I made out with my bf's friend on a truth or dare game

[Missy395]

Well so much for being honest. Now he's mad and is probably going to ask some questions.

[Missy395]

Through a facebook message? Really??

Yes, as mentioned I can't see him today and I got a bit worried when another poster said he would probably find out from someone else. So if I would have waited until I see him, someone else might have beat me at it so ok I send the message.

[Misfortune]

Well so much for being honest. Now he's mad and is probably going to ask some questions.

 

Nooooo! He wouldn't do such a thing, right? -_-

 

Why you ruined his party? Did you tell him everything or was it "I kissed someone else"?

[Zahara]

Well so much for being honest. Now he's mad and is probably going to ask some questions.

 

You are so entitled. Did you think that just because you were honest, he's supposed to shut up and forget about it? You stepped out of your relationship.

 

Anyone would be mad. Anyone would ask questions. It would be odd if he wasn't mad and didn't ask questions.

[crederer]

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[drifter777]

This happened last week but I already feel bad. My female friends and bf's friend Joel aren't going to say anything.

 

Should I let this one go and not mention it? I don't want to bring this unneeded drama. I would let it slide if my bf did that.

It sounds like a few people know about it so assume your boyfriend is going to find out because he will. Then decide whether it's better to tell him yourself or not. Make no mistake: he will find out, and soon.

[Missy395]

It sounds like a few people know about it so assume your boyfriend is going to find out because he will. Then decide whether it's better to tell him yourself or not. Make no mistake: he will find out, and soon.

Drifter if you check my update, I already told him through his facebook. He is upset and we're going to talk about it tomorrow.

[Missy395]

You screwed up, he knows, now you 2 will talk about it. He may forgive you, he may dump you. But either way, this is on you, not him. So if you come off defensive, then it will just show that he needs to find someone more compatible.

I will answer all his questions he has.

 

I was wondering this, if we were to still be in the relationship does anyone knows how long is he going to be upset? If it's a year or more, I don't think I'll wait that long (there are limits too).

[Misfortune]

I will answer all his questions he has.

 

I was wondering this, if we were to still be in the relationship does anyone knows how long is he going to be upset? If it's a year or more, I don't think I'll wait that long (there are limits too).

 

Who...are you?

 

Your sensitivity meter seems to be turned way down and your "w/e, I don't have the time or the patience" levels just keep on rising. Are you doing this because you genuinely care or is it just to say that you did?

 

No1 knows how long it'll take. It all depends on his character, morals and tolerance of your actions.

[ExpatInItaly]

I will answer all his questions he has.

 

I was wondering this, if we were to still be in the relationship does anyone knows how long is he going to be upset? If it's a year or more, I don't think I'll wait that long (there are limits too).

 

Ok. I no longer believe this is a real thread.

[Babolat]

I don't know. I guess I got a bit carried away with the game and we were all kind of drunk

I dared one of my friends to do something embarassing and she dared me to made out with Joel. Like I said, we were all like kind of under influence and not really thinking too much at that moment.

I guess I would have let it slide once but it would depend on the reason. If the kiss was going on for so long then it would be upsetting. If it was just in that moment and he was sorry then ok I would let it slide.

 

Alcohol, under the influence, that IS my excuse...

 

Threads like this remind me why I broke up with my ex gf...Thanks!

[Space Ritual]

I will answer all his questions he has.

 

I was wondering this, if we were to still be in the relationship does anyone knows how long is he going to be upset? If it's a year or more, I don't think I'll wait that long (there are limits too).

 

Actually Missy, you are to be congratulated on one thing. At least it was YOU that informed him as opposed to some one else. I imagine the reason you did tell him through FB was because you went into panic mode a bit and realized he would find out. But you did inform him nonetheless.

 

That being said, I know you are pretty young, and may have not really have much experience with consequences for anything you did. You are at a young enough age where there is a possibility you have not built up a resume yet in that regard. But I digress...

 

I know this may sound corny to an 18 year old, but a large part of being and acting like an adult (which you legally are now) is understanding that there are consequences for literally every action that we take, and also to accept responsibility for those actions.

