Simon Phoenix Posted September 26, 2013 Share Posted September 26, 2013 Block the number dude. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 26, 2013 Author Share Posted September 26, 2013 how do i block a phone number?! she wrote this long text, and sent a picture of a quote saying "it's not about how bad you want it... its about how hard you're willing to work for it!" i talked to my family about how she's all the sudden blowing up on me. they said "imagine being unhappily married to her and fighting all the time. but its obvious she misses you." Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted September 26, 2013 Share Posted September 26, 2013 how do i block a phone number?! she wrote this long text, and sent a picture of a quote saying "it's not about how bad you want it... its about how hard you're willing to work for it!" i talked to my family about how she's all the sudden blowing up on me. they said "imagine being unhappily married to her and fighting all the time. but its obvious she misses you." Contact your provider. They'll tell you how. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted September 26, 2013 Share Posted September 26, 2013 how do i block a phone number?! she wrote this long text, and sent a picture of a quote saying "it's not about how bad you want it... its about how hard you're willing to work for it!" i talked to my family about how she's all the sudden blowing up on me. they said "imagine being unhappily married to her and fighting all the time. but its obvious she misses you." :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes: Lets start with this: SHE ISN'T PUSHING YOU AWAY. She is already away. She pushed you away a LONG time ago. She is in New York and you are in California. Thats a pretty good distance away. She is "blackmailing" you because she wants to feel in control. Since you are not talking to her, she doesnt feel in control. She is tugging on the leash, and you arent there, so she is going a tad nutz-o. THAT DOES NOT MEAN SHE WANTS YOU BACK...I have to say that because I know how you spin lol. You are like watching Foxnews or MSNBC. This should only solidify the fact that she is NOT the girl for you and even more motivation to MOVE ON! Your family is saying this because they know you are upset and want you to feel better. My folks said the same thing back when it happened to me. I see it a lot. Change your number (call provider), block her number (call provider), or just ignore it. You wont do the latter, so do either one. I can bet my life savings that you WONT do it, but you SHOULD do it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 26, 2013 Author Share Posted September 26, 2013 alright. bet within the next week she shows up at my house, contacts my cousin, or threatens to have me jumped by her homies, haha. Link to post Share on other sites
Misfortune Posted September 26, 2013 Share Posted September 26, 2013 alright. bet within the next week she shows up at my house, contacts my cousin, or threatens to have me jumped by her homies, haha. For a jacket? If she takes it to that level, she really is a bit off her rockers. Best prepare for the storm. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted September 26, 2013 Share Posted September 26, 2013 For a jacket? If she takes it to that level, she really is a bit off her rockers. Best prepare for the storm. Dont encourage him hahaha. The kid WANTS the storm just to have her in his life and keep that hope. Its a jacket. Just give the damn thing to her. Unless you plan on buying a Delorean and traveling back to the 90's to when Starter jackets were cool, then there is no point of stressing about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted September 26, 2013 Share Posted September 26, 2013 Dont encourage him hahaha. The kid WANTS the storm just to have her in his life and keep that hope. Its a jacket. Just give the damn thing to her. Unless you plan on buying a Delorean and traveling back to the 90's to when Starter jackets were cool, then there is no point of stressing about it. He definitely shouldn't give it to her. He should sell it or give it to Goodwill. And I think you are right that Jiminy is getting off on this. Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted September 26, 2013 Share Posted September 26, 2013 (edited) He definitely shouldn't give it to her. He should sell it or give it to Goodwill. And I think you are right that Jiminy is getting off on this. HAHAHA at the end of that. I agree he SHOULD sell it, give it to goodwill, tear it up, etc. I only say give her the jacket because he is probably ONLY going to do one of two things (give it to her or not give it to her) BOTH of which are going to involve her. Thats what HE wants to do is involve her SOMEHOW. He will never do any of the two besides that (though he should). So thats why I suggested just have his cousin or something give her the jacket and let the mater end. Edited September 26, 2013 by ConfusedHumanBeing Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 26, 2013 Author Share Posted September 26, 2013 i'd record a video of me burning the jacket, and text it to her. but she's beyond the jacket, for now at least. she's blowing up about me not contacting her. saying i'm "immature, haven't grown up, blah blah blah." i'm doing the adult thing and avoiding her childish tantrums. Link to post Share on other sites
