Wife and bestfriend

[Misfortune]

got off work early...spending the rest of the week working from home

 

here is the cheaterville link

 

 

Caught her in bed - Abbey johnson

 

 

PS.

 

Lawyer outta town till thrusday

 

The paint, the paiiint! You are definitely going hard in the paint, no1 can stop you now; MVP.

 

Hope this all works out positively for you.

[drifter777]

I'm hoping he used a fake name for her - I guess. Other than that, Seattle is a big place - I live there too

[Misfortune]

I'm hoping he used a fake name for her - I guess. Other than that, Seattle is a big place - I live there too

 

With the right amount skill, you might be able to watch it go down in RealD.

 

I would show this to people I trust probably, but this is too high a level for me.

[turnera]

This is a way for me Vent don't have nobody else to talk to lost the two who meant everything

Good time to rectify that. And I DON'T mean women. I mean join a sports club or team, sign up for a class for something you've always wanted to learn, learn to fly an airplane, make friends at your gym...fill your life with better friends.

[Leaving]

She's like a muthfxccing shadow following my every move always asking what u doing? can't take a piss without her there and she spends the rest of her time crying begging to comeback

 

PS.

She cooked dinner last night and i asked what that baster got u cooking now and she had the nerve to say who( this was the first in my life that i wanted to hit a women-not even when i caught them in bed_guess it was her trying to pretend not to know who i was talking about but i didn't hit her) I kindly walk to the stove took the salt and pour'd it all in she spent the rest of the night crying and today she's back asking what u doing

 

Thinking about taking $10,000 and waking up in vegas this weekend got to get away:D:D:D:D:D

[Coolit]

She's like a muthfxccing shadow following my every move always asking what u doing? can't take a piss without her there and she spends the rest of her time crying begging to comeback

 

PS.

She cooked dinner last night and i asked what that baster got u cooking now and she had the nerve to say who( this was the first in my life that i wanted to hit a women-not even when i caught them in bed_guess it was her trying to pretend not to know who i was talking about but i didn't hit her) I kindly walk to the stove took the salt and pour'd it all in she spent the rest of the night crying and today she's back asking what u doing

 

Thinking about taking $10,000 and waking up in vegas this weekend got to get away:D:D:D:D:D

 

Two wrongs don't make a right. Don't engage in petty behaviour is my suggestion. Just ignore her. That is a far better way to handle it. Cold silence is way harder to live with then someone who makes comments or destroys cooking.

[miguelcervantes]

Just for my understanding - you caught the two in bed together and somehow managed to forgive ??? All that he (who you know for 20 years) got was a busted lip etc and she (who you know for a few years) was allowed back ?

 

How did this get past without you imposing real consequences on both of them.

 

And when you say she was still in contact, what kind of contact ? Was it just basic talking to each other etc. or was it inappropriate stuff ? (Don't get me wrong, I do agree that NC is what should have happened, but just trying to get a better handle on this). Finally why does she want to stay ? Honestly ? What does your gut tell you ?

[Leaving]

Two wrongs don't make a right. Don't engage in petty behaviour is my suggestion. Just ignore her. That is a far better way to handle it. Cold silence is way harder to live with then someone who makes comments or destroys cooking.

 

I'm trying to ignore her but she won't leave me alone.

 

i know It was childish the stunt i pulled last nite...But i seen it as that she never cooked even before i fount out about the affair and now she wants to start and it really pissed me off when she acted like she didn't know who i was talking about

[Leaving]

Just for my understanding - you caught the two in bed together and somehow managed to forgive ??? All that he (who you know for 20 years) got was a busted lip etc and she (who you know for a few years) was allowed back ?

 

How did this get past without you imposing real consequences on both of them.

 

And when you say she was still in contact, what kind of contact ? Was it just basic talking to each other etc. or was it inappropriate stuff ? (Don't get me wrong, I do agree that NC is what should have happened, but just trying to get a better handle on this). Finally why does she want to stay ? Honestly ? What does your gut tell you ?

 

all i could get was a couple of swings in before he got to his car

 

I allowed her back because i really did love her and want to save my marriage

 

I don't know if they were still messing around after being caught all i know is that they were still communicating over the phone Via text

 

Honestly i don't know why she wants to stay could be for love but my gut is telling me it is for the money

[Coolit]

I'm trying to ignore her but she won't leave me alone.

