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Well today at work I got this random text from my ex saying "I'm sorry" I just shrugged it off like whatever.

 

A half hour later I get this:

 

"I realize you weren't the problem in our relationship and I see it now and I know what I need to do in life to make things better for me. Though I don't think I'll ever be happy with myself. I put you through a lot of ****, and I'm sorry. I don't want you to reply tho. I just been thinking a lot and wanted to say sorry for being wrong."

 

I just kind of wanted to share this because it made me feel a little better. She finally came to her senses. Time will only tell now. But I HAVE NOT replied and I'm not in tears or anything so I came a long way since the break up. I'm still NC. Any opinions or anything please share.

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Well today at work I got this random text from my ex saying "I'm sorry" I just shrugged it off like whatever.

 

A half hour later I get this:

 

"I realize you weren't the problem in our relationship and I see it now and I know what I need to do in life to make things better for me. Though I don't think I'll ever be happy with myself. I put you through a lot of ****, and I'm sorry. I don't want you to reply tho. I just been thinking a lot and wanted to say sorry for being wrong."

 

I just kind of wanted to share this because it made me feel a little better. She finally came to her senses. Time will only tell now. But I HAVE NOT replied and I'm not in tears or anything so I came a long way since the break up. I'm still NC. Any opinions or anything please share.

 

It is nice to see she came to her senses and said sorry for what she did. However, if you feel like it maybe one day you two can talk just as friends. How long have you been in NC for?

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It is nice to see she came to her senses and said sorry for what she did. However, if you feel like it maybe one day you two can talk just as friends. How long have you been in NC for?

 

Its been about a month NC.

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Since she flat out said she didn't want you to reply..........don't.

 

She'll contact you again if she wants to try again. This is probably an ease her conscious text. Good for her, bad for you (because it just gets you thinking again) So don't reply.

 

If she wants to try again (and you do too) you have to make her earn that opportunity.......otherwise you risk, letting her come back, just to break your heart all over again.

 

Oh trust me I'm over the hurt. I only miss her sometimes maybe 2 times a week? I'm not replying either. I'm not letter her come back so easy either.

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Oh trust me I'm over the hurt. I only miss her sometimes maybe 2 times a week? I'm not replying either. I'm not letter her come back so easy either.

 

Doesn't seem like she wants to try again, not yet anyways. Even if she did, I would give it a few more months. She just had her epiphany and it'll take a lot of time for these new changes to stick.

 

Wish I would. Get an apology :( No1 really does things face to face anymore, I wonder how ex lovers would apologize/recon b4 phones/texts?

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That's kind of awesome actually. I bet most of us dumpees would like something like that from our exes. (An apology or admission of fault) Not saying you should take her back but, who knows. The ball is in her court. If she is serious you will find out in time. But for now stick to NC.

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That's kind of awesome actually. I bet most of us dumpees would like something like that from our exes. (An apology or admission of fault) Not saying you should take her back but, who knows. The ball is in her court. If she is serious you will find out in time. But for now stick to NC.

 

Yeah definitely. I, for one, am kind of desperate for answers and I'm fearing that I won't get them. I don't think I'd get back to her but a part of me is rooting for her to have some sort of epiphany and change to how she once was.

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hum...

 

yeah, she may have had an epiphany or she may simply be telling you exactly what you want to hear, in order to get you back or get you to break NC.

 

It's one thing to offer your apologies, it's a different thing to mean it and a totally different thing to prove it.

 

Either way, it feels great, I know, I've been there. Enjoy that recognition and your silent victory and think hard, remember everything about all the misery she put you through.

 

Her promise to change and evolve, her development - potential or future - are none of your concern. Everybody says they want to change, some even want to change, but very very few manage to change. Change is very very hard and takes a lot of time.

 

Great words, fantastic intentions... but these are none of your businesses, stay out. Play it safe, one month of NC is nothing.

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hum...

 

yeah, she may have had an epiphany or she may simply be telling you exactly what you want to hear, in order to get you back or get you to break NC.

 

It's one thing to offer your apologies, it's a different thing to mean it and a totally different thing to prove it.

 

Either way, it feels great, I know, I've been there. Enjoy that recognition and your silent victory and think hard, remember everything about all the misery she put you through.

 

Her promise to change and evolve, her development - potential or future - are none of your concern. Everybody says they want to change, some even want to change, but very very few manage to change. Change is very very hard and takes a lot of time.

 

Great words, fantastic intentions... but these are none of your businesses, stay out. Play it safe, one month of NC is nothing.

 

I know I'm not getting any hopes up or anything. I will forgive but never forget. It really just proves to me that I was right about her and what she's going through. Also words ain't **** compared to actions.

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I got another couple texts saying "I never meant to hurt you" and another saying to listen to a certain song. Still NC from me.

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Good move, Stormer....clearly she is up to something. Let her process whatever it is, you stay well.

 

I'm just letting her figure her life out for now. I'm still working on mine but thanks for the kind words.

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I am not saying that this might happen for sure, but she is preparing her big come back.

 

Try and get yourself ready for that. Figure out what you want. Figure out what went wrong and make sure you stay aware of those reasons, while she will try to woe you with her "I am sorry" game.

 

Because regularly, an "I am sorry" usually is followed by "I want you back". Anticipate that move and think about what you want and about what's best for you.

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I am not saying that this might happen for sure, but she is preparing her big come back.

 

Try and get yourself ready for that. Figure out what you want. Figure out what went wrong and make sure you stay aware of those reasons, while she will try to woe you with her "I am sorry" game.

 

Because regularly, an "I am sorry" usually is followed by "I want you back". Anticipate that move and think about what you want and about what's best for you.

 

I'm still figuring it out. I understand what she's going through YET its not an excuse for what she did. I can always forgive but I can't forget. I know whats best for me now.

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I'm very happy for you. And you seem to be doing well. May I know what caused the break up in the first place? You seem pissed at what she did. Just curious, you don't have to relive it if you don't want to. ;)

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I'm still figuring it out. I understand what she's going through YET its not an excuse for what she did. I can always forgive but I can't forget. I know whats best for me now.

 

Everybody goes through sh*t. It's not an excuse to treat those around you like sh*t, that is a personal choice.

 

And even if you did dump her because of her past behavior, take her back and she'll think she will always be able to get away with it.

 

People never change.

 

Plenty, plenty of women out there who will treat you well, no matter what ! Remember, you don't get the love you deserve, you get the love you settle for. Ask for more and learn from you mistakes.

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Everybody goes through sh*t. It's not an excuse to treat those around you like sh*t, that is a personal choice.

 

And even if you did dump her because of her past behavior, take her back and she'll think she will always be able to get away with it.

 

People never change.

 

Plenty, plenty of women out there who will treat you well, no matter what ! Remember, you don't get the love you deserve, you get the love you settle for. Ask for more and learn from you mistakes.

 

She left me. I know I don't deserve to get treated like that so thats why I'm still NC. Even if she says lets get back together I need to see change in her before I even think of it and maybe BIG maybe then. What she needs to do is grow up and realize little things in life are the things that make it good.

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I'm very happy for you. And you seem to be doing well. May I know what caused the break up in the first place? You seem pissed at what she did. Just curious, you don't have to relive it if you don't want to. ;)

 

I'm doing way better then before. She pretty much left me because she thought I was making her unhappy. More to it but don't feel like talking about it anymore.

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