Pancake08 Posted September 25, 2013 Share Posted September 25, 2013 Been writing a lot about me and my Ex husband.. and lately things is getting better with me and him.the day i found out that he is in contact with other asian girls from dating site. He sent me a text message using our endearment, and then after that we had a good contact again. and two days ago an asian girl sent me an email and a picture of her and my ex and saying a lot of bad things to me and when i confronted my ex he denied that he is in contact with someone else and he doesnt know that girl,but i dont know if i would believe him. and now he is saying that he doesn't want me to move on but he cant live with me for now, he said we have to take on step at a time,but still divorce is at the back of his mind.. we still have intimate contact and a good conversation for the past few days.but now i am really confused if he is just playing with me while he is in contact with someone else,i am thinking maybe he is denying that he is talking with someone else because he doesn't want to be embarrass to his family and other people.. for two weeks ago he said to me he cant see any future with me, but now it seems like his heart is getting a little bit soft and he doesn't want me to stop contacting him and move on and he said maybe if things is getting better we can have our family back.. please tell me what is the best thing i should do at this point... Link to post Share on other sites
Yarrow Posted September 25, 2013 Share Posted September 25, 2013 It turns out that some men like it both ways. They like to have a wife that will cook and clean for them and give them an air of respectability and stability, but that they don't actually have to treat well, but then also have someone else on the side to chase and spend money on and tell stories to to make them selves sound like whatever they want. I've seen this so often! I think some people get a thrill off of the double life or fantasy life thing. They don't like being an adult where decisions you make have consequences, so they go off and pretend that if they can create, then hide this other side of their lives, that side doesn't have consequences. Are you ok with that or are you going to say, "Well, he can't have both of us."? Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted September 25, 2013 Share Posted September 25, 2013 Been writing a lot about me and my Ex husband.. Why did you divorce him in the first place ??? If it was for cheating on you, I'd say nothing has changed. Only you can decide if being involved with a wandering ex-husband is better than being involved with a wandering husband... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted September 25, 2013 Share Posted September 25, 2013 Been writing a lot about me and my Ex husband.. and lately things is getting better with me and him.the day i found out that he is in contact with other asian girls from dating site. He sent me a text message using our endearment, and then after that we had a good contact again. and two days ago an asian girl sent me an email and a picture of her and my ex and saying a lot of bad things to me and when i confronted my ex he denied that he is in contact with someone else and he doesnt know that girl,but i dont know if i would believe him. and now he is saying that he doesn't want me to move on but he cant live with me for now, he said we have to take on step at a time,but still divorce is at the back of his mind.. we still have intimate contact and a good conversation for the past few days.but now i am really confused if he is just playing with me while he is in contact with someone else,i am thinking maybe he is denying that he is talking with someone else because he doesn't want to be embarrass to his family and other people.. for two weeks ago he said to me he cant see any future with me, but now it seems like his heart is getting a little bit soft and he doesn't want me to stop contacting him and move on and he said maybe if things is getting better we can have our family back.. please tell me what is the best thing i should do at this point... You seem to be ALLOWING him to use you. Stop it - you are disrespecting yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
GuyInLimbo Posted September 25, 2013 Share Posted September 25, 2013 Do you enjoy being a doormat? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pancake08 Posted September 28, 2013 Author Share Posted September 28, 2013 Hi i felt so lost today to the point i almost cant take care of my 5 months old son because as i said on my thread that last week me and my ex husband had a good concersation and even had a picnic and ate dinner together,we had intimate relationship and he said maybe when he move to a new apartment me and my son can go there and eat dinner and see if we can be together again in the future. He joined in dating sites and chatting with asian girls but he is denying it even though we are already legaly separated, he just said he spoke to scammer but now he is not soing it anymore. And today he called me and he sounded like a grumpy boy and he said he is really tired and also hurt me on his word that he said he moved on for a long time ago already and he doesnt wanna be with me right now but he said if i will start to be nice to him maybe he can evaluate if we can be together someday, i felt hurt and used and betray many times, i am always nice to him sometimes i am asking him what more shall i do to show him that i am nice.i havent done anything bad to him aside from fighting my sons right and also beg to him many times to come back. My question is why he is saying different things to me? Does he really want to be married someday with me( which he said,its best if we can save our marriage).Do you think he moved on already,? PLease help me to figure out what he really mean. Link to post Share on other sites
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