I'm an addict, I guess

[steveT95]

Nearer to the beginning of the year when my relationship broke down and I discussed things with a counsellor, it became apparent that it was more like an addiction for me than anything else. And it was. I was only happen when I was with her, my life was spent waiting for the next time I'd see her. I wasn't living life unless it had some involvement with her. It was very extreme.

 

When we broke up that addiction was replaced with.. Facebook. I used to go to it whenever I was feeling down or anxious or whatever negative emotion and it would distract me from whatever is going on and I would feel better. I keep going to it now and I can't help myself. I know it's not a big life threatening addiction but it is seriously affecting my productivity and I can't help it. In August I had a week without it but I was always tempted by it. I'm not sure what to do, with a lot of friends it is the only way I can keep in touch with them.

 

I also find that I become focused on particular people too much. Whenever someone new comes into my life I just want to talk to them and hang out with them, to the point where it could seem a bit clingy. And I just can't help myself. I'm sure there's some psychological explanation but I don't know.

 

It's all kind of worrying me.

[almond]

There are many underlying causes for such fixations, filling voids..blah blah...but I'll spare you the arm chair psychology.

 

Please, find a psychologist and go and work through this with them. The "addiction" is not the problem here, it is whatever is causing it. Get help, get to the bottom of it, and start living your life again <3

[steveT95]

I've just finished counselling. I'm not allowed any more for a few months. I could get some at college, but they aren't professionals.

 

Any tips for combating this by myself?