cugo999 Posted November 26, 2004 Share Posted November 26, 2004 If you love somebody, why would you sit there, waiting for them to call you first?. Why not tell them you love them this much, let them know how you feel about them?. Why is relationship full of this mind games??. Hard to get, NC and all that??. It is just a waste of time and abuse of what love is meant to be. Our parents do not play this kind of mind games with us. They do love us, and they admit it. We love our kids and we admint it. Could it be the same with men/women love thing?. I am tired of it and I do not think it is even fair to admint to some body that you love them. After all, they treat tyou the way they know best. Cheat on you, I need space, I don't think this gonna work, I need time to think, if he/she doesn't call first I am not gonna call,.....i don't understand all these. I have a gf of 3ys. I trully loved her. I have been very honest to her as regards to my feelings. I have told her how I feel about her. From the beginning she was great, could get time for us and all that. The last one year I have only seen her 3 times. She call occassionaly and says it is work load from college and work that makes it hard for her to get time for us. I am kind of a person who trust people on what they say. So I have been ok with all that. There are things she has done to me that i am beginning to understand clearly, eg hanging up on me whenever we are talking, fighting, talking to my best friend.,make me feel like I am the one on the wrong all the time. Always putting conditions like if you don't apologise it is over and all that. The last time we talked she hang up on me. That was 4 weeks ago. I have not called her since then. She once called after two weeks, never left a message. She called again a week later and left a message like she was thinking about me and just wanted to say hi and everything is greak with her, she is doing great and hope to talk to me soon. It is been a week since she left that message. I haven't called her back yet and I don't feel like calling any time soon.It is my belief that this woman is taking my feelings for granted and no matter how much I might love her, it is over if she takes me for granted. For you girls, what should I do with her???????????. I don't wanna call her not now . I still love her though but I need her input in this relationship. Any advice Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 26, 2004 Share Posted November 26, 2004 Let me get this straight.... You have only seen your girlfriend 3 times in the last year? She is NOT your girlfriend. You should spend your time looking for someone else if you want an honest opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cugo999 Posted November 26, 2004 Author Share Posted November 26, 2004 Yes, only 3 times, with a lot of talking in between. I thought it was not a big deal. I am beginning to think now it is Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 26, 2004 Share Posted November 26, 2004 She made her choice, now its time for you to make yours. You can either sit around and pine for someone who has moved on, or you can move on and look for someone who will want to be with you and will love you. Nobody wants to be the 'ass' in a relationship. My guess is that she is hoping that YOU will do the breaking up, so that she doesn't get stuck with the blame. Love is not ditching someone, being too busy for them, hanging up on them or making them feel like they are wrong all the time. Love is not having to go through agonizing measures just to hold on to a dying and limping relationship. Those are very clear signs that the person DOES NOT love you. Its just up to you to accept it and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cugo999 Posted November 26, 2004 Author Share Posted November 26, 2004 Originally posted by LucreziaBorgia My guess is that she is hoping that YOU will do the breaking up, so that she doesn't get stuck with the blame. I think you are right here. I am ready to move on. I am very confident with my self. I have not called for 4 weeks and I can live with that. Thanks for pointing that out. From today onwards it is over with us. I might decide to tell her that the next time we will ever have time to talk Link to post Share on other sites
Author cugo999 Posted November 26, 2004 Author Share Posted November 26, 2004 Just wondering? Why would she tell me every time we talk that she loves me and even suggested we should get engaged?? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 26, 2004 Share Posted November 26, 2004 Originally posted by cugo999 Just wondering? Why would she tell me every time we talk that she loves me and even suggested we should get engaged?? Cause that is the way of the female. Some of them like to play games and string guys along just for entertainment. They like the attention. The question you SHOULD be asking is "why would she say she loves me and wants to get engaged if I have only seen her 3 times in the last year?" WHEN IT COMES TO WOMEN PUT LESS IMPORTANCE ON THEIR WORDS AND MORE IMPORTANCE ON THEIR ACTIONS AND WHAT THEY DO!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
pancakepalace Posted November 27, 2004 Share Posted November 27, 2004 The problem here is that words and actions are not in unisson. If you only seen her 3 days in the past year and if this is not because she moved to someplace else, then the word 'girlfriend' is not being used in it's proper definition. You need to attach an adjective to it. 'single girlfriend' Yes, only 3 times, with a lot of talking in between. I thought it was not a big deal Let's rephrase this with our new word set. My single girlfriend and I have only seen each other, yes, only 3 times in the past year and a lot of talking in between. I thought it was not a big deal. The phrases make more sense now, but there is still a problem near the end. Can you find it? Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 27, 2004 Share Posted November 27, 2004 wow dude, I saw my ex 3 times in the last 3 months and that says a lot if you knew the kind of person she has become now. As for telling the person (ie an ex) we love how much we love them....people (including me in the past) have doen that and it just blows up in our faces. I am all for honesty in this life but most don't care for honesty. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cugo999 Posted November 27, 2004 Author Share Posted November 27, 2004 I think it would be fair to be giving people space . It is by being so close our gf that makes us feel like crap when they are gone. For each of the meetings, it is been real and enjoyable, in between we talk a lot. I am not defending her, but I think it is still proper that way, unless we were married or something. I just don't like the way she acts sometimes Link to post Share on other sites
Puma Posted November 27, 2004 Share Posted November 27, 2004 ur situation sounds fishy to me :/ hmmmmm Link to post Share on other sites
Author cugo999 Posted November 27, 2004 Author Share Posted November 27, 2004 Puma what do you mean, could you elaborate?? Link to post Share on other sites
Puma Posted November 27, 2004 Share Posted November 27, 2004 ok first..why have you only seen her 3 times this past year? despite how busy she is..im very sure she can make more time to see you than 3 times in a year..unless she works day night, weekdays and wkds, basically all the time busy..then i can understand somewhat..but still there can always be made time. ok tehn...you say taht uve been together for 3 years? how has the realtionship been since then? u say you think shes takin you for granted..thats good start on you realizing things. now why do you think shes takin you for granted? you say its fair to give people space..i dont think its fair for anyone to allow taht much space!!! tahts jsut wrong..and very fishy there. u tellin me that ur ok with not seeing her in taht period of time interval? another thing..u say u trust people what they say cause its who you are. you need to wake up!!! people lie, people take advantage!! u have to be a lil more realistic..almost cynical. dont be so trusting..dont just give trust..it should be earned, even if its ur "gf". i personally dont know hwo you can be goin out with someone and only see each other for that lil time. of course i dont know who she is or how she is, but i can only imagine taht u two need some help in sorting things out Link to post Share on other sites
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