Canadiangirl78 Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 I wish I could do total NC..we have a 2 year old so it can't be that way. I read all of posts and think...ahh if only I could do that. It makes it so hard when you can't do NC. Link to post Share on other sites
radiodarcy Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 5 days. I was tempted to send him the "one final" goodbye email. But I don't think he's going to care as I haven't heard form him in two weeks. So I didn't bother. Nothing sucks more than breaking NC only to be met with yet another wave of silence. Link to post Share on other sites
bobby326 Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 42 days since any kind of conversation, was actually a fight about me being pissed that she didnt take a DVD I left with all our photos with her credit card that was mailed to my place, that was a text Convo and ended with her saying that she hopes we "coexist" one day and she'll change her address the way she's out of my life, I jus said thank you and that was it. 26 days since she texted me giving condolences for my grandfather dieing, all I said was thank you. Sadly I want her to contact me so I can ignore her and make her feel like ****, I anticipate a text around thanksgiving or Christmas or one day when she decides to give my dads golf clubs back. Link to post Share on other sites
Dumped85 Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 Been about 2 months since I spoke to ex, when she mentioned a police order if I continued trying to communicate. I tried to communicate through her friend on face book maybe last week. But logged in her Facebook yesterday. So I guess im back at day one :'( Link to post Share on other sites
GeorgesIsntAtHome Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 42 days since any kind of conversation, was actually a fight about me being pissed that she didnt take a DVD I left with all our photos with her credit card that was mailed to my place, that was a text Convo and ended with her saying that she hopes we "coexist" one day and she'll change her address the way she's out of my life, I jus said thank you and that was it. 26 days since she texted me giving condolences for my grandfather dieing, all I said was thank you. Sadly I want her to contact me so I can ignore her and make her feel like ****, I anticipate a text around thanksgiving or Christmas or one day when she decides to give my dads golf clubs back. imo clinging to hopes like that is just destructive, you should just completely foregt about her and move on Link to post Share on other sites
lookingforbalance Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 67 days It gets easier every day, even though the weak moments are still there. You just have to white-knuckle through them. Someday soon it won't matter at all, I look forward to it. Strength to all !!! Link to post Share on other sites
Never Again Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 5 months post-BU now. 30 days NC. 33 days since she breadcrumbed me in person. Chased me around for hours just trying to make contact, and told me we'd "talk soon". So much for that. Ha. Link to post Share on other sites
Janni Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 7 weeks NC. Feels like 7 months. 3 weeks ago he send me an e-mail. I didn't reply. The next day his mother texted me. Didn't reply. Link to post Share on other sites
GeorgesIsntAtHome Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 7 weeks NC. Feels like 7 months. 3 weeks ago he send me an e-mail. I didn't reply. The next day his mother texted me. Didn't reply. sounds like you're clearly over it, sounds a bit harsh though, hope he really deserved it Link to post Share on other sites
Janni Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 sounds like you're clearly over it, sounds a bit harsh though, hope he really deserved it I guess I'm somehow over it. I'm over the whole wanting to text him thing. But I'm still not doing great emotionally. Link to post Share on other sites
love1336x Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 2 months going on 3. Link to post Share on other sites
maturityassets Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 lol today I was curious and added it all up.... 90 days wooo hoooo. Beat my previous one of 89! In your face R! I'm like on fire or something. Well anyway I still say I'm the victor at the end, I became a better me than I ever was in that relationship. Here is to another 90! Good luck Joel! Don't worry, possible to go past the relapses! Link to post Share on other sites
reddragon588 Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 77 days/11 weeks no contact, 5 months post breakup. Link to post Share on other sites
Chris715 Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 A year post break up, 2+ months of NC now. Feeling worse and worse every day, not sure why. Link to post Share on other sites