 

Please try to not be defensive when you answer your BF's questions, as hard as it will be. If you have any care for him please put yourself in his shoes for a moment. Please do not minimize or say "well we were all drunk". That is just an justification. Just tell him the truth TO HIS FACE and let go of the outcome. The ball will be in his court as to whether or not the relationship will continue. At any rate you are about to learn a valuable life lesson that many people stumble through life and never learn.

 

Good Luck and please let us know how it turns out.

[The Way I Am]

Missy, I'd like to introduce you to Simpson. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/cheating-flirting-jealousy/425520-gf-still-mad-over-minor-cheating

 

I think you two will be perfect for each other.

[KatZee]

Well so much for being honest. Now he's mad and is probably going to ask some questions.

 

As he should! Are you kidding me?

 

You cheated on him, and now YOU feel you have the right to catch an attitude because he's mad and will probably ask questions?

 

Welcome to the real world. And get real with the "if he made out with another girl I'd let it slide." You seem like the type to overreact and blow it so far out of proportion for mere attention alone.

 

You're going to try and excuse your behavior because you were drinking? So what happens the next time you and your friends are drunk? You wind up f.ucking someone on a dare, and then say "woops. It was a game and I was drunk and got carried away!" Own up to what you do. It wasn't the booze's fault. It was yours. It also wasn't a mistake, it was a choice you made.

 

You also think you have the right to tell him how long he has to get over this? GET OVER YOURSELF. You have no say in anything that goes on from this point forward. You either deal with how he needs to get over you cheating, or you let him go. You don't get to offer ultimatums and "limits" :rolleyes::rolleyes:.

 

You really don't give a crap at all do you? I was just having a conversation today regarding parenting, and how it doesn't exist anymore. When I was growing up, my a.ss was RAISED. I didn't just get older, I was taught right from wrong. I was taught to respect others, and more importantly I was taught to respect myself. This situation shows that not only do you not have a care for anyone but yourself, but you don't even respect yourself to behave in a dignified and classy manner.

 

And the fact you told him through Facebook is just so cowardly and spineless it's not even funny. You kids think Facebook is the be-all to end-all of the world. You have the balls to cheat, but not enough gut to tell him to his face.

 

Let me guess. You're one of those "I'm so popular" girls that walks down the hall acting like her s.hit don't stank. Let me tell you, you're going to b.itch slapped so hard across the face when you get out of that little high school bubble. And I'll also tell you, that high school glory days don't last forever.

Edited September 25, 2013 by KatZee

[atreides]

this is a goldmine of a thread, i just finished talking about how so few people have shame. I need to link this thread to that post... lol

[thishatteredsymphony]

All I had to do was read the title before coming to the conclusion Missy is an idiot.

 

Then in reading the other posts I realized she's an even bigger idiot.

[atreides]

12pk of beer $14.99

 

bucket of props to play truth or dare $28.00

 

the quote below

 

I will answer all his questions he has.

 

I was wondering this, if we were to still be in the relationship does anyone knows how long is he going to be upset? If it's a year or more, I don't think I'll wait that long (there are limits too).

 

 

priceless! lmao!!!

 

shame, self respect and respect for others out the window.... oh well

 

this thread is just "so 5 minutes ago" i mean waiting for all these loveshack members to offer help... why wait... its just too long, there are limits you know.

[Missy395]

I'm back. Ok so we spoke and the first thing he did was look for Joel. He nearly got into a fight with him and yelled some more things at him.

 

He doesn't want me talking to my other friends that were in the game either so ok I won't.

[Missy395]

He will do nothing, maybe some whining and crying then he will forgive her, and they will make out as never before then he will ask her (am i better kisser than Joel?)

Well he was upset and asked what happened and if how far things went but no where near crying. He nearly fought Joel.

[Missy395]

What the heck is betraying a friend? Maybe they're actually betraying you, when you do something wrong and they don't give two craps about correcting you? Not even token attempt to do so? Instead they let you do wrong all the time, not to ever disagree with you? Is that how you envision friendship?

