Don't want to lose my best male friend

[Lula]

I need some help please.

 

I've got a very good friend who I spend all day talking to on MSN while I'm at work. He has a girlfriend, and we're not involved or anything. That said, I do like him a lot but don't cross the line.

 

Last night I was in the bar with some other friends, and had a bit too much to drink. I thought it would be a good idea to text my friend, with our secret joke word, for a laugh. I sent it to a number which was listed in the phone book as being his and his girlfriend's joint number. I am not listed and I didn't sign my name, I just wrote our word.

 

I don't know WHY I did it, it was an urge I guess. Anyway his GIRLFRIEND got the text and according to my friend was wanting to know who I was and what it all meant, etc. His girlfriend doesn't let him speak to other girls, as friends even. She is the jealous type I guess. So I got a text back later from my friend, asking me to stop texting his girlfriend, as that was her number. OOOOPS!

 

So this morning, when he came on MSN I set to apologizing, and saying I shouldn't have done it and how sorry I was. He responded with something along the lines of that I didn't realize how much trouble I had caused him last nite with her. He's not typing anything anymore. He's gone quiet and it's worse than if he would just vent his anger at me. I've told him how sorry I am and begged forgiveness.

 

I'm such a selfish person I can't bear to lose my friend over this, I'm heartbroken. I'm at an all time low and here is the proof, when I do ridiculous things like I did last night without thinking of the consequences for other people.

 

Any advice would be so appreciated, you guys.

 

Thanks!

[Merin]

Ouch..

 

Well first.. I really do think you crossed the line here.. sorry, but that wasn't a cool thing to do.

 

Secondly.. give him some time to cool off.. you've already said you're sorry so leave him alone for a bit.

Give him a couple of days and perhaps ask him what you can do to make this right..

 

Good Luck

[whichwayisup]

Yup, obviously whatever that 'secret' word was, was enough to upset his girlfriend and him as well. It was a mistake as you didn't know it was her number.

 

If he is your real friend he'll come back around again. Give him some space. Guys don't like to be cornered so back off abit and let him find you. You said sorry, you feel bad about it, so you just have to try hard to let things happen as they may.

 

I do hope he comes around again, but re reading your post again here, she doesn't like him talking to any other girls, she's gonna be watching him like a hawk now.

 

Good luck.