renouf Posted November 22, 2004 Share Posted November 22, 2004 I am still in love with my ex who broke up with me 2 months ago. We had been together 5 years. She has started to date someone she works with. He's 24 and she is 18. I'm 19. Nothing seems to work to get her back to me. I know she has started to develop feelings for this guy, and it really hurts. My question is this: I thought about contacting the guy shes seeing, in a very nice way, not mean at all. I'm thinking about telling him about how much I really love her, and that she really does mean the world to me. I was thinking that since he's 24, he must have gone through a heart break at some point in his life, and maybe he will understand and lay off her a little. But should I do this or not? I don't want to make things worse, and if I were to contact him, I woulden't be rude at all, I'd try and be friendly. What do you think? Link to post Share on other sites
Think too much Posted November 22, 2004 Share Posted November 22, 2004 I don't think that's a very good idea. I know it hurts to have someone you love move on. Let her go. If you love her and you have expressed this to her than you have done all you can. You can't control who loves you or who wants to be in your life. You won't accomplish anything by going to her new bf. Try to work on finding closure. Link to post Share on other sites
Puma Posted November 24, 2004 Share Posted November 24, 2004 bad bad bad idea! in you doing so..hes gonna tell her and shes just gonna get pissed and there..ya ruined ur chances at ever gettin back with her at all. is that what you want? then go ahead. i think you should take some time to think about stuff, and focus on ur needs right now..and dont say shes one of them..cause shes not a need. u may think ur being mature by callin him and tellin him to back off nicely..haha but if someone told me that..hell id laugh and even try harder to go out with the girl just cause its silly that someone was tellin me to back off in the first place. if you tell him that..all ur doin is feedin more fire to her wanting to be with him. theres really nothin you can do buddy and ya gonna have to accept taht or learn the hard way. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted November 24, 2004 Share Posted November 24, 2004 Don't do it. You will regret it.. This isn't your decision to make.. and I know that hurts.. She has made the decision to move on and honestly it isn't about the guy she is now with.. it's about what SHE has decided to do. Trust me when I tell you that this guy isn't going to be sympathetic to your cause here.. and he will tell your EX what you did.. then as Puma said, she is going to be angry with you for overstepping your bounds. Sorry.. Link to post Share on other sites
pancakepalace Posted November 24, 2004 Share Posted November 24, 2004 NEVER DO THIS!!!!! Never try to get back with an ex by going to someone else be it his/her parents, friends...Especially not her new boyfriend. This would be unrespectful and rude! Why? Because she has made a decision and you must respect that. If you go to her boyfriend then you are on her turf and passing the boundaries. What the hell do you expect him to say anyhow? (You're right Mr. Renouf, I don't love her as much as you?!). If you call this guy you are shooting yourself in the foot with a homemade bazooka. Iv'e been reading these threads in detail for the past month and I must say this is the WORST idea for a second chance I have seen so far. Get a grip on yourself. You have to love yourself and have respect for yourself. If she doesn't love you you must move on. That's all. - - - If you do decide to pull off this dangerous stunt, please post and let us know what happened. Title it something like 'Freakish experiment results' Wow...still can't believe this?!? pel Link to post Share on other sites
DacaInaru Posted November 24, 2004 Share Posted November 24, 2004 I have to agree with everyone here... My ex husband did this to me.. first he started with my divorce lawyer tell her that I was confused and being forced by my family to divorce him, he went around to my family friends in an attempt to plead his case.Even went so far as offering my sister money to force me to take him back.. he's from bangladesh so this is a common occurance in his country.. anyway. when that didn't work he attempt to contact my employer, then my daughter's father.. and so forth.. finally I ended up having to contact the police. When he saw that all else failed he then proceeded to attempt to alienate everyone I knew so that I would have no one in the world but him.. All this continued until a year after our divorce and almost two years after are seperation. It was riduculous.. lets just say because of this If I saw him laying on the street bleeding to death i'd walk right on by.. so my suggestion is don't do it unless you want your ex to learn to hate your guts and you end up getting a visit from the police for harrassment.. Link to post Share on other sites
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