healing process

[RiceaRoni]

My mother has a saying (out of many) that applies to this such proposition:

 

"Either you're an idiot or you think I'm an idiot. Which one is it?" jk.

 

Joke aside, you are in a great place and that is so good to see. Ah, the satisfaction of refusal. Good job, strong girl!

 

Lol good joke x)

 

and thanks Lindsay! I hope all is well for you.

[RiceaRoni]

So on my blog last night...it was terrible..

 

Before last night I decided to unblock my ex and let him follow me (the one that currently left)

 

because I felt I was getting over him and just didn't care anymore..

 

So a couple of days before last night...I break nc and message him.

 

He was totally depressed and wanting to kill himself and said he hated himself, etc...so I tried helping him (I care that much)

 

The next day I asked him how he was feeling and he never responded so I had just shrugged it off and deleted the messages...

 

Well last night...on his blog I guess he went to go visit that girl he's been seeing (he got with her a week after he left me) because I saw pictures of them....in his bed...taking cute pictures... the same ones we took...and I just sat there like "wow"

 

I was confused because here's a guy who hates himself and is practically unhappy and depressed and yet he's with this girl who claims to now love, etc...and I'm like how?

 

I dunno... he had stopped texting me after I tried helping him days later..so I said forget him and unfollowed him and blocked him completely and then went to sleep for the night..

 

I then get a text at 2am..

 

He finally responds to that question of me asking him if he was okay that I sent days ago..his response: Oh yeah better, much better.

 

I was pissed. He did this on purpose. I feel like he's doing this out of spite.

 

I just deleted the text and went back to sleep...then I get sent another one: did you unfollow me because of the pictures I posted?

 

again I just deleted it...I'm tired of this guy..and it was my mistake to unblock him and break NC... lesson learned for Rice.

[JoelBarish]

So on my blog last night...it was terrible..

 

Before last night I decided to unblock my ex and let him follow me (the one that currently left)

 

because I felt I was getting over him and just didn't care anymore..

 

So a couple of days before last night...I break nc and message him.

 

He was totally depressed and wanting to kill himself and said he hated himself, etc...so I tried helping him (I care that much)

 

The next day I asked him how he was feeling and he never responded so I had just shrugged it off and deleted the messages...

 

Well last night...on his blog I guess he went to go visit that girl he's been seeing (he got with her a week after he left me) because I saw pictures of them....in his bed...taking cute pictures... the same ones we took...and I just sat there like "wow"

 

I was confused because here's a guy who hates himself and is practically unhappy and depressed and yet he's with this girl who claims to now love, etc...and I'm like how?

 

I dunno... he had stopped texting me after I tried helping him days later..so I said forget him and unfollowed him and blocked him completely and then went to sleep for the night..

 

I then get a text at 2am..

 

He finally responds to that question of me asking him if he was okay that I sent days ago..his response: Oh yeah better, much better.

 

I was pissed. He did this on purpose. I feel like he's doing this out of spite.

 

I just deleted the text and went back to sleep...then I get sent another one: did you unfollow me because of the pictures I posted?

 

again I just deleted it...I'm tired of this guy..and it was my mistake to unblock him and break NC... lesson learned for Rice.

 

Yes, lesson learned. Another example of why having emotional history with someone can complicate things (and hurt)

[RiceaRoni]

Yes, lesson learned. Another example of why having emotional history with someone can complicate things (and hurt)

 

yeah..you're right..

 

now he wont stop texting me again..

 

he said "Oh so you're ignoring me now?"

 

"you dont want to see me happy. the first time ive posted myself being happy in a while and you dont want to see it"

 

it's like why would I?

 

You left me and now you have a new beau and you want me to see it because you're happy now? Finding your happiness in another girl makes you happy?

 

Like get a hold of yourself and stop being a d*** to me.

 

You're obviously not happy with yourself and you want me to see it, why?

 

Why do you care if I see it or not? Do you want me to be happy for you? Do you want me to comment on how cute you two look together? because I won't...that's low..

