mischafan160 Posted November 30, 2004 Share Posted November 30, 2004 Originally posted by mj108 I just know that 2005---is going to be LS online family Year! WE WILL SURVIVE 2005! It will get better for all of us here. We've been through too much & next year we will have our time! I like this!!! Way to be strong! Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted November 30, 2004 Share Posted November 30, 2004 Moimeme---I always love your advice. I mean, It has always been uplifting to me. So true & very uplifting. Thanks for the kind compliment Yeah---I'm going to be alone like everyone here but I think since I survived Turkey day---I can survive Christmas. I'm trying to stay positive---I'm trying to put these thoughts in my head that everything is going to be fine! We got through Turkey day---we can get through Christmas. I'm going to decorate my new home that I'm thankful for. Since I'm trying to stay busy not thinking about the guy that broke my heart this year---I'll probably have more lights outside than the whole neighborhood! That's the spirit! You GO, girl :) There is something beautiful about every single day. All you need to do is look !! I'm going to go on & not let some *****ed up ex ruin my Christmas. I'm going to have fun...even if I'm the 3rd wheel or the 5th or the 23rd wheel. If I'm by myself for Christmas---so be it. I'll just get me some wine & cook that Christmas meal & share the ham with my cats who will be thankful as well. lol I'm sure of it. And have a grand old time. There will be years when you'll be in the midst of chaos and you'll stop in the middle of it and remember the quiet Christmas when you did just exactly as you pleased Link to post Share on other sites
Author KaiaMahina Posted December 1, 2004 Author Share Posted December 1, 2004 Although I would like to pretend that I'm into the stiff upper lip, Shirley Temple kinda thang, putting on a brave show and "by Zeus I'm just gonna have a merry Christmas all by myself, gosh darn it" attitude, anyone who knows me even slightly realizes that I could never pull it off. I'm with EnglishChick. Flat out CANCEL the whole damn thing. There's actually nothing more depressing than pretending you're not depressed when, in fact, you are. I got through Thanksgiving just fine by not trying to make it seem as though life is just fine all alone. Cause it ain't. Having alone time when you're in a couple is lovely. Having alone time ALL THE TIME sucks. And alone time especially sucks on the holidays. If I were to attempt to have a merry little Christmas by myself, it would begin sweetly enough with eggnog and a twinkly little tree and rapidly degenerate into a high-octane vodka fueled trip down memory lane with the brake lines cut, which doesn't bode well for anyone in the line of fire should I lay hands on a weapon of any kind. It's nice for those who can be positive in the face of disaster, like miners bravely using their last breath to sing Christmas carols while trapped in a cave-in, but it's beyond my capabilities. I'm also with EnglishChick on the weird dichotomy between missing the worthless sack of s**t and wanting to completely demoralize and destroy him as I have been destroyed. There's absolutely no earthly reason he should be enjoying himself this holiday season. There's really no earthly reason he should enjoy one single second of the rest of his life. Link to post Share on other sites
WantanS4 Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 I'm going to get my ***** ON this Christmas in Las Vegas........ There's nothing left to say but, "BE SAFE!" Link to post Share on other sites
mj108 Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 KM---I don't know what kind of job you have but I'm telling you one thing---you need to write! You're awesome with words & I enjoy reading your post. Keep it up. BTW---I agree with you about the exes. They don't deserve to enjoy this season & they are sacks of sh**s for treating us good people like crap! Link to post Share on other sites
mj108 Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 You go & have fun! BE SAFE! lol I'm going to Biloxi, Miss. to gamble & have fun & hopefully I'll get a New Years kiss from a hot dude. lol I just want a kiss. Yeah---***** the exes! Link to post Share on other sites
brashgal Posted December 2, 2004 Share Posted December 2, 2004 high-octane vodka fueled trip down memory lane with the brake lines cut Stay away from the alcohol and the power tools - bad combo! Last year was my crappy year - Thanksgiving sucked, Christmas was a little better, Valentine's Day damn near killed me but it all fades...this Thanksgiving was pretty great and I am looking forward to Christmas even without an SO. For God's sake, don't do the traditional stuff you do every year that will make you miss him even more - just a recipe for disaster. If you can't afford the $ or time to get away then make your own mini-vacation, do movies, do day trips to places that don't have anything to do with him, do stuff with single friends who aren't also mooning over their lost loves. Paint your house or apartment or a picture. Stay busy - it'll get better. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 2, 2004 Share Posted December 2, 2004 anyone who knows me even slightly realizes that I could never pull it off but it's beyond my capabilities. Pishtosh. Your intellectual capabilities surely must extend to more than just writing. Use them to find ways to amuse yourself. Or get your Scrooge on if you must but it's a foolish waste of time. I know of a woman who's dying of brain cancer years too soon. She'd trade with you in a second, I'm sure. The point is enjoy what you got because you may have even less than that one day. Link to post Share on other sites