reddragon588 Posted September 26, 2013 Share Posted September 26, 2013 When she calls you immature, she is projecting. Moving on is the adult thing to do. Don't let her manipulate you like that. Let her stew in bitterness. By the way, Starter jackets will always be cool in my book, even if it isn't the 90s. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted September 26, 2013 Share Posted September 26, 2013 Yep! Saw that coming! Jacket turned into a quote about wanting it and working for it? Uh huh....it was never about the jacket. As I stated, it was just a link to get you talking.... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 26, 2013 Author Share Posted September 26, 2013 Yep! Saw that coming! Jacket turned into a quote about wanting it and working for it? Uh huh....it was never about the jacket. As I stated, it was just a link to get you talking.... idk if the quote was about me wanting her, and how hard i'm going to work for her, or how bad she wants the jacket, and how hard she's willing to work for that?! haha anyways, if she hates me, why is she using an excuse to contact me???? i'm so confused. Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted September 26, 2013 Share Posted September 26, 2013 You should just put yourself out of your misery with the "What does it meaaaaaannnnnn?!?! by contacting her. It's obvious you want her back. You'll be questioning every damn text because you're confused. The only reason you don't block is because you want the communication. It makes you feel validated. In your mind it's a sign of hope and it means she's still interested. Pick up the phone and ask. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted September 26, 2013 Share Posted September 26, 2013 Jiminy, you really need to stop analyzing this and you really need to evaluate why you think so little of yourself that you want this horrible, horrible, horrible person back in your life. Honestly, she's awful. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 26, 2013 Author Share Posted September 26, 2013 Jiminy, you really need to stop analyzing this and you really need to evaluate why you think so little of yourself that you want this horrible, horrible, horrible person back in your life. Honestly, she's awful. this would be a perfect example of a love/hate relationship. its like she has a split personality. she's a super b*tch, yet she's the only woman who can bring the best out of me. there's a thin line between love and hate with her. i'm not putting her up on a pedestal, because you know how mean she is. i'm willing to get back with her if she changes. Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted September 26, 2013 Share Posted September 26, 2013 this would be a perfect example of a love/hate relationship. its like she has a split personality. she's a super b*tch, yet she's the only woman who can bring the best out of me. there's a thin line between love and hate with her. i'm not putting her up on a pedestal, because you know how mean she is. i'm willing to get back with her if she changes. Someone that is mean, is a B*tch and has a split personality brings out the best in you? You're equally toxic if someone like that brings out the best in you or you're just so twinkle eyed and caught up with believing that maybe this dynamic you have is an exception, so special and different to what the norm would be in that it's just two people reacting to each other because they have emotional issues. Change takes time. Change takes self-reflection in that she acknowledges she needs help. Change takes work and effort. If she's not seeing that, are you going to be sitting and waiting for that lightbulb to go off and how long? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted September 26, 2013 Share Posted September 26, 2013 this would be a perfect example of a love/hate relationship. its like she has a split personality. she's a super b*tch, yet she's the only woman who can bring the best out of me. there's a thin line between love and hate with her. i'm not putting her up on a pedestal, because you know how mean she is. i'm willing to get back with her if she changes. I tend to agree with Zahara. If this is the type of person who brings out the best in you, what the hell is wrong with you? But yeah, I realize you are addicted to the drama, but if you are serious about moving forward and being a better person, you need to block your ex. And stop analyzing her anger -- I mean, in none of this is she even coming close to indicating that she made a mistake. She's just harassing and tormenting you. The fact that you find her actions as a possible avenue to reconciliation is a testament to how dysfunctional your relationship to her was in the first place. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lindsay1990 Posted September 26, 2013 Share Posted September 26, 2013 If you take her back there would be no need for her to change, so it will be the same cycle. If you stay split, maaaaaybe she will get the shock she needs (this honestly happened to me) and have a change of heart, but you won't be with her any time soon. Catch 22. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 27, 2013 Author Share Posted September 27, 2013 what i'm trying to say is, that its not all black and white. she was my best friend, she made me feel like the luckiest person alive. she's not perfect, but i have unconditional love for her. Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted September 27, 2013 Share Posted September 27, 2013 what i'm trying to say is, that its not all black and white. she was my best friend, she made me feel like the luckiest person alive. she's not perfect, but i have unconditional love for her. She was. She made. Past tense. You deal with what you have infront of you NOW. Unconditional love doesn't mean allowing yourself to get treated like crap. Don't try to idealize. It's just you having zero self-respect. