Minneloa Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 yeah I dunno why it's so important for him to have it back. No I honestly really don't want to know what he has to say, nor do I care. And I think I will do that alternative...I just want to be over and done with this...I owe him nothing, and I don't know why he continues to talk to me, and why he's even upset over the fact I'm ignoring him...he has a gf he should be spending time talking to her...not me. I don't know why he needs his happiness to be acknowledged by me either..he's upset I'm not seeing him happy, which tells me he has low self esteem if he has to have my validation or attention to his "happiness". Hi RR, It sounds like you are getting caught up in the breaking contact nightmare loop. It doesn't ultimately matter why he continues to talk to you. since he is only upsetting you further. The problem, as I see it, is that you are allowing him to continue to contact you. Take control of the situation, sister! BLOCK HIM! M. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RiceaRoni Posted October 3, 2013 Author Share Posted October 3, 2013 Alright (: I need to figure out the blocking device on my phone. I even got a a call from him...and didn't answer.. He left a voicemail saying he needs to talk to me because it's very important and he also says he doesn't like how things have been going the past few days with me ignoring him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RiceaRoni Posted October 3, 2013 Author Share Posted October 3, 2013 He also texted afterwards "And if you're going to put a restraining order on me for wanting my stuffed animal back then that's just silly" In my mind I'm like...it's silly for you to be obsessing over a stuffed animal you had practically given me... Link to post Share on other sites
JoelBarish Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 He also texted afterwards "And if you're going to put a restraining order on me for wanting my stuffed animal back then that's just silly" In my mind I'm like...it's silly for you to be obsessing over a stuffed animal you had practically given me... If he thinks you are getting to the point of putting a restraining order on him maybe he is starting to figure out what a pest he is being. Remember when I said he would burn himself out and you might get a laugh from his antics? Well what do you think? Is he so pathetic he's funny or is it getting creepy? Hope you send the stuffed animal back soon, heck you could even do UPS 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RiceaRoni Posted October 3, 2013 Author Share Posted October 3, 2013 If he thinks you are getting to the point of putting a restraining order on him maybe he is starting to figure out what a pest he is being. Remember when I said he would burn himself out and you might get a laugh from his antics? Well what do you think? Is he so pathetic he's funny or is it getting creepy? Hope you send the stuffed animal back soon, heck you could even do UPS Yeah..I think so too. One of my friends has been trying to help me out. She told him he needs to leave me alone and stop bothering me. I'm just finding it to be pretty creepy.. Considering another fact that the friend whos been helping me has seen his blog and says he's been ranting and that he knows my IP address and where I live and stuff.. I don't know if I should tell my parents..I'm trying to do this all on my own and it's getting a bit overwhelming. I think I'm going to ask my dad to drop it off for me. To just leave it at his front door...his precious stuffed animal..not even sure as to why it's so important to him.. Think I should tell my parents about this? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JoelBarish Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 Yes, I would tell mine if I were you. You need support in this. Don't let him bully you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RiceaRoni Posted October 4, 2013 Author Share Posted October 4, 2013 Yes, I would tell mine if I were you. You need support in this. Don't let him bully you. I told my dad everything.. From the calls, voicemail, text messages, blog notifications, how he's been able to track my ip address. My dad is about ready to set a restraining order against him and call his job... But we're going to hold off a bit and see if he still continues to persist. I've blocked my ip address so he can't track it anymore and my friend is on stand by to help me out if I do decide to put a restraining order against him. My dad is also going to be the one to drop off his stuffed animal so I don't have to go and run the risk of him trying to talk to me. It's been a hectic day for me... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lindsay1990 Posted October 4, 2013 Share Posted October 4, 2013 This is crazy. I don't think your dad should take it, you should just mail it. I am surprised at the shameless but amateur manipulation of this dude, all for a stuffed animal. Also, how petty. I think that right after you mail the animal you should just send a quick test with the UPS tracking number, saying STUFFED ANIMAL MAILED UPS #XXXXX. I DON'T WANT TO SPEAK WITH YOU, I WANT TO BE LEFT ALONE. PLEASE DO NOT CONTACT ME IN ANY WAY OR FORM. EVER. FOR NO REASON. OTHERWISE I WILL GO TO THE AUTHORITIES. Seriously, it is not immature. It is a legitimate warning that could not be any clearer. Good luck. And yes you did good telling your dad. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lindsay1990 Posted October 4, 2013 Share Posted October 4, 2013 And keep track of every contact, and if after a week he is still doing it just go the police. Also, might want to write instead of "I WILL CONTACT THE AUTHORITIES", "MY PARENTS AND I WILL CONTACT THE AUTHORITIES". Whatever at this point. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JoelBarish Posted October 4, 2013 Share Posted October 4, 2013 Unbelievable how quickly he went from a pest to genuinely scary. Hang in there. It's good that your Dad and your friend are there for support. Hope he gets the message soon and leaves you alone. I am sorry it came to this for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RiceaRoni Posted October 4, 2013 Author Share Posted October 4, 2013 Thanks for your help Joel. And many of the others that have been helping me... It's time to put this nightmare to rest. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JoelBarish Posted October 4, 2013 Share Posted October 4, 2013 I didn't do anything but listen. You are the one that has been in the middle of it all and stayed strong . Maybe this will make it easier to get over the break up now 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RiceaRoni Posted October 4, 2013 Author Share Posted October 4, 2013 I didn't do anything but listen. You are the one that has been in the middle of it all and stayed strong . Maybe this will make it easier to get over the break up now Thanks Joel (: and yeah...I'm way over it now... Just seeing his actions through this has shown me how he really is...his true colors. And how much I wouldn't want him in my life at all..he was and is toxic to me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JoelBarish Posted October 4, 2013 Share Posted October 4, 2013 Thanks Joel (: and yeah...I'm way over it now... Just seeing his actions through this has shown me how he really is...his true colors. And how much I wouldn't want him in my life at all..he was and is toxic to me. Wish my ex would go crazy on me so I could get over her already Link to post Share on other sites
Author RiceaRoni Posted October 4, 2013 Author Share Posted October 4, 2013 Wish my ex would go crazy on me so I could get over her already Oh man... No way lol It's so stressful Dx I'd rather take the pain and the NC over the constant messaging and calls....geez.. I've never been so scared by a guy before.. Link to post Share on other sites
AnyaNova Posted October 4, 2013 Share Posted October 4, 2013 He is threatening you now? That is not cool. That needs to stop immediately. I hope everything works out okay for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RiceaRoni Posted October 5, 2013 Author Share Posted October 5, 2013 He is threatening you now? That is not cool. That needs to stop immediately. I hope everything works out okay for you. He isn't threatening me...more like pestering.. I think everything is over now though... I think after my friend told him she'd tell me to put a restraining order against him he became scared and hasn't contacted me since. I still havent returned the ridiculous plush animal he wants back either...I've had no time to. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JoelBarish Posted October 5, 2013 Share Posted October 5, 2013 I am glad things are going better for you today. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
AnyaNova Posted October 5, 2013 Share Posted October 5, 2013 (edited) It is good that he has not. I would really recommend reading a book called, "the Gift of Fear." In it, the author does a very good job of helping us to understand when we need to listen to our intuition and when we are letting worry run away. But here is the thing. Someone who sends a note filled with all kinds of things they intend to do, is actually not likely to carry them out. Their intent is to scare, and they succeed in their aim with the note. They usually have no further need to act. It is often, he points out, simple statements such as posting that he knows where you live, or that he can't take it anymore, or other things. Perhaps you are right. I hope you are. But don't dismiss it as a threat because he didnt excplicitly claim he would enact violence against you. Maybe my intuition is just off, but something about his extreme insistence upon having your attention, the scary turn he took when he realized he was losing that attention, and the comments that he made strike me as at least possibly a threatening combo. I'm not suggesting precipitous action. Just please promise that you wl be careful and keep yourself safe, but also, don't give into undo worry. If it is not happening to you right now, you are not experiencing true fear (evolution's gift to our survival), you are experiencing worry. If you at all can, read the book. And stay safe. You've got a great life ahead of you free of this nutcase! Edited October 5, 2013 by AnyaNova 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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