nescafe1982 Posted September 17, 2013 Share Posted September 17, 2013 Mmmmmmmm.......dido...and I am man for the record! A man of excellent taste, to be sure. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted September 17, 2013 Share Posted September 17, 2013 Your weight and body size are absolutely fine, even great, you are delusional, no reason to feel bad about your figure. Don't worry about this at all, Jeez!!! Link to post Share on other sites
nescafe1982 Posted September 17, 2013 Share Posted September 17, 2013 Did anyone else think about Sir Mix-a-Lot when OP described her measurements? No? Just me? Alright then. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author waiting4u Posted September 17, 2013 Author Share Posted September 17, 2013 Okay, I am thoroughly embarrassed about my body image issues. Now who is Sir Mix-a-Lot? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted September 17, 2013 Share Posted September 17, 2013 He likes large rear-ends and is truthful. Friends and possibly male relatives who share the same mother as he cannot dispute this fact. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
emva07 Posted September 17, 2013 Share Posted September 17, 2013 (edited) size (within reason) isn't as important as proportions. There are girls that are big and sloppy and there are girls who are big but have that curvy waist. MEN desire that hip to waist ratio more than they do size. Boys will only go for skinny minnies because that's what all the other boys like and what the models look like. Even though they are secretly lusting over the girls with a little more meat on their bones and are too embarrassed to go for it. Edited September 17, 2013 by emva07 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author waiting4u Posted September 17, 2013 Author Share Posted September 17, 2013 Okay 9122013. Got it. Although I have no idea what else I'm going to talk about now. Don't worry, I save my insecurities for you guys. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
nescafe1982 Posted September 17, 2013 Share Posted September 17, 2013 Sir Mix-a-Lot is a radical feminist voice artist who wants us all to know that the ladies' magazines (and in particular, Cosmopolitan) disseminate negative body images that young women then internalize, destroying their self-image in pursuit of a svelte, Jane Fonda-esque physique. He argues adroitly that he disagrees with the current zeitgeist that privileges a definition of beauty as thinness. This malevolent discourse, he concludes, simultaneously marginalizes his own preference for a feminine curviness that invokes a carnal (and more natural) human passion. I think the word he uses is "sticking." 4 Link to post Share on other sites
nescafe1982 Posted September 17, 2013 Share Posted September 17, 2013 (edited) Yes, in all seriousness OP, I don't think you need to hide your insecurities. Wouldn't the better thing be to work through them and build some genuine, honest-to-God confidence? No short order, to be sure. For me it's been a long-term struggle... I might be wrestling with my insecurities still when I'm old and grey! But I think it's important to face stuff like this head on, rather than seeking approval, hiding the insecurities away, or otherwise evading the problem. Work towards resolving these insecurities... in the meantime you will gain confidence and an more empowered take on the dating scene. You go running, for instance. That's excellent! If you would like to change it up a bit and get some more tone, mix in some cross-training. Work on what you can change, but don't fixate on what you cannot. Discard the notion that your looks (whether body or face) will be the money-maker when it comes to men, though. It's a disempowering idea and it sucks, frankly, that it's such a mainstream notion. I'm convinced that attitude, paired with a nice lipstick, will get any woman where she wants to go man-wise. Big or small, sultry or plain. Edited September 17, 2013 by nescafe1982 3 Link to post Share on other sites
TheGuard13 Posted September 17, 2013 Share Posted September 17, 2013 I think most men would rather have a thick, pretty girl than a skinny ugly one. You certainly do not have to be "tiny" for most men to be attracted to or turned on by you. You just need some curves and to be well toned. Link to post Share on other sites
BradJacobs Posted September 17, 2013 Share Posted September 17, 2013 I haven't seen too may face trainwrecks with skinny ankles and waists. And the 10 pounds depends on your figure. If you're 5'8 it's less noticeable than 5'1. Still if you said fit, I'd be expecting fit ...as in works out... not soft. Link to post Share on other sites
MalachiX Posted September 17, 2013 Share Posted September 17, 2013 Face always wins out but, just like body, this is totally subjective. I think the real important thing is honesty. If your pictures online give the impression that you have a different body type than you do; this can cause problems no matter how beautiful you are. This is hardly a male-only issue as I've heard countless women complain about misleading picture in OLD. If your pictures are honest then you shouldn't have anything to worry about. Link to post Share on other sites
Phantom888 Posted September 17, 2013 Share Posted September 17, 2013 You have a lovely figure. Why would you even feel insecure about it? If you have a good personality on top of it, I don't think you need to worry at all...ever. Link to post Share on other sites
mesmerized Posted September 18, 2013 Share Posted September 18, 2013 Yeah, I think they call that "banana" shaped - I'm 36-28-36 (grrr) but hey - at least we've got boobs. That measurement is pretty good. You sound silly honestly thinking there is something wrong with your body because of this. And yes, a pretty face goes a loooong way with men. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted September 18, 2013 Share Posted September 18, 2013 A banana is fatter in the middle than at either end. Link to post Share on other sites