There is a difference between a friend not agreeing with me on something and telling me directly that is wrong but leave it at that then actually going behind my back and informing the other person of what I did. The later is betrayal to me.

[Missy395]

Wow. You don't see any problem with that, conceptually. Even if you skip that for a second, you don't think that shows something about her integrity? How can you say that has nothing to do with your friendship. You must be really young.

She isn't treating me poorly. There are some people that can be a bad bf/gf in their relationships but good with other people. Just because you're a bad partner doesn't mean you're a bad person overall.

[Misfortune]

I'm back. Ok so we spoke and the first thing he did was look for Joel. He nearly got into a fight with him and yelled some more things at him.

He doesn't want me talking to my other friends that were in the game either so ok I won't.

 

I find it hard to believe that you'll actually stop speaking to those friends.

 

She isn't treating me poorly. There are some people that can be a bad bf/gf in their relationships but good with other people. Just because you're a bad partner doesn't mean you're a bad person overall.

 

Sounds like: As long as you treat me ok, I could care less how you treat others. You either all have the same "w/e, as long as it isn't me" moral compass, or you're the kind of friends that never tell each other you're wrong. Some people believe that supporting their friends through everything without disagreement, is true friendship.

[Missy395]

As he should! Are you kidding me?

Fine with me, get mad all you want to. After all we're all behind a computer.

You're going to try and excuse your behavior because you were drinking? So what happens the next time you and your friends are drunk? You wind up f.ucking someone on a dare, and then say "woops. It was a game and I was drunk and got carried away!" Own up to what you do. It wasn't the booze's fault. It was yours. It also wasn't a mistake, it was a choice you made.

This didn't happen so is irrelevant. There is no ifs as my bf doesn't want me speaking to them again.

You really don't give a crap at all do you?

Well I do acknowledge it was a misjudgment I made in the game (with alcohol consumption playing a role on this at the same time) but what else do you want me to do? Cry about it?

I was just having a conversation today regarding parenting, and how it doesn't exist anymore. When I was growing up, my a.ss was RAISED. I didn't just get older, I was taught right from wrong. I was taught to respect others, and more importantly I was taught to respect myself. This situation shows that not only do you not have a care for anyone but yourself, but you don't even respect yourself to behave in a dignified and classy manner.

Hence why the need to vent out.

And the fact you told him through Facebook is just so cowardly and spineless it's not even funny. You kids think Facebook is the be-all to end-all of the world. You have the balls to cheat, but not enough gut to tell him to his face.

Well I do work too and send the message during my break. What was I going to do? Excuse myself from work and go to his workplace or drive all the way to his aunt's house? At least that's a type of communication and is better than if I had not told him anything by no means.

Let me guess. You're one of those "I'm so popular" girls that walks down the hall acting like her s.hit don't stank. Let me tell you, you're going to b.itch slapped so hard across the face when you get out of that little high school bubble. And I'll also tell you, that high school glory days don't last forever.

I already graduated from HS and currently attending college. If there is something right about the first part of this paragraph is I'm fairly popular at school but at the same time graduated with a 3.63 GPA.

[Missy395]

Sounds like: As long as you treat me ok, I could care less how you treat others. You either all have the same "w/e, as long as it isn't me" moral compass, or you're the kind of friends that never tell each other you're wrong. Some people believe that supporting their friends through everything without disagreement, is true friendship.

Well I have another life example and it's regarding one of my father's closest friend. That friend was a player, got involved with several married women and went clubbing a lot but he was a great friend toward my father and would treat us all good. On my 16th birthday, he also came with a present. That guy would also send money to his elderly parents, was a great son to them.

 

My point is just because someone isn't good to a partner doesn't mean they're going to be bad with everyone else.

Edited September 25, 2013 by Missy395

[Ebelskiver]

Well so much for being honest. Now he's mad and is probably going to ask some questions.

 

It seems like maybe being honest isn't something that was expected and demanded of you growing up....it wasn't for me. Unfortunately I spent many years learning the value of honesty in the school of hard knocks. Of course he's going to ask questions. He's allowed. And you should be 100% honest. If you're doing things you have to lie to people about...perhaps you shouldn't be doing them.