Do you think this girl wants me to ask her to dinner? Was she shy? And did I blow it?

[gatorguy]

I am friends with this girl in college. We see each other a lot due to both being officers in the same organization, but lately we saw each other a lot one on one due to (Good) circumstance.

 

Anyway, last time I saw her, the first part of the conversation went something like this:

 

-I open door

Her: Hey..we should go to TGIF's! [Random to me]

Me: Sure, I'd be down.

Her: No just kidding, we should get pizza.

Me: Oh, cool, well I know this cool place called ___ I've never been to before that is apparently really good. That sounds good.

Her: Oh well I can't take my parents there. [Was kind of unexpected]. It is a hippie place they wouldn't like.

Me: Oh, your parents are coming? Cool.

-Topic changes

 

If she brought it up, does she want me to ask her to out somewhere, even if she then refuted it later?

 

 

I am hitting myself for not digging deeper.

[HoneyBadgerDontCare]

It sounds to me like you did ask her out and she turned you down.

[Copelandsanity]

Don't overanalyze it.

 

If you like her, ask her out.

 

If you're not into her, then don't.

 

If you're on the fence, be chill and act like a flirt.

[meandme]

what a weird exchange...?

[Polak]

I just don't understand how or why the parents got involved....

[Imported]

Ask her out. She's probably been giving you cues for a while that you completely missed. Her suggesting to go out and eat and then changing the subject without actually answering is just crazy girl logic where she wants to go out with you, but it's supposed to be you asking her out.

 

I think her "no just kidding lets get pizza" and "parents" thing is her mouth making sounds faster than her brain can think. Sometimes when people talk, I don't think even they know WTF they are saying. Her "we should go out...." was more of a "you should ask me out...." . Her changing the subject was probably the realization that she was asking you out and that's not how it's supposed to work, she'll look too desperate.....the man is suppose to ask. I could be completely wrong though.

[Polak]

Her changing the subject was probably the realization that she was asking you out and that's not how it's supposed to work, she'll look too desperate.....the man is suppose to ask.

 

I see what you mean. Re-reading the exchange, it looks like she backtracked pretty fast when she realized she was doing the asking out.

 

This time, gatorguy, you initiate!