Author Romaks Posted September 25, 2013 Author Share Posted September 25, 2013 Its' been like 9 days of NC I'm still getting better, and I'm kind of surprised at my progress which makes me question if it is real or not. I'm hoping for some sort of contact from her maybe next month or so, because after all, NC was my idea, and she was counting on having me around after the break up. Surely she's going to want to hear something from me even if she doesn't have any romantic intentions. Link to post Share on other sites
stormer1092 Posted September 25, 2013 Share Posted September 25, 2013 Its' been like 9 days of NC I'm still getting better, and I'm kind of surprised at my progress which makes me question if it is real or not. I'm hoping for some sort of contact from her maybe next month or so, because after all, NC was my idea, and she was counting on having me around after the break up. Surely she's going to want to hear something from me even if she doesn't have any romantic intentions. It took me over a month to be ok every day. I still get sad every once in a while but what used to be days turned to hours turned to minuets. Now I get sad and 10 minuets later I'm ok again. It gets easier man. You'll get there. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted September 26, 2013 Share Posted September 26, 2013 Sounds like more than anything she wants to see where things go with this guy, but wanted to make you break up with her so she can avoid the guilt from moving on with someone else. Because you didn't do it, she had to go ahead and do it herself. All the "I hope I'm wrong" and other lines are just her way to relieving her own guilt. She wants to avoid the guilt and being known as a cheater, but she was going to see him one way or another. Do not stay friends with her, as it's going to cause you nothing but pain. You can't be her emotional rock while she gets her rocks off with someone else. Her feelings didn't disappear overnight. She had been talking with this guy for awhile and made a decision that taking a shot with him was worth more to her than her relatonship with you. If this guy shoots her down, dumps her eventually, etc. don't be surprised if she comes back to her safety net. Do not accept her, as you can see now that her loyalty isn't a loyal as you had once thought. You're better than being anyone's second option or backup plan. Stay strong, keep moving on, and find happiness in your own world. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Romaks Posted September 26, 2013 Author Share Posted September 26, 2013 I've thought long and hard about this and I totally agree with what you're saying even though it kind of hurts. Maybe I'm in denial, but she insisted that it wasn't him, and it was mostly due to the fact that she couldn't stand the pressure I put on her for college. To me, it seemed like it was gigs or whatever is described as such. I'm not saying I shouldn't move on, but I know from how she was when we were together last that she hadn't 'checked-out' of our relationship until the day she started talking to me differently, so it can't have been that much of a long term thing, but you're probably right... Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted September 26, 2013 Share Posted September 26, 2013 Of course she said it wasn't him, even after she said she was "confused" about him. If she flat out said "I'm ending this to be with him" she would look like a bad guy... and she's too worried about her image and guilt to allow that to happen. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Romaks Posted September 29, 2013 Author Share Posted September 29, 2013 It's been almost 2 weeks of NC, and I can't stop myself from reading others' stories about how their ex's would call or text them after a few months, and I find that this is my expectation. I probably wouldn't take her back, but I need her to realize what she has done so I can move on. It pains me that she might not. At one point I meant EVERYTHING in the world to her, and she was just unable to take her hands/eyes off of me, and this was just a few short weeks ago... I still can't understand how someone could do this. I know she's super emotional and I fit so well into her life, and the love and attachment we shared was soo strong that there's no way she can just forget about me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Romaks Posted October 1, 2013 Author Share Posted October 1, 2013 I'm finally reaching some sort of inner peace. It helps so much that I have my life together, and have other things to worry about and put my efforts in. I counted that I had about 15-16 close friends that I was able to confide in about my break-up. It didn't occur to me that I have so many friends that care, and even gave me their time (sometimes hours) to make sure I felt better and to give me advice. In a way it makes me feel better to know that my gf was never able to make meaningful friendships like I am, but I also feel bad for her because I was the one that gave her that support that she now needs. Who knows that life will bring. All I know is if I keep a positive attitude, and make some changes for good, then I'm sure to be rewarded in the future. Whatever's meant to be, will be. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
headinthecloud Posted October 1, 2013 Share Posted October 1, 2013 You have a lot of growing up to do. Do whatever the hell you want man. You don't have to justify **** to this broad. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Romaks Posted October 1, 2013 Author Share Posted October 1, 2013 Good thing I have plenty of time! Link to post Share on other sites
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