 

I haven't said anything, but I'm about to go off...

Edited October 2, 2013 by RiceaRoni

[RiceaRoni]

idk what to do anymore...

 

It's taking a toll on me, and I'm tired...

 

he's so selfish...and only cares about how he feels, but fails to realize how I feel towards all of this...

 

He wants to shove how happy he is in my face, and I don't know why, when he left me..

Edited October 2, 2013 by RiceaRoni

[AnyaNova]

The answer is obvious. (To an outside party at least). To convince himself.

[JoelBarish]

idk what to do anymore...

 

It's taking a toll on me, and I'm tired...

 

he's so selfish...and only cares about how he feels, but fails to realize how I feel towards all of this...

 

He wants to shove how happy he is in my face, and I don't know why, when he left me..

 

He's just playing games now...

[RiceaRoni]

He is...

 

Should I even bother to say anything back?

 

or just keep on ignoring him?

[JoelBarish]

It depends. If my ex was messing with me I know I would get pretty upset. On the other hand, I must admit, I would enjoy ignoring my ex the same way I was ignored...

[RiceaRoni]

Yeah..

I'm just really irritated..

 

He and she both have rushed into a relationship.

 

In only a week they're boyfriend and girlfriend sleeping with one another and what not...him claiming she's the love of his life, etc..

 

And I'm so infuriated with what he sent me..

 

I'm tempted to reply with this:

 

"Can you for once not be selfish and think about other's feelings before your own? Holy crap man.

I don't care. Is me seeing you happy suppose to mean something? "

 

For him it's all about Me Me Me.

 

A friend of mine just told me to tell him the same thing she told him, to GTFO and to F off..

 

Because he was starting to harass her with text messages.

[JoelBarish]

Yeah..

I'm just really irritated..

 

He and she both have rushed into a relationship.

 

In only a week they're boyfriend and girlfriend sleeping with one another and what not...him claiming she's the love of his life, etc..

 

And I'm so infuriated with what he sent me..

 

I'm tempted to reply with this:

 

"Can you for once not be selfish and think about other's feelings before your own? Holy crap man.

I don't care. Is me seeing you happy suppose to mean something? "

 

For him it's all about Me Me Me.

 

A friend of mine just told me to tell him the same thing she told him, to GTFO and to F off..

 

Because he was starting to harass her with text messages.

 

You should do what you feel is right and then get back to NC. All of this that is bothering you, you wouldn't even know about if you kept NC. As someone told me a few days ago "ignorance is bliss".

[RiceaRoni]

You should do what you feel is right and then get back to NC. All of this that is bothering you, you wouldn't even know about if you kept NC. As someone told me a few days ago "ignorance is bliss".

 

ahaha I see what you did there

 

You're right though J (:

 

Thank you.

 

I'm just going to stay NC again.

 

Keep him blocked and unfollowed, and move on completely..

 

However tempted I am to chew him out, it's best I just leave it alone...

[RiceaRoni]

He keeps at it...

[JoelBarish]

He keeps at it...

 

Texting? Is it upsetting you?

[RiceaRoni]

Texting? Is it upsetting you?

 

Yeah...he keeps doing it.

 

No...I'm just tired...I've just been ignoring his texts...

 

I don't even have the motivation to be upset..I just dont want to know why he wants to talk to me...there's no reason.

[JoelBarish]

Yeah...he keeps doing it.

 

No...I'm just tired...I've just been ignoring his texts...

 

I don't even have the motivation to be upset..I just dont want to know why he wants to talk to me...there's no reason.

 

 

The way I see it you have 2 choices...

 

1. Keep NC. Just ignore him until he burns himself out. It might even be good for a laugh to see how pathetic he really can get.

 

2. Tell him to stop. Don't tell him off. If you get emotional and tell him off he will think he got under your skin. Just be icy and indifferent. "We have nothing more to talk about. Stop contacting me. Goodbye".