Reels Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 11 months now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
bobby326 Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 imo clinging to hopes like that is just destructive, you should just completely foregt about her and move on I completely agree and I think with time and NC I will learn to not care anymore. I can already tell that even after this short time thoughts of her hurt but not nearly as much as they did a month or two ago. I have conflicting thoughts sometimes such as I wish she would contact so I could ignore and I don't want her to contact because that will reopen the wound. Bottomline, I'm staying NC even if she does contact, the only way I would respond is if she sent a heartfelt apology. Link to post Share on other sites
1734 Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 (edited) since he last broke up with me abruptly... NC was applied immediately on my part. I have deleted all our chats, unfriended him on FB delete all his numbers etc. If for any reason he wants to get hold of me, it'd be via email since I can't find a way to block him there. I can't deal with this emotional pain.. I have my moments where I feel like I can make it... but eventually I slip back down to the darkness. I miss him terribly... I don't know what to do.. Edited November 14, 2013 by 1734 Link to post Share on other sites
Dumped85 Posted November 15, 2013 Share Posted November 15, 2013 Back at day 1. 5 months post BU. Logged into her face book again. Link to post Share on other sites
Sasa123 Posted November 15, 2013 Share Posted November 15, 2013 23 days if NC. But met him this Wednesday on my way home - he nodded, I said hi. I just want time to pass so it doesn't feel so difficult. Want to contact him all the time. Link to post Share on other sites
xUnknown Posted November 15, 2013 Share Posted November 15, 2013 I was NC for 17 days. Responded to a problem she had with her car. I regret it. It set me back. Spiraling downhill...Starting from day 1 all over again. Here I am, after another 16 days. Still feel like I'm holding on to hope. This time around, the hope is greater than it ever was. I don't know why. I was progressing very well after 2.5 weeks. Sure, I missed you, but I knew you went the one for me. Therapy has helped me. Now, since responding, I want you back even more. I went from 80% /20% not wanting you back...to the 80% wanting you back, 20% not. I hate this hope. I realize how you've treated me, I was so blindly in love with you to not see it sooner. I wish I had. Now, I'm left knowing you're not best for me, but hoping you come back with a changed heart and as a changed women. I were to see you right now, I don't know what I'd do...I'd probably just stop...and see what you would do. Either way, I would be crushed. If you came back, I know I would have to turn you down...but if you didn't, I'd still be crushed missing you. I'm a better person than you. You hurt me. You don't deserve me. Ever. Link to post Share on other sites
radiodarcy Posted November 15, 2013 Share Posted November 15, 2013 Today is day 7. I was hoping I'd feel better by now. At times I do. But for the most part I feel pretty low. And oh how I hate that burning acid feeling in the pit of my stomach when the pain seems to come from out of nowhere. I'm sort of dreading the weekend. I don't exactly love my job but it has been a welcome distraction this week. I'm not sure how I'm going to cope this weekend. I know I shouldn't spend the whole time alone but I'm really not in the mood to be around anyone either... Link to post Share on other sites
la74219 Posted November 16, 2013 Share Posted November 16, 2013 Day 1 of NC starts tomorrow for me. Breakup was about a week ago, and been arguing since. First 2 days I begged and now feel embarrassed. Next few days I just wanted answers. It got to the point where she asked me to leave her alone. I am granting her wishes. Link to post Share on other sites
la74219 Posted November 16, 2013 Share Posted November 16, 2013 Today is day 7. I was hoping I'd feel better by now. At times I do. But for the most part I feel pretty low. And oh how I hate that burning acid feeling in the pit of my stomach when the pain seems to come from out of nowhere. I'm sort of dreading the weekend. I don't exactly love my job but it has been a welcome distraction this week. I'm not sure how I'm going to cope this weekend. I know I shouldn't spend the whole time alone but I'm really not in the mood to be around anyone either... Dont worry, you aren't alone. I am also dreading the weekend because I know she had a busy weekend planned. So yeah I'm just not looking forward to it at all either. Link to post Share on other sites
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