No_closure Posted September 21, 2013 Share Posted September 21, 2013 This is going to sound so spiteful and look like an act of revenge on my part. I am not even sure if I will follow through with it but..... Basically, I have no clear reason why my husband left me. Too many speculations but one thing is for sure that 2 days before he left me he burned his arm severely and was on Vicodin and 2 other medications that I did not see what they were. About a week ago I looked at his new Facebook page and there are 2 pictures of him. Something is wrong with his eyes. He looks high but also like crazy eyes if that makes sense? He has never smoked weed and always talked BAD about it so I don't think it's weed. He is 21 and when he was 15 he took Vicodin + alcohol and tried to kill himself because his online girlfriend broke up with him. So, this is what I WANT to do. I want to call his boss at work, anonymously, and report a suspicion of him using drugs. I just want to know if he IS on drugs. But then how would I even know? It's not like they would tell me. I guess if I found out he was fired I would know the truth? Also, his co-worker that he has a man-crush on used to do oxycotton or something like that. And his other co-worker used to be a meth head. I know people abuse Vicodin and I am sure he is doing that but I have no idea what those other 2 medications are that he took with it. So they could be abused too I guess. Thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
Balzac Posted September 21, 2013 Share Posted September 21, 2013 You are creating drama. No wonder he's gone. No employer takes anonymous reports seriously. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author No_closure Posted September 21, 2013 Author Share Posted September 21, 2013 You are creating drama. No wonder he's gone. No employer takes anonymous reports seriously. No wonder he's gone? You know NOTHING about me. I am not drama, I am simply trying to find answers. Every single person who never even met my husband is telling me it's drugs. And my sister in-law lived with her ex-boyfriend for THREE years and he was pill addiction and she finally found out. I am not trying to get him fired or cause drama. I simply want answers. Link to post Share on other sites
Balzac Posted September 21, 2013 Share Posted September 21, 2013 Riiiiight. Then you should have given him the option of submitting to a drug screen during your marriage. You need to go to ALANON or a support group of another addiction. You are drama despite your prostetations. Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted September 21, 2013 Share Posted September 21, 2013 Balzac IS right however. You are creating drama for yourself. He is an Ex - how will this act get your answers? And, if it did, what would it prove and how would it make you feel better? The best thing you can do is block him on FB so you can't see his eyes and speculate what is happening to him. It is of no concern to you any longer. Time to move on. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted September 21, 2013 Share Posted September 21, 2013 This is a really stupid Idea. Leave him and his workplace alone. His career is not your business, and ruining it is a really immature, bitchy thing to do. Are you gonna be able to look in the mirror and say " I'm petty, low, vindictive, and I can't seem to handle my problems like an adult " ? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
LilGirlandOW Posted September 21, 2013 Share Posted September 21, 2013 (A) This is going to sound so spiteful and look like an act of revenge on my part. (B) So, this is what I WANT to do. I want to call his boss at work, anonymously, and report a suspicion of him using drugs. © I just want to know if he IS on drugs. (D) Thoughts? (A) Sounds that way because it IS spiteful and a revenge seeking act. (B) Drama, if his work cared if he was on drugs, they'd have a drug testing program set in place, like many workplaces. © None of your business!!! you dont mention you share children, you're doing this out of spite because your scorned and angry he left you (D) Seek IC, move on, he doesnt want to be with you, thats not cause to ruin his career. Link to post Share on other sites
NGC1300 Posted September 21, 2013 Share Posted September 21, 2013 You have no real proof he's abusing drugs, yet want to jeopardize the mans livelihood out of spite? This is going to sound harsh, but he bettered himself by leaving you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 22, 2013 Share Posted September 22, 2013 If anything, call his family. Your (ex) in laws! Or his closest and best friends. Tell them what you feel is going on, out of genuine care and concern not just because you want to know. Calling his boss annon. is creating unnecessary drama and I think you'll regret it. What if his reputation gets ruined? For every action there is a reaction and you have NO control over the reaction, so don't do it/handle it that way. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted September 22, 2013 Share Posted September 22, 2013 It's none of your business. He isn't with you anymore, accept it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
almond Posted September 22, 2013 Share Posted September 22, 2013 Oh my, I don't even know what to say about this. He has left you. His life is his, and yours is yours. Let me get this straight: you want to tell his boss that he may be taking drugs, so he can test your husband, so you can then lurk his facebook page waiting for the news that he's been fired because you "just want to know if he IS on drugs?" To do what? Help him? Feel better about yourself? You are no longer together. He is a grown man, and his choices are his own. Wow. He was prescribed Vicodin because he severely burnt his arm. Your assumption that the other two meds are likely able to be abused as well is pretty ridiculous - ever heard of antibiotics? He has a burn. He would not have been prescribed more than one opiate. You are being silly. He knows a guy that has taken opiates before (oxycottin...lol), and another person he knows was apparently a "meth head." None of this is cause for alarm. You seem very naive. You do not even know the basics when it comes to drugs, but are looking at a couple of photos, and trying to examine his eyes due to suspected drug abuse? Your head is getting away from you, and you really need to relax. Stay off his Facebook, and stay out of his life. You need to move on, and let him be. Any interfering on your behalf will bring nothing but trouble for everyone involved. Link to post Share on other sites
Criticality Posted October 9, 2013 Share Posted October 9, 2013 Let me take a wild guess here... He was put on Vicodin because of a burn injury two days before he left you, and you're trying to blame the breakup on the "drugs" to make you feel better? Sorry, won't work. It takes weeks of Vicodin use to start to become habituated to it. Not two days. Never mind the fact that after two days of using it, he isn't likely to feel much but the pain being better, constipation and MAYBE a faint buzz. The reason he left you has nothing to do with Vicodin or "being on drugs". It's more likely because of all the drama you create, and the fact that you're actually crazy and spiteful enough to come up with an idea like this. (You think it's an accident everyone here is saying the same?) Fortunately (for him) your phone call won't accomplish anything. A: He has a prescription for the Vicodin, so nothing will come off a positive urinetest. B: He most likely told his boss and coworkers about your antics and drama before, so when the phone starts ringing with your "anonymous tip", the boss will know that it's just the crazy ex trying to stir up trouble... Link to post Share on other sites
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