Happy But Scared

[letmoc]

I was involved with a committed man (not married but live in girlfriend) for about a year. I went NC in May and he has made several attempts to get back. He still did not end his relationship so I refused.

 

About 3 1/2 months ago I reconnected with an old friend. He confessed that he always liked me but he also knew I was fresh out of a "relationship" so we began a friendship. I began to want more but we were both nervous. But eventually we decided to give dating a try. I changed my number and I promised him I would never speak to the "other guy" again.

 

He is amazing and he makes me feel so wanted and desired. We are friends first and I have always wanted that in a partner. Now the bad........ this past week I can't stop thinking about CM and I have never been filled with happiness and fear at the same time. Please talk me off the ledge before I do something stupid.

[Sofie2013]

I was involved with a committed man (not married but live in girlfriend) for about a year. I went NC in May and he has made several attempts to get back. He still did not end his relationship so I refused.

 

About 3 1/2 months ago I reconnected with an old friend. He confessed that he always liked me but he also knew I was fresh out of a "relationship" so we began a friendship. I began to want more but we were both nervous. But eventually we decided to give dating a try. I changed my number and I promised him I would never speak to the "other guy" again.

 

He is amazing and he makes me feel so wanted and desired. We are friends first and I have always wanted that in a partner. Now the bad........ this past week I can't stop thinking about CM and I have never been filled with happiness and fear at the same time. Please talk me off the ledge before I do something stupid.

 

Look you found someone who loves you and only you don’t go and destroy that my messing around with a man who probably only sees you as something on the side because at the end of the day the guy you are with now want to be with and sees you much more than a piece of a** on the side. Trust me I went through something similar and I made the wrong choice and might cost me everything a love.

[yellowmaverick]

Do something really nice for your new man - tickets to a special event, romantic home-cooked dinner, joint massage appointment. Make it personal so he knows it's about him. I find that the act of giving something thoughtful creates more intense feelings towards the recipient of the gift.

[georgia girl]

How is this even a choice?

 

You have a man who you say is wonderful, who will put you first and who wants to make a healthy, happy relationship with YOU and only YOU.

 

Don't throw it away on just thinking about some old romantic feelings you had for someone else. Truth be told, you are just romanticizing because of the drama and intensity of affairs that hold a special appeal. But reality doesn't. Don't remember solely the good times. Remember the times when you were let down and desperately hurt. Do you really want to sign yourself up for that again?

 

You literally could have the opportunity of a lifetime in your hands - if he is the one, which will take months or years to even figure it out. Don't sacrifice it for something that's already failed.

 

Reality is this man and this future. Old feelings are big old red herrings. Pay them no mind.

[letmoc]

Thanks all. I am pleading temporary insanity on that thought.

[letmoc]

I did think a lot about the reason. And I think it is fear of the unknown. With CM i know what to expect (not much), but this new guy is offering me more already. He is not too good to be true, but we seem to compliment each other really well.