emi Posted September 20, 2013 Share Posted September 20, 2013 Hey guys, i really need your point of view on some very important matter of mine, i hope receiving some insign about this matter. im suffering from mandible deformity. Its effect alot on my self-esteem and stuff. People made joke at me since i was young and yea it was cruel My face is normal however my smile is horrible. Im aware of this fact, so i rarely smile. Therefore people considered me as distant and aloof which is unfair for me. I has been doing a lot of online research about the surgery that can fix my problem. And its said i must reach 18 to be qualified Im 17 atm. It would be nice to get the surgery at the turning point into my adult life. Its been very comforting thats my problem has a solution. But its a complicated and painful procedure. i wondering if i should do it. Because im so worry about the result. Im afraid it wont be any much better, and the cost is so high. Im feeling guilty if i ever put my parents throught this. any advice ? Sorry if i post it in the wrong place. I dont know where to post it Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted September 20, 2013 Share Posted September 20, 2013 You need to do what will make YOU feel better about yourself. In life it matters not what others think of us, but how we feel about ourselves. If this is making you feel bad about yourself, then take a gamble on the procedure that may hopefully help you feel a little better about your appearance. If you do it, do it for you and you alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author emi Posted September 20, 2013 Author Share Posted September 20, 2013 i has been always wanted to do the surgery since i was 12. I really want to feel good about myself, to be able to smile without worrying. And thanks i think i will take the gamble. But what to do with my parents? They are the one who pay for my surgery Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted September 20, 2013 Share Posted September 20, 2013 Tell them this can be your birthday and Christmas presents forever? Really though, just explain to them how you are feeling and how having this corrected would make you feel in the future. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author emi Posted September 20, 2013 Author Share Posted September 20, 2013 Tell them this can be your birthday and Christmas presents forever? Really though, just explain to them how you are feeling and how having this corrected would make you feel in the future. i hope they will agree with it. Its just im feeling guilty for being such a troublesome child Even i did well in my school and behaved but i dont really want to burden my family or ask for anything but this Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted September 20, 2013 Share Posted September 20, 2013 Have you discussed this with your parents to any extent? This is the sort of thing I think I'd be happy to pay for. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author emi Posted September 20, 2013 Author Share Posted September 20, 2013 I did actually. At first they didnt want to because it seem so complicated and expensive and they think i look fine. lol yea so they think because i never tell them when i got bullied. Now they are seem to agree. But my family's finance is just so so. Im feeling like im a spoiled brat for asking something so expensive Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted September 22, 2013 Share Posted September 22, 2013 Find a part time job and start saving money. Help your neighbors do chores and errands for payment, like wash their cars, do their gardening, housework, pet sit, house sit while they are away, do the grocery shopping for old people, or whatever they need. Link to post Share on other sites
soccerrprp Posted September 23, 2013 Share Posted September 23, 2013 emi, do your parents have insurance? it will be expensive, but saving your pennies now will go a way to paying for it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author emi Posted September 24, 2013 Author Share Posted September 24, 2013 Find a part time job and start saving money. Help your neighbors do chores and errands for payment, like wash their cars, do their gardening, housework, pet sit, house sit while they are away, do the grocery shopping for old people, or whatever they need. That is my plan when i finish my final exam . Even they can gather money before it, i still plan to work and give them back one day Link to post Share on other sites
Author emi Posted September 24, 2013 Author Share Posted September 24, 2013 emi, do your parents have insurance? it will be expensive, but saving your pennies now will go a way to paying for it. In my country there is no insurance for dental survice. They classify it into '' plastic surgery'' section and the goverment wont pay a pennies for it And yea im saving most of my allowance. ^^ Im just wondering if its a right decision to pursuit this surgery Link to post Share on other sites
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