 

What do you think?

[AnyaNova]

I know it has to be your decision, Ricearoni, but I think number one could be lots of fun. It might really help get you over him fast, to find out how truly pathetic he is and how desperately he needs your attention to feed off of!

[RiceaRoni]

haha yeah...

 

I'm going to just go with number 1.

 

He's stopped already, but who knows if he'll continue again.

 

I'm just happy to be moving on...this set back hasn't hindered much, it was just a nuisance..

 

Thanks for the options too J! It helped me out

 

I don't think I'll have to resort to number 2...hopefully.

[RiceaRoni]

Sure enough he texted me again at 2am..

 

He said since I'm not talking to him now he wants his stuffed animal he had given me back by tomorrow. He'll be expecting it by then and that I can drop it off at his house when I felt like it, but preferably by tomorrow.

 

What a pain...

 

And I don't now what to do..

 

He hadn't given me the stuffed animal as a gift per say, but more of like to borrow it.

 

What do I do guys? :/

[RiceaRoni]

He says he doesn't like how I'm magically ignoring him now.

 

And that since I'm not talking to him he wants it back. Like asap...

 

Should I just see what the heck he wants?

 

hes already upset as it is..

[Fufu]

I hope I'm not getting this wrong.

 

He wants back the stuffed animal that he gave you? What?!

 

and just saw your first page of this thread, he blocked your in facebook and still continue to sms you. Don't walk into it.

[RiceaRoni]

I hope I'm not getting this wrong.

 

He wants back the stuffed animal that he gave you? What?!

 

and just saw your first page of this thread, he blocked your in facebook and still continue to sms you. Don't walk into it.

 

 

He gave it to me and had told me I couldn't technically "keep" it. Except for the time being.

 

Now since I've started ignoring him again, and we arent together anymore he wants it back..

 

His exact words "okay I'm not happy you've magically started ignoring me"

 

"Since you're going to ignore me and not talk to me I want my stuffed animal back when you can bring it, but I expect to see it tomorrow"

 

I honestly don't know why he wants to talk to me when he has a new girlfriend already.

 

He's already upset I unfollowed him on his blog and demands to know why I don't want to see him happy.

[Fufu]

He gave it to me and had told me I couldn't technically "keep" it. Except for the time being.

 

Now since I've started ignoring him again, and we arent together anymore he wants it back..

 

His exact words "okay I'm not happy you've magically started ignoring me"

 

"Since you're going to ignore me and not talk to me I want my stuffed animal back when you can bring it, but I expect to see it tomorrow"

 

I honestly don't know why he wants to talk to me when he has a new girlfriend already.

 

He's already upset I unfollowed him on his blog and demands to know why I don't want to see him happy.

 

 

Is that stuffed animal so special to him? To me, if he has given you and he already has a new gf, it's super annoying he is still contacting you.

[JoelBarish]

Really? A stuffed animal? Talk about childish and petty. Do you REALLY want to know what he wants to talk about? If you think it's worth your time you could ask him. Another alternative would be to get someone you know to take the stuffed critter to him and be done with it. Just protect your heart no matter what you do. That should be rule #1.

[RiceaRoni]

Really? A stuffed animal? Talk about childish and petty. Do you REALLY want to know what he wants to talk about? If you think it's worth your time you could ask him. Another alternative would be to get someone you know to take the stuffed critter to him and be done with it. Just protect your heart no matter what you do. That should be rule #1.

 

yeah I dunno why it's so important for him to have it back.

 

No I honestly really don't want to know what he has to say, nor do I care.

 

And I think I will do that alternative...I just want to be over and done with this...I owe him nothing, and I don't know why he continues to talk to me, and why he's even upset over the fact I'm ignoring him...he has a gf he should be spending time talking to her...not me.

 

I don't know why he needs his happiness to be acknowledged by me either..he's upset I'm not seeing him happy, which tells me he has low self esteem if he has to have my validation or attention to his "happiness".