why must the fat girls at work insist on telling me everyday that i'm gaining weight?

[MarilynMonroe]

I just have one question... why is it that people who are "plus size" are the first ones to tell u that u're gaining weight???

 

I'm 5'4" and I weigh 160. I'm not fat; I'm thick. my mom passed down her gene for thick legs which is what attracted my dad to her. i'm a black girl so it's cool for us to be thick. i mean, in black culture, if a girl is too skinny, we pick on her and tell her to go eat something, but it seems like when u see white girls on tv, it's like the skinnier the better. that's not cool cuz that's what makes chicks anorexic and bulemic. and it's thanksgiving so today is not a good day for anorexics....

 

anyway, back to my question, i'll admit that i am like 15 pounds thicker than i'd like to be. i want to get back into a size 10. i'm a 12/13 now. i'd like to trim my legs down a little and i have a pudge...

 

so now at work, this chick who used to call herself my friend who is shorter than me and weighs a lot more than me... had the nerve to ask me if i was pregnant and when i said hell no.. she told me i'm getting fat. and it's funny because she's gained more weight recently. i mean one of her thighs is wider than my whole body! i know she weighs at least 230 because my mom weighs 210 and she's bigger than my mom. and my mom is a gorgeous woman. so i don't have anything against bigger people. i just don't understand why must they be the first ones to tell u u're getting fat. that is so rude and i think with all the negative things people say and do to plus sized people, especially women, they should be more sensitive about weight issues. i mean they're just being rude to me and i'm not fat yet! and i know i'm gaining weight. i don't need anyone telling me that i'm gaining weight. i think weight is one of the biggest struggles for women in the u.s. i mean every morning when i squeeze into my jeans and put on shirts that show my pudge and my belly, i know i've gained weight. so i don't need them telling me this. i mean this is getting on my last nerve. so what should i say to them next time they say some stupid stuff like that???

 

i've already decided that i'm starting an exercise/diet program next week so i can reward myself with nice, cute clothes for x-mas...

[Missy1171]

I really don't have any advice on what to tell the girls. Because my sister is kinda pudgy and

everybody is always telling her she is gaining weight too, this p***es me off so bad!

 

But I can tell you that with exercise and diet, the Trim Spa works really great! I lost 22 pds

in like 2 mths on that.

 

Good luck and God bless!

[Merin]

Hmm.. Well, you know it's wierd because sometimes I think some people actually think they are "helping" and of course there are those other people who are just being jackasses by pointing out what they consider to be "flawed" in those around them..

 

I think the best thing to say is "I'm happy with myself, but thanks for your concern."

[heckno]

Miss manners would be very offended at this!

 

If someone tells you you're gaining weight, and they're bigger than you, chances are they're just jealous of something. I've read your other posts and it seems like the women at your job like to pick on you regardless.

 

This being said, next time a woman tells you you're gaining weight, say "yeah, I noticed you have been too, maybe we should collaborate on a diet together before we both get as big as trailers".. that will shut them up.

[Queen B]

Oh my go heckno that is too funny...it's the PERFECT response!!!!

[GirlDown]

Originally posted by MarilynMonroe

I just have one question... why is it that people who are "plus size" are the first ones to tell u that u're gaining weight???

 

if a girl is too skinny, we pick on her and tell her to go eat something, but it seems like when u see white girls on tv, it's like the skinnier the better.

 

i just don't understand why must they be the first ones to tell u u're getting fat. that is so rude and i think with all the negative things people say and do to plus sized people, especially women, they should be more sensitive about weight issues. i mean they're just being rude to me and i'm not fat yet! and i know i'm gaining weight. i don't need anyone telling me that i'm gaining weight. i think weight is one of the biggest struggles for women in the u.s. i mean every morning when i squeeze into my jeans and put on shirts that show my pudge and my belly, i know i've gained weight. so i don't need them telling me this. i mean this is getting on my last nerve. so what should i say to them next time they say some stupid stuff like that???

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first of all, it isn't really a race issue...you will never see a fat halle berry, unless she is out of work. beyonce is in good shape, except for her caboose, which is in fact, like you said, excused because she is black. i think that's ridiculous, because non-existent asses aren't any man's cup of tea and it has nothing to do with race...at least the ones i know. i don't know any men looking for skeletal white chicks. they are looking for a real woman. end of story. they may like looking at the pretty ones on TV, but it isn't what they want to curl up to every night. it's just not reality.

 

as for the rest of your comment, this is also how some skinny people feel when you pick on them by saying "go eat something."

maybe they do have an eating disorder, maybe not. in any case, no one should tease anyone about weight, regardless of the skinny/fat dichotomy.

 

i had a friend who no matter what, could not gain weight. she went through life desperately trying to convince people she did not have a problem, she was just that skinny. another friend's mother said to her once at a pool party "how can you even show yourself in that bathing suit? you look like a cancerous skeleton or an AIDS patient"

 

she went home crying (keep in mind this was at 17) and never wore a bathing suit again. she still will not waer one, to this day, and this is 7 years later.

 

it goes both ways. you pick on skinny, others pick on fat.

 

frankly i think everyone should shut up and mind their own business. if you don't like what you're looking at, then stop looking, you know?

 

and HECKNO i am still laughing like a maniac at your reply!

[DayumQuitPlayin]

LMAO

 

Its always them fat girls to say something

[GirlDown]

dayum...

 

what does that mean?

[DTNut1928]

Don't worry about those chicks there. Fat women need love too (I;m not joking, I really mean that). Besides, some guys actually find more weight to be sexy, mer included. In all honesty, I'd rather have a woman like Mia Tyler (who, btw, is gorgeous) than someone like Paris Hilton (honest to God, I do not think she is cute). IF you're worried about the weight, then do something along your line of thinking and don't worry about the girls at work. They're really just jealous or mean.

[DayumQuitPlayin]

dayum...

 

what does that mean?

 

I was just playing. I was saying that its always the fat girls who always have something to say about other people. I wasn't being serious though.

[tiki]

Marilyn, they're just mad because you're not as fat as they are yet. Ask them how they'd like it if you told them they were putting on weight.

[UCFKevin]

Maybe this girl doesn't want you to end up like she did.

[einahpets]

i am starting to think that it makes them feel better about themselves. i weigh 117 (i am naturally thin, it took a lot of eating to get me to that weight). people feel that because i am thinner than them they can constantly mention my weight and it is ok. it gave me a complex when i was younger, people always telling me i am too skinny asking me if i am anorexic. i still won't wear shorts in the summertime because i feel like i have chicken legs. it makes me furious, we all have feelings no matter what our weight. i really don't have any advice because i know it is hard not to let those comments get to you. just realize that they are only saying those things because they have self-esteem issues (whether they realize it or not). as long as you are happy and healthy that is all that matters. don't listen to them!

[tiki]

Tell them, "Yeah, if I keep gaining weight, I'll be as fat as you". That'll shut 'em up.