Goodbye Posted September 24, 2013 Share Posted September 24, 2013 My exH's OW has been trying to befriend me. At the end of my 17 year M, my ex-H had an affair (which lasted quite a while after our D) with another "soccer mom" from town. My exH has now moved onto to a younger gal...and it seems quite serious. So...his exOW has been contacting me, under the guise of getting our kids together. She will then ask to go for dog walks or out for coffee. Through all of this and my own relationship with a MM I've come to realize that we are all just humans...quite imperfect. I'm meeting this exOW for lunch...see what it is she wants to chat about so badly. Link to post Share on other sites
Sarabi Posted September 24, 2013 Share Posted September 24, 2013 True. We are indeed human But just like the pigs in Animal Farm once said in relation to equality..."some of us believe we are more human than others" Hope lunch/coffee is ok good for you for giving it a go. You never know...it could be the beginning of a beautiful friendship... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Goodbye Posted September 24, 2013 Author Share Posted September 24, 2013 Should be an interesting lunch. She's probably digging for dirt. Yes, I suspect this is the case. I think she probably thinks I am jealous of my exH being off with the young attractive woman. But...I don't really care other than it doesn't send a great message to my teen daughters. I don't have dirt to give her, but I do have wisdom...and that is that she should consider herself lucky that he moved on and left her behind. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
AutumnMoon Posted September 24, 2013 Share Posted September 24, 2013 You are a classy lady. Maybe she wants to apologize. Does she know you know about their affair? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
legalgirl Posted September 24, 2013 Share Posted September 24, 2013 You are a brave woman. Kuddos to you for holding your head high!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Goodbye Posted September 24, 2013 Author Share Posted September 24, 2013 You are a classy lady. Maybe she wants to apologize. Does she know you know about their affair? Yes, she knows...I had her deposed during my divorce. Perhaps she wants to apologize although I never blamed her for anything...I do believe she was probably misled by my exH. Or maybe I'm just putting it in the context of my own former "mistakes" with a MM (who presented his marriage as "over"). I've had interaction with her over the past 3 years as our daughters do participate in activities together. If she is apologizing now, it would be pretty random. I'm a bit different from most BS's as I didn't find out about the A until AFTER I'd filed for divorce, during the proceedings. I had suspicions, but wanted out of the marriage anyway and didn't really consider it much of a factor in my need to end the marriage. So, I never really harbored resentment toward her...and for him, it just confirmed for me that he is a sex addict...he wasn't "getting it" from me because I was depressed, so he felt entitled to get it elsewhere. Ugh. I'm done with that madness...both ExH and ExMM. I do feel like damaged goods. I do wonder if I will ever meet a suitable mate. Sorry, I'm thread jacking my own thread. Link to post Share on other sites
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