BJ Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 Hi I am going to dinner with ex and her family on thurs. for thanksgiving. We talked last night for a while and had a good conversation. But than towards the end she said she does not want to get my hopes up and that her feelings for me have changed. What does she mean by this. about a month ago she wanted nothing to do with me and then calls and invites me but says all that. I can not help but be confused. Please somebody help me to interpret what she wants from me. Also even though she has said all of these things is there still perhaps some hope somewhere down the line for us to get back together. I love her and miss her so much. Please help Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 She is playing with your mind here. I myself would not go to the dinner on Thursday. She is inviting you as an ex-lover, maybe out of pity cause you have no place else to go. Do not fall into the 'friends' trap with her. Forget the past and look twds the future. Find a new girlfriend and move on and don't talk with your ex at all. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 Yeah, she's either playing with your mind or she seriously feels sorry for you. Either way, hit McDonalds and dine with good company - yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
lostNconfusedx10 Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 well, i bet most would agree with me that having your ex invite you to dinner with their family on thanksgiving is a big deal. Just dinner on any night with their family after a breakup would be kinda big but on a holiday is huge. You gotta play it cool though. She says she doesnt want you to get your hopes up and is prolly expecting you to make a huge deal out of it and and actually push her away. It does sound like she wants to see if things work out with you but she sounds a bit hesitant, kinda thinking you will be too needy. When you do go, DONT talk about a relationship unless she does but still keep that short. Dont stay too long either. If you feel like its time to go home then you stayed too long. i wouldnt try to make future plans either, just say you had a nice time and you'll talk to her later. This will confuse her a little and instead of pushing her away by being needy, it should actually pull her towards you. Link to post Share on other sites
BJ Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 thanks for the advice so far. I am going to play it cool when i go up there for dinner. I hope we can have a good time and that she can see that i am really working hard to be a better person and show her how much i care. Why are woman so confusing. should us men take everything they say at face value or what. She still has me so confused. one minute i think we are starting to connect and then the next minute i think she wants me to be gone forever. I guess if she really did no longer have feelings for me she would not want to see me for thanksgiving. Does anybody think I have another chance with this woman? out of all the confusion what should i truly believe or expect? thanks for the help it means a lot Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 Originally posted by BJ Why are woman so confusing. should us men take everything they say at face value or what. She still has me so confused. In regards to above stmt about women what you ALWAYS want to remember is to not put too much importance on their words, LOOK AT THEIR ACTIONS. Talk is cheap with women but what they DO says much more. Link to post Share on other sites
Puma Posted November 24, 2004 Share Posted November 24, 2004 well i dont know what to interpret her words as, but just the fact that she wants you to go with her and her family for thankgivin i think speaks for itself. personally i wouldnt invite an ex lover over jsut because..it has to be someone special and close to my heart or my best friends haha, cause its family and i dont want to give my family a wrong impression of me. she told you not to get ur hopes up so dont!! BUT, maintain ur coo, dont feel you have to show her you care cause she knows taht im sure, you just have to be urself and show a confident poise around her and her family. if shes with her family..and they approve of you, for sure tehy gonna ask her whats up with you too..and even if she says oh nothin we friends..shes still gonna think about it cause her own family likes ya and family approval is important in my book. either way have fun, enjoy, pig out, and i agree to leave early cause it will get her thinkin why you did so...just not to early! g luck and pop ur collar Link to post Share on other sites
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