Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 24, 2013 Author Share Posted September 24, 2013 Well, you need to block her then. If her awfulness is having that negative of an effect on your behavior, then you need to not let her have any sort of way to contact you. even if i block her. she's going to find a way to reach me. create another email, use other phones, have her stupid friends hit me up or even bother my family. i'm afraid of her showing up to my house. ppl are telling me she's looking for an argument because she misses the drama with me, and i've gone off the map. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted September 24, 2013 Share Posted September 24, 2013 even if i block her. she's going to find a way to reach me. create another email, use other phones, have her stupid friends hit me up or even bother my family. i'm afraid of her showing up to my house. ppl are telling me she's looking for an argument because she misses the drama with me, and i've gone off the map. Well, take solace in the fact that you have her all screwed up right now. Stop letting her get you down and keep taking the high road. You are the one who is in control of you. Don't let her have that type of negative effect on you. And please, please stop harboring hope of getting back with her. If you get back with her at this point, you are basically telling the world that you are a chump. Don't be a chump. Link to post Share on other sites
lauri Posted September 24, 2013 Share Posted September 24, 2013 I disagree vehemently with this. Not because she's his ex -- but just because her behavior is despicable and should not be rewarded in any way. I think he'd be better off just giving away the jacket, selling it on his own or burning the thing. What might be kind of money is if he sold the jacket and mailed her a check with her cut of the profits with a receipt of sale, then stopped responding. Yes it'd be petty, but it would be fitting of her pettiness. She'd have her money and it'd be hilarious. HAHAHA Please man...do this. This would be absolutely hilarious. She is being so petty I would just send her a dollar through the mail with a fake receipt of sale saying you sold it for cheap. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 24, 2013 Author Share Posted September 24, 2013 and by the way. You guys were right about her contacting me weeks after our fight, guess this is her way of revenge. Link to post Share on other sites
lauri Posted September 24, 2013 Share Posted September 24, 2013 and by the way. You guys were right about her contacting me weeks after our fight, guess this is her way of revenge. Exactly, it is. Trust me man, she has a lot of maturing to do. With time, she will mature but you don't have the time nor responsibly to be around for that. Take this as a lesson to learn how things happen and what to look out for. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 24, 2013 Author Share Posted September 24, 2013 that's exactly what my friends and family said, she has a lot of maturing to do. she's a little brat needs to get a spanking hahaha. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 25, 2013 Author Share Posted September 25, 2013 as I predicted, my ex contacts me again. She sent another email this morning saying "hi (my name) you're lack of no response informs me you cannot coropperate in a ma...." I didn't open it just read the first part. anyways she's starting to get to me and I feel like responding to her to speak my mind. Should I? Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted September 25, 2013 Share Posted September 25, 2013 Nope! Can't you see that your silence is already speaking volumes? It's driving her absolutely insane! But! Not your problem.. Funny thing is, she dated you! She knows exactly where you live! If talking to you was THAT important to her, nothing is stopping her from walking up to your door and knocking. Link to post Share on other sites
cavalier99 Posted September 25, 2013 Share Posted September 25, 2013 JUST BLOCK HER! It is total BS that she will just find a way to contact you. she might but it is a proactive step foward. Right now you are letting her control your thoughts and emotions and getting a little bit of a contact high from it. Grow some balls. Block her and be done with it. Rock on! Cav Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted September 25, 2013 Share Posted September 25, 2013 I'm not sure why you haven't blocked her? I'm thinking you actually like the attention, it gives you a certain level of emotional comfort, negative or not. The whole she'll create more email accounts, contact family and friends, come to your door is a little far fetched. And even if she does create a few more email accounts, just keep blocking. Your friends and family know about her silliness, what would be the problem there? And if she knocks, you don't have to open. I think you are choosing to keep communication open. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted September 25, 2013 Share Posted September 25, 2013 Don't respond. See how people hate to be ignored? What a drama queen. She clearly needs to be the center of attention. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 25, 2013 Author Share Posted September 25, 2013 fyi guys, she dumped me. i didn't want us to go our separate ways, i wanted us to work it out and all that sh*t. i want nothing more than to get back with her. but i am using no contact as you all suggested. i'm curious what her intentions are though. is wanting the jacket back a way of revenge, or is it a way of her to reach out to me, because she misses me? or could it be a test? who knows.. Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted September 25, 2013 Share Posted September 25, 2013 fyi guys, she dumped me. i didn't want us to go our separate ways, i wanted us to work it out and all that sh*t. i want nothing more than to get back with her. but i am using no contact as you all suggested. i'm curious what her intentions are though. is wanting the jacket back a way of revenge, or is it a way of her to reach out to me, because she misses me? or could it be a test? who knows.. Trust me...well all know. Quit building mountians out of molehills. She asked about a jacket. She isn't reaching out because she misses you or wants to be with you. This isn't a test or some sign to reach out. Its nothing at all. Stop punishing yourself and let it go. As you said, she broke uo with you and doesn't want to work it out. Stop it, go no contact, and end this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 25, 2013 Author Share Posted September 25, 2013 Trust me...well all know. Quit building mountians out of molehills. She asked about a jacket. She isn't reaching out because she misses you or wants to be with you. This isn't a test or some sign to reach out. Its nothing at all. Stop punishing yourself and let it go. As you said, she broke uo with you and doesn't want to work it out. Stop it, go no contact, and end this. if you knew her the way i do, you'd understand. i'm not trying to overanalyze this, because i know the way she works sometimes. like for example, she wanted me to prove her wrong that she broke up with me and wanted to see how i would react after the breakup...its a long story but i try to understand where i'm coming from. Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted September 25, 2013 Share Posted September 25, 2013 All this emotional manipulation and immaturity and you want to get back with her? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted September 25, 2013 Share Posted September 25, 2013 if you knew her the way i do, you'd understand. i'm not trying to overanalyze this, because i know the way she works sometimes. like for example, she wanted me to prove her wrong that she broke up with me and wanted to see how i would react after the breakup...its a long story but i try to understand where i'm coming from. Your story and you girl are no different than anything or anyone else. Its not unique or special in some way. We've all seen your story on here and we all tell you the same thing and for some reason, you agree but then continue to try and put your own spin on it in a positive way so that there is hope. Look, I'll be blunt: She is done. She isn't going to be coming back. If she wanted to work it out, she would...but she isn't. She doesnt want a relationship with you. That's it man. Quit reading into every action because all this self inflicted pain isn't do you any good. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted September 25, 2013 Share Posted September 25, 2013 if you knew her the way i do, you'd understand. i'm not trying to overanalyze this, because i know the way she works sometimes. like for example, she wanted me to prove her wrong that she broke up with me and wanted to see how i would react after the breakup...its a long story but i try to understand where i'm coming from. Do you realize how many times we hear the "if you knew her the way I do" crap? Thousands. Do you know how many times that actually makes the dumpee right about what's going and everyone else wrong? Maybe two or three. Stop acting like a idiotic wuss and block her. She's not trying to get you back -- she's trying to either a) annoy you or b) tug your chain. Block her and keep moving forward. How you can want this woman back is beyond me. What happened to you to where you have no self-respect? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Justletgo Posted September 25, 2013 Share Posted September 25, 2013 My ex is ignoring me without haven even given me any reason, I haven't done anything to her. And it's so -painstakingly- immature and annoying. It's like a little kid who won't answer. I'd prefer her to just say 'look I don't want to talk'. And I'd be happy. It's such a waste of time, just say you can't talk to her now OR talk it out. Saves soo much time, energy, hassle etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted September 25, 2013 Share Posted September 25, 2013 My ex is ignoring me without haven even given me any reason, I haven't done anything to her. And it's so -painstakingly- immature and annoying. It's like a little kid who won't answer. I'd prefer her to just say 'look I don't want to talk'. And I'd be happy. It's such a waste of time, just say you can't talk to her now OR talk it out. Saves soo much time, energy, hassle etc. Bad idea. He's not talking to her because he can't handle talking to her. Which is why your ex won't talk to you more than likely. It's not immature, it's self-preservation. It's immature of you to keep bothering her to talk when it's obvious she doesn't want to. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
cavalier99 Posted September 26, 2013 Share Posted September 26, 2013 Well ive seen this story before . I think hell finally go full NC and block her in a couple months when he has had enough. I was just hoping to that hed take some good advise and accelerate the recovery process. We all get there any way sooner or later. Cav 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted September 26, 2013 Share Posted September 26, 2013 Well ive seen this story before . I think hell finally go full NC and block her in a couple months when he has had enough. I was just hoping to that hed take some good advise and accelerate the recovery process. We all get there any way sooner or later. Cav I'm testamony to this. Cav told me for months to do what he is staying now. I did nt listen for a while because I thought the same way the poster did. Of course, I was wrong. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted September 26, 2013 Share Posted September 26, 2013 I'm testamony to this. Cav told me for months to do what he is staying now. I did nt listen for a while because I thought the same way the poster did. Of course, I was wrong. Time and time again, we see people on LS get burned by not going NC or by breaking it for some reason or another, myself included. I learned the hard way unfortunately, but at least I learned. OP, do not let this immature girl get inside your head. She is being awful and only wants a reaction. Don't give her the satisfaction. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 26, 2013 Author Share Posted September 26, 2013 she's gotten to the point of blackmailing me. since i'm not responding she threatened me never to see our pet anymore! SMH. wow, first she says "please respond by the end of the week." now she's getting mad, and its only wednesday?! she's pushing me away. Link to post Share on other sites
reddragon588 Posted September 26, 2013 Share Posted September 26, 2013 she's gotten to the point of blackmailing me. since i'm not responding she threatened me never to see our pet anymore! SMH. wow, first she says "please respond by the end of the week." now she's getting mad, and its only wednesday?! she's pushing me away. She's being an emotional manipulator. Don't give into her. She sounds like a beezy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 26, 2013 Author Share Posted September 26, 2013 She's being an emotional manipulator. Don't give into her. She sounds like a beezy. lol, i haven't heard that word 'beezy' since Mac Dre. Link to post Share on other sites
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