h0000 Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 Could it be she got dumped thats why she's very sad and miss you very much now? Link to post Share on other sites
Fufu Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 I'm glad you are keeping up with your NC and I hope you stay this for a very very very long time. About your ex, she's a past. I know of people who are dumpers and yet want to remain like a "saint" in their dumpees' hearts. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Turnandcough Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 Never stress over things you can't change. The past is in the past, and it's not worth your attention. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author stormer1092 Posted October 3, 2013 Author Share Posted October 3, 2013 It's called manipulation . Don't give in, stay strong and figure out what you want. Do you know what exactly you want from her - anything in particular for her to admit or to say? How would things have to change, for the two of you to function? I would really like her to say I miss you. Thats the only thing she hasn't said out right yet. Link to post Share on other sites
Author stormer1092 Posted October 3, 2013 Author Share Posted October 3, 2013 Your mother is to be completely trusted and isn't exaggerating? Yes.. She wouldn't lie about this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author stormer1092 Posted October 3, 2013 Author Share Posted October 3, 2013 Personally, I feel you should make contact with her. She's already put herself out there, and is showing you her vulnerability, and now is the time to act on it. Don't go RUNNING back, but simply waltz back into her head and heart. Reply to her with a simple "Okay," and see how she takes it. You want to take advantage of this situation if you'd like to start something fresh with her. Else, that vulnerable feeling she has will wear off, and you may never get another chance. I'm thinking of reaching out. I'm just not sure what to say. Link to post Share on other sites
Fufu Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 I'm thinking of reaching out. I'm just not sure what to say. If you donno what to say, that's the reason to stay NC. Many people mistaken NC as a way to get back to their exes (I hope you are not thinking in this way) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
candie13 Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 I'm thinking of reaching out. I'm just not sure what to say. wait a little longer - wait for her to contact you first, do not initiate contact, you'll lose your upper hand. I think "i miss you" in implied, given how often she reaches out to you and the variety of communication channels she keeps open with you. You need to understand that hearing "I miss you" won't solve your problems. It might do well to your bruised ego, but it won't change a thing as to your dynamic. Try to understand what caused the break up and ask for that thing to be fixed. I mean, if you take her back right now, things will be exactly as they were before. And I remember you that they led to a break up. Understand what needs to be done to fix your relationship. That is the big issue. That and being willing to put up the work to do it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
cavalier99 Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 (edited) I'm thinking of reaching out. I'm just not sure what to say. Your in for world of hurt if you contact her. DONT do it. Why becuase she said some BS about her suffering to your mom ...doesnt mean jack sh*t. Not your problem. Stay NC and stop getting info about her.! If she wants to beg you back and profusly appoligise she knows where to find you. Why should you reach out? NEVER EVER do this. SHE BROKE UP WITH YOU and broke you heart Remember???? If anything you should be flaming pissed she is still talking to your family. Cut her out like a cancer and tell your family to do the same. Cav Edited October 3, 2013 by cavalier99 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author stormer1092 Posted October 3, 2013 Author Share Posted October 3, 2013 wait a little longer - wait for her to contact you first, do not initiate contact, you'll lose your upper hand. I think "i miss you" in implied, given how often she reaches out to you and the variety of communication channels she keeps open with you. You need to understand that hearing "I miss you" won't solve your problems. It might do well to your bruised ego, but it won't change a thing as to your dynamic. Try to understand what caused the break up and ask for that thing to be fixed. I mean, if you take her back right now, things will be exactly as they were before. And I remember you that they led to a break up. Understand what needs to be done to fix your relationship. That is the big issue. That and being willing to put up the work to do it. I know what caused it. I've been doing nothing but working on bettering myself in the mean time. I know what needs to be fixed and its definitely fixable. I'm not planning on taking her back right away either. But I would think the communication needs to be open to even think about it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author stormer1092 Posted October 3, 2013 Author Share Posted October 3, 2013 If you donno what to say, that's the reason to stay NC. Many people mistaken NC as a way to get back to their exes (I hope you are not thinking in this way) I know that NC is to heal yourself. Nothing else. Link to post Share on other sites
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