 

i know It was childish the stunt i pulled last nite...But i seen it as that she never cooked even before i fount out about the affair and now she wants to start and it really pissed me off when she acted like she didn't know who i was talking about

 

I get that but it is just going to feed her.

 

If it doesn't affect your legal standing, take that vacation. But I would do something less stereotypical than vegas. Like go to Italy and see some places.

[turnera]

Honestly i don't know why she wants to stay could be for love but my gut is telling me it is for the money

Well, then, have your lawyer draw up a paper saying she gets no access to your income or your assets. If she signs it, it's not for the money. If she won't, then you'll know.

[Betterthanthis13]

I'm trying to ignore her but she won't leave me alone.

 

i know It was childish the stunt i pulled last nite...But i seen it as that she never cooked even before i fount out about the affair and now she wants to start and it really pissed me off when she acted like she didn't know who i was talking about

 

Stop trying to ignore her. IGNORE HER.

 

She really hurt you. I know you are a guy and probably don't want to hear that. I'm only pointing it out because if you can admit that to yourself, you can also recognize that you probably arent thinking very clearly at the moment, which is why you sabotaged the food and why you are giving her any opportunity to be around you. Make yourself into a ninja that can avoid her. Is there anyone in real life who you can talk to about this?

[stillafool]

 

I allowed her back because i really did love her and want to save my marriage

 

It's obvious. Otherwise you wouldn't even be speaking to her after what she's done. You would come right out and tell her to stay away from you and move out. If she didn't move out you would at least not talk to her. If you are going to forgive her this easy and allow her back into your life when are you two going to start counseling? I can tell you by your letting her back so soon without consequences she won't ever respect you and will more than likely cheat again. Women like men who stand up for themselves.

[Mycatsnuggles]

Leaving, you remind me of my son. I wish that you had a mama to talk this over with right now cause you need a little TLC. you said you parents died when you were 16 and you stayed w bf parents? Are you close with them? I wonder if you'd really miss your bf more then this girl?

 

Can I tell you what I would tell my son?

1 block her number. It's temporary but gives you space and prevents you from having to see all the calls. Yes she can call from another number when she figures it out. Deal w that later. Give your self space.

 

2. Talk to your friend. I think he may be more honest with you then her.

 

3. Move anything you value out of the house. If you leave she may take her anger out on your stuff.

 

4. The vaca. GREAT ideal. Tell her you need some space to think things over. Hopefully this prevents any harm to your house if you leave her alone there.

 

5. If your attys out of town talk to another one. You REALLY need answers today about your house and if you/she have to remain living together. This is very bad for you emotionally. AND if you did hit her OR she even accuses you of it you could be forced out of your house.

 

6. Find someone to talk with. An older relative not another girl. You need someone you won't fall in love with. I'm sorry. Here's me giving you a big huggggg.

 

7. As a mama speaking Id tell you if what you say about these 2 people is true and not just anger speaking your really better off without them in your life. Sometimes lessons are hard but if you learn from them you'll be happier.

[Leaving]

Last couple of days has been Ok talk to My lawyer yesterday everything seems in place Money and Assets secured(only thing she's going to get from this divorce $50,000 and 20% off the house if i sell within 5 years) filing next week

 

Should i tell her or let it be a surprise?

 

 

just got done Packing>>>Boss going to let me use his private jet thinking about flying to vegas in the morning then new York to catch A Broadway show(never seen one)

 

Ps.

 

she looking real worried now she seeing me packing(guess she wonder where i'm going)

[Leaving]

Hmm are you looking at who is better.to comfort yourself

because of the hurt?

 

material stuff is not everything but great that you work hard

for your money.

what they did was wrong.

but were you spending time at home 2?or only making money.

 

to get over someone takes time.

but she have to atleast show that she dont want it anymore.

and break all contact.

 

just taking her back is not working.

maybe she just wanta to come back because you got

the money.

have serieua conversation

 

I did the best i could in my marriage she was always first and money second always made time for her made sure we had a date night every week and use to spend the weekends lazing around in bed all day making love.Always said i loved you and how beautiful she was i could have been further along in my career if i hadn't put my marriage first

[Leaving]

-have serieus conversation with her.

and ask deep questions. to see why she is doing ot

and if she really wants you. and what she is going to

do to change this. and to work on it actively .

and not with a lot of words.

 

and looking at the age,.... maybe marriage was to soon.