Tamday Posted December 2, 2004 Share Posted December 2, 2004 I'm here for anyone who needs me. I can give other people pretty good advice and usually make them laugh. Not too much lately. I just want to feel needed right now. Let me know if there's anything I can do.........TamDay Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted December 2, 2004 Share Posted December 2, 2004 anyone here is welcome to come to my place for Christmas if they think they are going to be alone and depressed about it. Link to post Share on other sites
mj108 Posted December 2, 2004 Share Posted December 2, 2004 Weird--- I wish all of us could just meet up somewhere for Christmas & have a Loveshack Christmas party. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 3, 2004 Share Posted December 3, 2004 People can - here! LOL Grab yourself a turkey TV dinner, cook it, open a can of cranbelly jelly and crank on LS. Ta da! Instant worldwide party Link to post Share on other sites
mj108 Posted December 3, 2004 Share Posted December 3, 2004 LOL---moimeme--- A worldwide party! lol Like that! Link to post Share on other sites
Isabella82 Posted December 3, 2004 Share Posted December 3, 2004 That would be great having a loveshack party. Then I would be in a room filled with people that truly understand me. That would be great. Imagine all the possibilities, maybe we should all plan a trip to Vegas. Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted December 3, 2004 Share Posted December 3, 2004 Originally posted by Isabella82 That would be great having a loveshack party. Then I would be in a room filled with people that truly understand me. That would be great. Imagine all the possibilities, maybe we should all plan a trip to Vegas. Count me in sister! Link to post Share on other sites
Author KaiaMahina Posted December 7, 2004 Author Share Posted December 7, 2004 I've happened upon the perfect Christmas gift for my ex. He's the sensitive kind, you know? The guy who wants to make everyone (except me) happy and comfortable. The protective, nurturing type. Happy to help strangers in need and whining dogs and crying children. I just read a book about a town which is protected by a man who was sacrificed and cast into a bog thousand of years previously. There's no crime in this town, no robberies or rapes or murders. Life is happy and uneventful and sweet. All because this guy was subjected to the Celtic "triple death": being bashed on the head, garrotted and then having his throat slit. And, by the by, having his penis removed post-mortem. All I have to do is find a little town next to a peat bog and then give my ex the gift that keeps on giving! He'd make the sweetest little sacrificial lamb! And the thought that he's making everyone (except me) in the little town happy and safe would bring tears to his limpid blue eyes! It's just what he's always wanted, and precisely what he deserves. Oh...the fact that I'd juggle the process just a bit...putting the penis lopping up first before the bash on the head...well, that's just my whimsical sense of humor! Merry Christmas, sweetheart! Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted December 7, 2004 Share Posted December 7, 2004 KM...lol I love your posts...you seriously should have a column. I would read it every day. I can't say I share in your pain this year, but next year who knows? You never know? I finally have someone (FINALLY) and I just read your posts and pray I never have to go there again. but like it was said Sometimes I feel as though it was all a strange dream, or that it was a cruel cosmic joke played on me by God/the Universe/Fate (here's some love and happiness for a little while, but ooops! sorry! gotta take it away from you now! wasn't that fun?!) Yeah that happens to me all the time. I'm just waiting for the Jk part. Like I said in another post I have definitely been there though. But for me I would always get dumped right before the Holidays or Valentines Day. It was horrible. I remember thinking "Yay finally someone I can take to my Christmas parties and exchange gifts with and kiss when the ball drops" But then they would leave me and I would be alone and wishing the ball would somehow dislodge and land on their house. The best way to get through it is to not pretend everything is ok. Let it out and do your own thing. Be vindictive if thats what makes you feel better. It sucks and you really can't do anything but I agree that I'd rather be alone than settling in a dysfunctional relationship just to have someone to hold the Christmas tree and complain while you are trying to make it perdy! lol But I believe you won't be alone for long. I know you hate to hear it but you will eventually find someone else and you will re-read all these posts and laugh. You will hug your hunny, look up at the sky and whisper Thank you! It won't always be this way and I will probably sound like everyone else when I say this but when you do meet the right one you will look back on this and appreciate the person your with even more. I really think you will be ok! Merry ...well...how about just have a good Christmas! Link to post Share on other sites