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted September 27, 2013 Share Posted September 27, 2013 what i'm trying to say is, that its not all black and white. she was my best friend, she made me feel like the luckiest person alive. she's not perfect, but i have unconditional love for her. Good, then take her back and let her beat you with a shovel. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 27, 2013 Author Share Posted September 27, 2013 i get it. she's terrible now and i'm holding on to the past. if all of you could talk to her to tell her how bad she treats me. she's always ms. right, thinks that she has all the answers and i'm the one who f*cked up our relationship. she can't take ownership for adding to the failure of our relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted September 27, 2013 Share Posted September 27, 2013 (edited) i would never do this take back gifts, i would get offended if a guy gave it back to me, no oen in my life has ever returned something i give ...its part of me to give little bits fo me to people i care for...if a relationship ends...that gift is theirs....in fact .....i met my half sis......and i knew the last time i met her i wouldnt be able to see her again......possessive boyfriend at the time didnt like i had found my genetic dad or half sis.......i chose him.............anyway...i had on my most expensive necklace .......i treasured it .......on a whim and because my heart was breaking because she was making plans for us to go out to lunch in a couple of weeks...when we said goodbye i took my necklace off and said i want you to have this just because i am so glad to have met you.....i think you are a beautiful person adn i put it on her neck ....she didnt want to take it from me i told her it was just something i found that was special to me and i wanted her have it because i said your pretty special too.......she got a bit teary and we hugged goodbye...i never saw her again and i moved interstate that same year that necklace was the only necklace i ever wore.....for i am glad she has it......sorry rambling ill stop...... in saying this i think i am about to be a bit different to other posters.....i dont feel you should have to give it back .....BUT........you do because she asked for it...not saying its right for her to ask, because it isnt in my thoughts or code of conduct...its being spiteful in my mind to get at you.....so dont let it......send it by post to her address....stay no contact...do not put a message in with it....do not contact her to tell her you are sending it.......you dont need a spiteful womans jacket to have memories....they are yours forever not her memories and they cant be taken back....give her what she wants, give her the materialistic pleasure she craves.....but not the satisfaction of causing you grief..........next time when you heal ....find someone who would give you something with the pleasure of expecting nothing in return, or for that soemthing to be returned once the relationship terminates...that aint love...love is never about materialism..... love is the art of giving and expecting nothign in return........because you had that love in yoru heart for her.....give .....it back..........deb Edited September 27, 2013 by todreaminblue Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted September 27, 2013 Share Posted September 27, 2013 i would never do this take back gifts, i would get offended if a guy gave it back to me, no oen in my life has ever returned something i give ...its part of me to give little bits fo me to people i care for...if a relationship ends...that gift is theirs....in fact .....i met my half sis......and i knew the last time i met her i wouldnt be able to see her again......possessive boyfriend at the time didnt like i had found my genetic dad or half sis.......i chose him.............anyway...i had on my most expensive necklace .......i treasured it .......on a whim and because my heart was breaking because she was making plans for us to go out to lunch in a couple of weeks...when we said goodbye i took my necklace off and said i want you to have this just because i am so glad to have met you.....i think you are a beautiful person adn i put it on her neck ....she didnt want to take it from me i told her it was just something i found that was special to me and i wanted her have it because i said your pretty special too.......she got a bit teary and we hugged goodbye...i never saw her again and i moved interstate that same year that necklace was the only necklace i ever wore.....for i am glad she has it......sorry rambling ill stop...... in saying this i think i am about to be a bit different to other posters.....i dont feel you should have to give it back .....BUT........you do because she asked for it...not saying its right for her to ask, because it isnt in my thoughts or code of conduct...its being spiteful in my mind to get at you.....so dont let it......send it by post to her address....stay no contact...do not put a message in with it....do not contact her to tell her you are sending it.......you dont need a spiteful womans jacket to have memories....they are yours forever not her memories and they cant be taken back....give her what she wants, give her the materialistic pleasure she craves.....but not the satisfaction of causing you grief..........next time when you heal ....find someone who would give you something with the pleasure of expecting nothing in return, or for that soemthing to be returned once the relationship terminates...that aint love...love is never about materialism..... love is the art of giving and expecting nothign in return........because you had that love in yoru heart for her.....give .....it back..........deb You don't reward bad behavior. Link to post Share on other sites
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