 

I tried asking her the deep questions but she wouldn't answer....I am the type of person who feels if u in love then your never to young or old

[Leaving]

Leaving, you remind me of my son. I wish that you had a mama to talk this over with right now cause you need a little TLC. you said you parents died when you were 16 and you stayed w bf parents? Are you close with them? I wonder if you'd really miss your bf more then this girl?

 

Can I tell you what I would tell my son?

1 block her number. It's temporary but gives you space and prevents you from having to see all the calls. Yes she can call from another number when she figures it out. Deal w that later. Give your self space.

 

2. Talk to your friend. I think he may be more honest with you then her.

 

3. Move anything you value out of the house. If you leave she may take her anger out on your stuff.

 

4. The vaca. GREAT ideal. Tell her you need some space to think things over. Hopefully this prevents any harm to your house if you leave her alone there.

 

5. If your attys out of town talk to another one. You REALLY need answers today about your house and if you/she have to remain living together. This is very bad for you emotionally. AND if you did hit her OR she even accuses you of it you could be forced out of your house.

 

6. Find someone to talk with. An older relative not another girl. You need someone you won't fall in love with. I'm sorry. Here's me giving you a big huggggg.

 

7. As a mama speaking Id tell you if what you say about these 2 people is true and not just anger speaking your really better off without them in your life. Sometimes lessons are hard but if you learn from them you'll be happier.

 

To tell you the truth i think i'm going to miss him more because he was more like a brother to me then a friend

 

I was close to his parents before all this happen,but haven't talk to them since

 

i Don't want to talk to him what more do i need to know he sleep with my wife and ruined my life

[atreides]

To tell you the truth i think i'm going to miss him more because he was more like a brother to me then a friend

 

I was close to his parents before all this happen,but haven't talk to them since

 

i Don't want to talk to him what more do i need to know he sleep with my wife and ruined my life

 

I hear ya, it happened to my bestfriend where his old bestfriend slept wit his wife. He could not get over that, he forgave his wife but not his BF. It's not the end... you will find another wing man or two .

[James-London]

Dude,

I just read through this thread. I just wanted to say that you are doing absolutely the right thing... Life is REALLY awful right now but it will get better. Everyone said that to me but I didn't believe them because I could not imagine a time when I would have less pain. But it does get easier with time. Make sure you eat, sleep and exercise regularly and try to keep a routine so you can stay as productive as possible. It is hard I know.

[Leaving]

Cut the trip short because i wanted to be a work first thing monday morning

 

Had a good time got to vegas around 10am saturday spent most of the time casino hopping lost about about 5 grand gambling and drinking met a hottie made out for a while took her back to room but i stoped it after some oral because it felt wrong....

 

PS.

 

I have decide to play nice until the divorce even letting her stay in the house till all this is over even after my lawyer advise me i could ask her to leave after i file

[road]

Cut the trip short because i wanted to be a work first thing monday morning

 

Had a good time got to vegas around 10am saturday spent most of the time casino hopping lost about about 5 grand gambling and drinking met a hottie made out for a while took her back to room but i stoped it after some oral because it felt wrong....

 

PS.

 

I have decide to play nice until the divorce even letting her stay in the house till all this is over even after my lawyer advise me i could ask her to leave after i file

 

 

Blowing through 5 grand is not wise.

 

You are still married and need to act like you are. Are you proud that you are sinking into the gutter?

[Leaving]

Blowing through 5 grand is not wise.

I know it wasn't wise but i was in vegas and was willing to drop $20,000 to have a good time

 

 

 

You are still married and need to act like you are. Are you proud that you are sinking into the gutter?

Got caught in the moment(Guess it felt good to be wanted again)but i did stop it b4 it got to far

[Leaving]

Since i been home it's been ok smoked about an half ounce(haven't smoked like this since high school)

 

Soon to be Ex cooked(Baked Fish,Corn and Muffins) and since i have decided to play nice i ate the food it wasn't that bad(plus i paid for that food so why let it go to waste)

 

She has been walking around all day with nothing but bra and panties on all day asking me if i missed her body(she even cooked in her underwear)

 

She even masturbated in front of me a couples of times.....

 

 

while all this was happening i was just chilling puffing a fat one.....

Edited September 30, 2013 by Leaving

[crederer]

Well....you're too young to get married and this is an example of why.

 

Sorry dude. That's some harsh stuff that happened there.

 

And good god man she's trying to get back with you by using sex? That just goes to show sex is the only thing she has to offer.