thien_to Posted December 7, 2004 Share Posted December 7, 2004 Please, please, please keep this thread going. KM you DEFINATLY should have a column. You've got me hooked. Everyone else's posts are great too. I was feeling absolutly miserable until I read this thread. My world doesn't seem to be crumbling as much now. Eagerly awaiting the next contibution to this thread. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KaiaMahina Posted December 7, 2004 Author Share Posted December 7, 2004 Eternally...I'm genuinely happy for you! A little wistful, not envious (because you have paid your dues for sure), but very happy! If I met someone else tomorrow, I would be over the ex instantaneously. Shallow? Fickle? I don't know. I only know that I love tremendously when I love, but when it's over, and someone else is there to be loved, I move on very quickly! I would have been over him in 24 hours after he dumped me if I had met someone else I could feel the same way about. It's been six months and I don't even have so much as a date... Honestly? I didn't believe for a minute that I would still be posting here by this time. I thought, hell, he'll call. He'll email. No problem. Give him 6 weeks and he'll be licking the paint off my doorstep just to see me again. Well, he sure fooled me. I thought this was the guy who was finally gonna be IT. That maybe we'd have some issues to work out, and that this time apart would help resolve them, and everything would be hunky dory. It still stuns me to this day that he could give up so easily on something he seemed to want so badly. But whaddya gonna do? Thank you for your encouraging words, Eternally. And I'm wishing you a very Merry Christmas. Link to post Share on other sites
mischafan160 Posted December 7, 2004 Share Posted December 7, 2004 Considering how miserable we all are being single through the holidays, I shudder to think what will happen on Valentine's Day. I had my first ever HAPPY Valentine's Day last year and I think this year is looking rather bleak. I'm thinking about just going around and celebrating all the tormented single people on that day. Like getting presents for all my single friends and making us all go out and just boycotting the whole day that is supposed to celebrate LOVE and COUPLES when really, if you are part of a couple and in love do you REALLY NEED a special holiday?!?!?! EVERY day is a holiday when you're giddy and in love with someone. It's the single people that really need a holiday, to quote Carrie from Sex and the City, why is there no Hallmark card to celebrate us? There's no card that says, "Congratulations, you didn't marry the wrong guy!" Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted December 8, 2004 Share Posted December 8, 2004 Kaia, another classic post. You rule. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted December 8, 2004 Share Posted December 8, 2004 Originally posted by KaiaMahina I've happened upon the perfect Christmas gift for my ex. He's the sensitive kind, you know? The guy who wants to make everyone (except me) happy and comfortable. The protective, nurturing type. Happy to help strangers in need and whining dogs and crying children. I just read a book about a town which is protected by a man who was sacrificed and cast into a bog thousand of years previously. There's no crime in this town, no robberies or rapes or murders. Life is happy and uneventful and sweet. All because this guy was subjected to the Celtic "triple death": being bashed on the head, garrotted and then having his throat slit. And, by the by, having his penis removed post-mortem. All I have to do is find a little town next to a peat bog and then give my ex the gift that keeps on giving! He'd make the sweetest little sacrificial lamb! And the thought that he's making everyone (except me) in the little town happy and safe would bring tears to his limpid blue eyes! It's just what he's always wanted, and precisely what he deserves. Oh...the fact that I'd juggle the process just a bit...putting the penis lopping up first before the bash on the head...well, that's just my whimsical sense of humor! Merry Christmas, sweetheart! I shall drive around in my Dads prelude (as my freaking car was stolen today) I will look at the sweet little houses with the christmas lights and the happy little couples inside.. (well she is inside, he's outside freezing his a** off trying to untagle the light up reindeers that some highschool kids put into the getting busy position on the front lawn because she asked him too) I shall watch the snowfall on the window of my