crederer Posted September 18, 2013 Share Posted September 18, 2013 (edited) Honestly, personality and confidence is better than any of it, for me at least. Also, to add to it, "when a lady strolls into the room with a small circumference of a waist, and a globe like bottom in close proximity to your skull, it is erection inducing". Edited September 18, 2013 by crederer 2 Link to post Share on other sites
charlietheginger Posted September 18, 2013 Share Posted September 18, 2013 Has to have a cute pretty face.... Im not talking supermodel . i find the strangest things attractive a crooked tooth can be sexy , some scarring from teenage acne i find it kinda hot on some women, a scar on the face can be sexy . i perfer meaty women they look younger. skinny women look older filled out women are nicer to snuggle with , have sex with and wrap your arms around Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted September 18, 2013 Share Posted September 18, 2013 A face goes a long way as long as your body is passable. Yours sounds more than passable Link to post Share on other sites
fujidabruin Posted September 18, 2013 Share Posted September 18, 2013 I've got a date tonight for the first time since I've been on OLD and I'm a bit nervous so of course all my insecurities are coming out. I can by shy in social situations generally, so it's not the guy, it's more the whole concept of dating and worrying about how I'll be perceived. I've put on about 10 pounds since the last time I was dating and I wonder if I'm still as attractive. I've got mostly face shots on OLD from 10 pounds ago. I don't want to be one of THOSE women who claims they are thinner than they are. So, my question is - I've been told my face and hair are really pretty, and I described my body type as "fit." What looks fit to you? My stomach is flat, but my waist is not tiny. I wear a US size 4/6 (Jeans 27/28) and my boobs, butt and thighs are bigger than they used to be. I run/walk about 20 miles a week and eat healthy. If I'm "fit" am I supposed to show up with a smokin' hot body? And if my face is pretty, does the other stuff not matter as much? I am always amazed at how so many really pretty women are insecure because they do not have the "swimsuit model" body. I will attest that if you have initial chemistry with your date and they are engaged with your (what appears to me to be) pretty face and eyes, they will desire your body as well. If not, then you are probably just worrying about some shallow guy that has no interest in your character... Just my guess, but I assume that you are looking for more? I have dated a couple of women who did have that swimsuit model body and even though there was some sexual chemistry, something was definitely lacking in both cases. It is interesting to note that both these women had insecurities about facial features even though they were both quite pretty. I have had much more sexual desire in relationships where the women had what I would consider average type bodies but they were comfortable about it. In fact, my current girlfriend has struggled with weight issues most of her life and now at 39 she is finally comfortable at 5' 8" and 165. She is very flat chested, a 30 inch waist and 38 inch hips and I love her body. I also love her beautiful "Candace Bergen like" face and sparkling blue-grey eyes. BTW... our chemistry is off the charts!!! So, I guess my point is there are always little things that can make you insecure, but it is sexy to just be comfortable with what you have. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Babolat Posted September 18, 2013 Share Posted September 18, 2013 MEN desire that hip to waist ratio more than they do size. Yes! Absolutely! Link to post Share on other sites
1ewey Posted September 18, 2013 Share Posted September 18, 2013 You sound fine to me. But every guy is different. I'm not really in to super fit girls. I find it to be kinda gross. I think women are meant to be a little soft. And the majority of the girls i have dated had a stomach that stuck out a bit. I think its kinda normal for girls to have a little bit more fat then guys unless they work out A LOT. But every guy is different. I have friends who will only date girls who look like twigs. Nobody can tell you what that guys preference will be. Link to post Share on other sites
crederer Posted September 19, 2013 Share Posted September 19, 2013 I am always amazed at how so many really pretty women are insecure because they do not have the "swimsuit model" body. I will attest that if you have initial chemistry with your date and they are engaged with your (what appears to me to be) pretty face and eyes, they will desire your body as well. If not, then you are probably just worrying about some shallow guy that has no interest in your character... Just my guess, but I assume that you are looking for more? I have dated a couple of women who did have that swimsuit model body and even though there was some sexual chemistry, something was definitely lacking in both cases. It is interesting to note that both these women had insecurities about facial features even though they were both quite pretty. I have had much more sexual desire in relationships where the women had what I would consider average type bodies but they were comfortable about it. In fact, my current girlfriend has struggled with weight issues most of her life and now at 39 she is finally comfortable at 5' 8" and 165. She is very flat chested, a 30 inch waist and 38 inch hips and I love her body. I also love her beautiful "Candace Bergen like" face and sparkling blue-grey eyes. BTW... our chemistry is off the charts!!! So, I guess my point is there are always little things that can make you insecure, but it is sexy to just be comfortable with what you have. In my personal experience, the most attractive girls I know/dated have the biggest insecurity issues with their physical appearance. I don't really know why this is. It might be that they feel this is all they have to offer, therefore it has to be perfect, while the less attractive ones know that they have other things to offer other than their looks....I dunno.......but it is a common theme. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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