Why i have low self esteem || im ugly

[LowEsteem]

im not sure if this is the right section.. if it isnt have a moderator move to the right section please...

 

okay to start off my story, im not doing this for attention at all.

 

okay so... i've always been awkward, and shy, and i've been played and lied to by girls and they normally call me the word "ugly". i cant lie i am a judgemental person to, but i dont lead girls on nor will i tell them they are ugly. im a human being. anyway, people have been saying it alot recently, and its really getting to me, like alot.. i feel like i have no life in me, i feel like i gotta do everything just to perfect myself, i feel as if i am not attractive... and a bit lifeless. i always thought my standards were to high, or i just have no game whatsoever.

 

im just asking for opinions and tips

 

opinions on my story and if im ugly : link to picture (Link removed by moderator)

 

and tips for spitting "game".

 

thanks for all who post...

Edited September 17, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Philosoraptor]

Anyone who would call anyone a degrading name is someone you should be lucky you're not with to begin with. That screams all kinds of disrespect and immaturity.

 

You have low self esteem because you are basing your self worth on what others think of you. You need to fix this before you can work on your self esteem.

[RiceaRoni]

My dear,

You have low self esteem because you let yourself believe what others tell you.

 

I'll give you an example of higher self esteem:

I've always been made fun of for my nose, because it isn't cute and small like other girls and you know what it never really bothered me...I guess I have my dad to Thank for that. Because he would tell me the same "Shannon, you have a big nose" "Oh Yeah dad? Thanks I love it, I got it from you btw so guess going have one too" and he does this because he knows my self esteem is high and that I don't care what others tell me or what others have said about me. Guys tell me I'm too tall for a woman, when really they're just too short. You just gotta have faith in yourself and accept your traits, accept who you are.

 

Someone calls you ugly, ignore them or make a witty comeback so they look like the fool for trying to put someone down. You are your own warrior and you have to sometimes fight for yourself or just not care.

 

I highly doubt you're ugly. You aren't even close.

No one is ugly. And anyone willing to call someone that shouldn't even belong in your life let alone let their opinions and poor judgement of you phase you.

[RiceaRoni]

And as for "spitting game"

 

I've honestly never liked any men who have told me they "spit game" is that suppose to impress me? That you could get and pick up chicks?

 

it's nothing to woo over I'll tell you that.

 

Don't worry about the ladies my dear, they will come, but only if you have high self esteem in yourself and let yourself believe that you are great just the way you are.

 

When you radiate confidence in yourself and let others see how others opinions of your traits don't bother you, you will be looked up to, and a nice girl will see that and notice it and actually be attracted to a guy with confidence.

 

Aside the girls though, work on yourself first, learn to love yourself.

[hppr]

I know what you mean that was basically the story of my life throughout high school and part of college. Really it is about being 'homogenous', dressing like the other guys dress, doing what they do, acting like they act. If you aren't 'homogenous' then you are going to stick out and be made fun of, and if you are unassertive then they will keep making fun of you because let's face it, you let them do it. And once you are pigeonholed into being the 'nice, dorky, guy' then that is it you are ****ed until college at which time you can re-invent yourself.