Boyfriend's sexual addiction (porn, sextoys and secrets)

[myfairyking]

It really bothers me (like, a lot)

He's bought porn (i mean seriously, who's stupid enough to do that?!), had a porn collection and bought a sex toy (and expensive one; after promising he wouldn't) and didn't tell me for months (he told me he wasn't planning on telling me)

 

He said that he's gotten rid of his porn collection and that the sex toy thing will never happen again but he really ruined my ability to trust him (and i can only take his word that he's going to change)

 

I really can't get over the fact he's that kind of person and the lies hurt most of all. I'm worried I'll never be able to let this go and will never be able to trust him (we've gone down hill a lot since this happened and I can't help but blame him for it.)

How am I supposed to move on from this?

[Philosoraptor]

This along with the fact that you're a closeted bisexual and he's a homophobe? Why are you still with him if you can't be your true self and you can't trust him?

[MidwestUSA]

Did you have an agreement about porn? That he wouldn't watch/purchase it? (Agree, purchasing is stupid when you can get it for free)

 

Lots of people use sex toys to enhance their lives. Why is that a problem for you? Because it was expensive?

 

 

I'm having trouble figuring out whether this is about money or a difference in beliefs regarding porn/sex toys.

[Keenly]

Sounds like an insecurity issue.

[SuperGeek]

What is so wrong with a man having a sex toy? Women have had vibrators for years? Why are men considered pervs if they have one too?

 

Do this man a favour and break up with him. He deserves a woman who doesn't have hangups about sex.