I think she's trying to break us up

[kds1369]

My best friend is a guy...Jim...who lives a couple hours away. We talk every day on the phone and text constantly. He broke up with his ex girlfriend and tried dating site. He met this girl, Sophia and after 1 date decided he wasn't ready to date and wanted to be just friends. A few months later, he met this girl Sarah, who I think is trash and using him for his money. We got into an argument, him accusing me of trying to interfere with him and Sarah, me saying I felt like he didn't care about me anymore. I told him to give me space. His ex gf started causing him legal trouble and got arrested. His mom called me in a panic and I attempted to help her find out where he went. In the mean time, Sophia messaged me on fb wanting to know if I'd heard from Jim. She started texting me, and I texted a couple times to see what was going on. She started telling me things he had supposedly said and I got very upset. She "claims" She has a boyfriend and they were just super good friends. I sent him an email telling him why I was so upset and telling him it was up to him to make amends. This girl keeps texting me, and as much as I don't want to really talk to her Im afraid he will really be pissed if he knew I was talking to her. She texted me the other night and said "Jim thinks you are working with his ex gf against him". I was so upset and thought how he could acuse me. Later she calls me and says I asked him if he'd heard from you and he said no so I said "Maybe she's working with your ex gf". Then she would text me just to let me know Jim texted her to say hi (like I'm not upset already he isn't talking to me.) So I'm in a predicament...I think this girl is trying to keep him away from him but how do I A) get this girl to stop talking to me without me being mean as she will tell him things ive said (im so stupid) and B) get my best friend back in my life and figure out if Sophia truly is a bitch.

[JessieJ08]

I think you just need to stop talking to her ask her not to text you or call. Im not quite sure why you care this much about who he is dating he is your friend let him date who he wants Its one thing to tell him you don't like who he is dating a whole other to act like you hate the girls guts which you may but you still have to have respect for your friend thats who he is into for whatever reason let him be Im sure he will be with more girls in the near future you may not like but your not dating them he is.

 

Respect that or your not truly his friend. Another if you dont like them dont associate with them unless its thru him What is the point it avoids drama which sounds like thats what your being to your friend

 

Talk to him and say you dont want her texting you not because you dont like her but because it seems weird, say you would feel better if he was around when talking to her. Its just more respectful to him Good luck

[The Way I Am]

I think you should just tell your "friend" Jim you have feelings for him. Don't try to pretend you don't, because it's pretty obvious that you do.

 

If you can't do that or have already and been rejected, you should get him out of your life so you can find a man you don't have these kinds of worries over.