dads car while I drive and wonder where the f*ck my car is... I shall listen to the christmas music they play on one really annoying station day and freaking night.. I shall stop at Starbucks and stand next to the ridiculously happy couple in line.. I shall order the eggnog latte' and spike the crap out of it with rum once I get back to my dads car... I shall drive my happy a** to the mall.. I will look at the other ridiculously happy couples doing thier christmas shopping... I shall walk my festive a** to the hallmark card shop.. I will walk right up to the sales chicka with the santa hat on her head.. I shall smile and politely ask her where I can find the "Get F*cked" card section and IF they so happen to have this section that really says it all.. I shall buy one for my EX.. and pass this valuable information as to where you to can obtain such a "wonderful greeting card" at that oh so special hallmark shop. Hang in there girl:) Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 8, 2004 Share Posted December 8, 2004 if I met someone else tomorrow, I would be over the ex instantaneously. Shallow? Fickle? I don't know. I only know that I love tremendously when I love, but when it's over, and someone else is there to be loved, I move on very quickly! I would have been over him in 24 hours after he dumped me if I had met someone else I could feel the same way about. It's been six months and I don't even have so much as a date... Kaia - you've got a way with words and that's peachy but I don't necessarily want my entertainment at the expense of someone's feelings. It's as well you haven't met someone else. You don't do a good job of getting over someone by trying to bury him with someone else. What you need is to get to a point where you are perfectly fine on your own. And it can come. It'll start if you remove the confirmation bias filter from your lens and look at the world as it is. All those happy couples you think you may see aren't necessarily so. It's convenient for your ability to complain and grump at the world if you believe they are, but it's not any more realistic than believing Santa will fill your sock with a guy's leg attached to the rest of his accoutrements. Go read the stats. You are not one lone soul in a world full of joyous lovers. There is a large number of singles - male and female - these days. However, if you're travelling around shooting little bolts of pissed-offedness at the world in general, don't be surprised if men don't come flocking to you. Nobody wants to get zapped. Maybe you're just venting. Or maybe you've got yourself a chronic case of grump. If the latter, then let it go. It makes for amusing reading, yes, but lousy living. Link to post Share on other sites
mj108 Posted December 8, 2004 Share Posted December 8, 2004 KM---keep venting girl!! I enjoy reading your post as well as everyone elses. MJ Link to post Share on other sites
Author KaiaMahina Posted December 8, 2004 Author Share Posted December 8, 2004 Moimeme, I've been told men don't come "flocking" to me because, unlike my "writing persona" my "real life" persona is reserved, quiet, shy and dignified. I have been told by men who fell deeply in love with me once they had breached my cultural barriers (I'm Native, and was brought up traditionally,which partially explains my reserved and quiet nature) that they believed that I was already with someone and was unavailable because they couldn't believe that someone like me (attractive, intelligent and caring -- with a sense of humor!) wasn't taken already! And I have never been dumped because of any of the characteristics which you seem determined to pin on me. Sorry to burst your bubble, but I'm not some wild woman with frazzled hair and a bloody hatchet, running amok and causing men to flee from me in repulsion! Frankly, I don't require your preachy advice or your stuffy sermons, and I don't need you waggling your finger at me like a chastising schoolteacher. I'm a grown woman and I've been through quite a few especially difficult times in my life and and come out the other side of them stronger, smarter and improved in any number of ways, of which you are ignorant. If I choose to vent among people whom I consider to be comrades in arms, and if I choose to do so in a way which seems nasty and mean-spirited, I believe, as this is a free country and protects free speech, that I have every right to do so. As you have the right to behave as though I'm personally insulting you in some way and take some sort of overrated offense at the way in which I express myself, as inexplicable as that may be. You may, however, wish to lighten up. I admit that I do have an unusual/sarcastic sense of humor which doesn't suit everyone, but I have no intention of censoring either my words or my emotions because you object to them. My advice to you is, if you don't like me or what I'm writing, simply skip my posts and save yourself the aggravation. I shall do you the reciprocal courtesy of skipping yours from now on. You'll excuse me if I make no further reference or reply to you in future. Link to post Share on other sites
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