feelings. I just don't know what to do or think. I want to at least remain friends so i am nervous about bringing it up. I am not sure why he just hints at his feelings instead of just coming out and saying what he feels. Anyone have any thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
CW_in_NOLA Posted September 17, 2013 Share Posted September 17, 2013 It's very possible the fact that you're actively married is giving him pause, and rightfully so if you think about it. You're not actually available for anything more at this time. If I could be so bold as to make a suggestion, read the book "Not Just Friends" by Shirley Glass. It may give you some clarity on your situation. Link to post Share on other sites
its_just_me Posted September 18, 2013 Share Posted September 18, 2013 I agree with CW. He probably views you as available. I wouldn't push the issue if you want his friendship while your marriage ends (assuming it does). You can explore this when you are truly available. Link to post Share on other sites
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