elvega Posted September 19, 2013 Share Posted September 19, 2013 This girl seemed smart, came from money, but told me that her senior year in college she did a lot of cocaine. I'm a reserved kind of guy who wants a partner who only goes to bed with someone they are in relationships with Do you think someone a girl who used a lot of cocaine her senior year in college likely ended up giving late night "sexual favors" for more cocaine when it ran out? Link to post Share on other sites
deni9 Posted September 19, 2013 Share Posted September 19, 2013 Tough question. No one is really going to know the answer to this. You just have to ask her and I don't mean to ask her like you asked on this. Just ask questions that can link to this question. Like how many partners she has been with? how many serious relationships she has been in. Knowing those two answers, can help you figure it out. its not good to assume, but if its going to bother you in the long run if you like this girl, might as well know the truth now, and just end it. If she is smart, she should have respect for herself. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author elvega Posted September 19, 2013 Author Share Posted September 19, 2013 Tough question. No one is really going to know the answer to this. You just have to ask her and I don't mean to ask her like you asked on this. Just ask questions that can link to this question. Like how many partners she has been with? how many serious relationships she has been in. Knowing those to those answers, can help you figure it out. its not good to assume, but if its going to bother you in the long wrong if you like this girl, might as well know the truth now, and just end it. If she is smart, she should have respect for herself. Good luck! I already asked the questions you suggested. But women are so stigmatized about promiscuity. It would be stupid and naïve to expect 100% honesty when you ask about a woman's sexual history. I know how hard a coke withdrawal hits you and my gut instinct tells me that a good looking woman who had that habit would have been taken advantage of in those situations. Doesn't make her a bad person, but likely she made some really stupid decisions that ruin my ability to see any long term potential for a relationship. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LilGirlandOW Posted September 21, 2013 Share Posted September 21, 2013 yeah it is a tough question cause some people can do a couple lines and call it a night, everytime they do it. Others fiend for it after the first line and would sell their soul for the second line. Depends on how she reacts to the drug, something you will never know. Accept its her past and move forward, or dont and move on Link to post Share on other sites
almond Posted September 22, 2013 Share Posted September 22, 2013 I disagree - this is not a tough one at all. Do you think someone a girl who used a lot of cocaine her senior year in college likely ended up giving late night "sexual favors" for more cocaine when it ran out? Lol, likely? Absolutely not. A girl in college who blows a few lines of coke on a weekend does not equal a prostitute! I can't imagine why this has even entered your mind? Ohhh drug propaganda...what a wonderful thing I know how hard a coke withdrawal hits you and my gut instinct tells me that a good looking woman who had that habit would have been taken advantage of in those situations. I don't think you do know. It appears that you are failing to distinguish between withdrawals and comedowns, and they are very, very different things. I find it ridiculous that you are assuming that because she is attractive and did some coke through college, that she sucked cock for it. A cocaine addict is a hell of a different think to a cocaine user. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
OldRover Posted September 23, 2013 Share Posted September 23, 2013 Probably need to get to know her better, but this to me, would be a huge red flag. Long term nothing good can come with using drugs, and could be devastating for a long term relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
NGC1300 Posted September 23, 2013 Share Posted September 23, 2013 Probably need to get to know her better, but this to me, would be a huge red flag. Long term nothing good can come with using drugs, and could be devastating for a long term relationship. Everyone uses drugs. Link to post Share on other sites
Vogeltron Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 Gotta be honest. If you are worried about it you have probably has much less partners than you think she has. Not necessarily a bad thing. If you are really worried about it would figure out a way to have an honest conversation about it. For example I met went out with a girl for a short time in college. Never had sex with her but I found out she had over 25 partners at age 20. I said no thanks and moved on. Your inquiry and concern I completely understand. If you are serious about her find out as much as you can try to get the truth and try to figure out if she is telling you the truth. It might be a no no. But I would try to ask some of her closer friends if you have a chance. Link to post Share on other sites
Babolat Posted October 29, 2013 Share Posted October 29, 2013 Ex, emphasis on ex, gf told me early on that she use to do a lot of coke, like every day, in her mid 30s, for many years. Though I did not like it, I saw it as in her past, as she said "use to". Well, there was a weekend where she went partying with her old gang from her 30s. I started getting strange texts from her around 4AM. I did not reply. She texted me around 11AM stating "I should never text you while intoxicated". I was out of town that weekend. When I came home, she met me at her house. I asked her what she did over the weekend, she immediately volunteered she did coke with her friends. i asked if she would be doing it again, she said "Not this year" and "Probably not". When I asked again she said "Well, it reminded me why I stopped coke, as it was bad coke". Long story short, this was just a sympton of a life of self medication as I got to know her better. I should have ended it then. Your case may be different, if it was experiemental, a brief period, I would have issues with it but could accept it. If it was still going on, no. Link to post Share on other sites
reddragon588 Posted December 3, 2013 Share Posted December 3, 2013 This girl seemed smart, came from money, but told me that her senior year in college she did a lot of cocaine. I'm a reserved kind of guy who wants a partner who only goes to bed with someone they are in relationships with Do you think someone a girl who used a lot of cocaine her senior year in college likely ended up giving late night "sexual favors" for more cocaine when it ran out? Cocaine is more of a party drug among many college students, I was one of them. I used to do cocaine, and I like to think of myself as a level-headed person. I graduated college just fine, I have a good job, and I have a good social life. I viewed cocaine the same way I did alcohol, and most of the people I knew viewed it the same way. If this girl seems level-headed, she probably just was experimenting in college like many others. She probably wasn't a crackhead, giving handies for a bump. She probably was just having fun and enjoying herself. Judge her on her overall character and go from there. Link to post Share on other sites
elbe Posted December 3, 2013 Share Posted December 3, 2013 Does it make a difference to you whether she was giving blow jobs for cocaine vs giving a lot of blowjobs? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
crederer Posted December 5, 2013 Share Posted December 5, 2013 Giving sexual favours for blow? SERIOUSLY? you just said yourself she was well off. Well off girls don't give sexual favours for drugs. It's poor people that can't afford it that do that. Jesus........paranoid? Link to post Share on other sites
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