cocorico Posted October 1, 2013 Share Posted October 1, 2013 This WS put all that energy and more into her marriage....for years, WITH clear communication of the problems. H flat didn't care or didn't want to change anything. None of that excuses my horrible choice to have an A. I just get tired of the assumption that the WS must have just laid around and done nothing or never spoke up. Again, I get why that belief is more comfortable, but it isn't always the case. This was the case with my H too. I've seen him in action over years, his communication skills are just fine. In every other context they've worked excellently for decades. Yet, in his previous M, it's all down to *him* getting it all wrong? Yeah right! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
cocorico Posted October 1, 2013 Share Posted October 1, 2013 Define clear communication. I think people here have very different ideas about what that means. Exactly. To her, it was, "I can't hear you unless you're saying what I want to hear - that it's all your fault and everything is just dandy". 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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