Ed the 3rd Posted September 17, 2013 Share Posted September 17, 2013 I'm nearly 20 and have never had a GF. Every girl I've asked out in college has had a boyfriend which makes me feel like crap. What I am doing wrong here? I'm smart, have a sense of humor, doing a sports/sports science course and I look like this https://fbcdn-sphotos-g-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/1006030_10151742632123954_1401743915_n.jpg Did I mention I can cook? What is it? Is it because I meant to a boys school? Is it because a year ago I used to be 17 stone? is it that girls can tell I have SA even though I display enough confidence to talk to them and ask if they are available day 1? Is it because I don't have a car and my own house at 19 (god forbid its that) is it because I'm not on the college football team!? Or am I just morbidly unlucky? Yes I could of got one if i didn't have any standards but if the rest of my college course can get a girl they actually find attractive I'm be damned if I have to settle for less just because I drew the short straw or some bs. Link to post Share on other sites
the tank Posted September 17, 2013 Share Posted September 17, 2013 I was virgin until 23 year old. When I think back of my past . For me it was because I missed the opportunity because I was too shy to take action. Have you try dating web site ? It's a great way to meet girl and talk . Dont put pressure on you. Two years ago I leave home and Traveled for a few months. When I cameback home I was a new man. Since everything got well for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ed the 3rd Posted September 17, 2013 Author Share Posted September 17, 2013 I've missed an opportunity or two in my day. I try to be very confident in my new college and take every chance. Rather get a no then having to regret not asking like a true loser. I've tried OLD but I came to the conclusions that its a waste of time and I didn't need it. What I needed to do was to go to college. I'm sick atm and I have to stay home and its messing with my head. I'm having nightmares that my college life might be screwed up now and all my insecurities and fears are bubbling to the surface. I'm trapped in my little room with no ware to go or no money to do anything with and no one to talk to. I'm in my own personal little hell right now. Link to post Share on other sites
hppr Posted September 17, 2013 Share Posted September 17, 2013 You're a pretty handsome young dude just shave whatever that is off your chin/lower jaw and do something with your hair, maybe gel/spike it or shave it. Then get some decent clothes don't leave the house dressed like that. Try a button up T shirt, faded jeans, nice shoes (you're english right? so maybe Doc Martens) cologne and some sunglasses. Then just go talk to girls and be friendly, if the conversation seems to be going well then invite them someplace fun. Also stop with all the nightmare talk etc. You are a 20 year old guy you are just getting started don't worry about all that crap. Link to post Share on other sites
ScreamingTrees Posted September 17, 2013 Share Posted September 17, 2013 How are they going to know that you were overweight in the past? Besides that, there's nothing wrong, bro, probably just bad luck and your SA holding you back. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr.Mango Posted September 18, 2013 Share Posted September 18, 2013 In all honesty, you're probably just experiencing a bad stroke of luck. There are plenty of decent guys walking around who on paper shouldn't have any trouble finding a date (or girlfriend), but because of uncontrollable variables (life basically) things aren't panning out. Don't let it get you down. Best you just become content being yourself, by yourself. Or you can spend your whole life wondering how to shape yourself to the rest of the world, often in vain towards how you feel yourself. If you feel good about yourself and a girl wants to accept you as is, great, if not, their loss. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ed the 3rd Posted September 21, 2013 Author Share Posted September 21, 2013 You're a pretty handsome young dude just shave whatever that is off your chin/lower jaw and do something with your hair, maybe gel/spike it or shave it. Then get some decent clothes don't leave the house dressed like that. Try a button up T shirt, faded jeans, nice shoes (you're english right? so maybe Doc Martens) cologne and some sunglasses. Then just go talk to girls and be friendly, if the conversation seems to be going well then invite them someplace fun. Also stop with all the nightmare talk etc. You are a 20 year old guy you are just getting started don't worry about all that crap. Sorry i usually don't get that bad but the circumstances were pretty hellish. It takes a LOT to reduce me to that. This was actually after a gym session so I'm just wearing my gym kit. I did need a shave and I'm thinking of things to do with my hair. Usually it looks far better but it was after a gym session. Thanks for your input. Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted September 21, 2013 Share Posted September 21, 2013 OP, you're not unlucky... just male. Link to post Share on other sites
ScreamingTrees Posted September 21, 2013 Share Posted September 21, 2013 Sorry i usually don't get that bad but the circumstances were pretty hellish. It takes a LOT to reduce me to that. This was actually after a gym session so I'm just wearing my gym kit. I did need a shave and I'm thinking of things to do with my hair. Usually it looks far better but it was after a gym session. Thanks for your input. Reduce you to what? Average casual clothes? I wear comfortable **** like that all of the time, what exactly about it makes you look bad? Link to post Share on other sites
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted September 21, 2013 Share Posted September 21, 2013 I'm nearly 20 and have never had a GF. Every girl I've asked out in college has had a boyfriend which makes me feel like crap. What I am doing wrong here? I'm smart, have a sense of humor, doing a sports/sports science course and I look like this https://fbcdn-sphotos-g-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/1006030_10151742632123954_1401743915_n.jpg Did I mention I can cook? What is it? Is it because I meant to a boys school? Is it because a year ago I used to be 17 stone? is it that girls can tell I have SA even though I display enough confidence to talk to them and ask if they are available day 1? Is it because I don't have a car and my own house at 19 (god forbid its that) is it because I'm not on the college football team!? Or am I just morbidly unlucky? Yes I could of got one if i didn't have any standards but if the rest of my college course can get a girl they actually find attractive I'm be damned if I have to settle for less just because I drew the short straw or some bs. You're a good looking guy (no homo lol). If I met you in person, I would assume that you get girls. When I was your age, I lived at home and went to school too. I also did a lot of drugs in high school as well (this is actually a turn-on for many women). I was never on a football team during dating age, I'm short, and, until recently, only rarely ever worked out. I still did well with women. Do you approach a lot? Where do you approach women? How's your social status? Do you hang out with other guys that get girls? What kind of girls do you go for (are they intelligent? same or varying ethnicities?)? All of this will play a factor in your success. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ed the 3rd Posted September 22, 2013 Author Share Posted September 22, 2013 Reduce you to what? Average casual clothes? I wear comfortable **** like that all of the time, what exactly about it makes you look bad? I made a post to try and relieve some of the feelings I had at the time. I don't normally think like that but I was sick and stuck at home and literally all I could so was think about my insecurities. I don't really have a problem with my gym clothes. What they lack in fashion they make up by showing my muscles. Link to post Share on other sites
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