Author peaksandvalleys Posted October 1, 2013 Author Share Posted October 1, 2013 Spoke with my lawyer this morning. We have a plan. Papers are being drawn up right now. I feel a bit more calm (been tot the gun range again) and prepared for what might go down. The PI has come up with more stuff than I expected. I am more than a little surprised by his level of deception. Not to bright though. I have more than enough to blow their affair sky high. The last few days have been very interesting. He wants to know if I feel okay since I have been unusually quiet. He even asked if I wanted to talk about some of the issues we have. I told him no that it was alright that I understand his point of view and I won't be bothering him with my "insecurities" anymore. That I have grown to understand the pressure he has been under. He was so pleased he wanted to take me out for a night on the town to which I declined. While reading here the last few days I also found out that I live in one of the states with alienation of affection. I brought this up to the lawyer. He said he wouldn't recommend it but if I felt strongly about it he would do what I wanted. I feel VERY strongly about it. Why not? Since we are all doing what we need to do to get through this life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author peaksandvalleys Posted October 3, 2013 Author Share Posted October 3, 2013 My husband is growing suspicious. Get this he isn't growing suspicious that I know something but he asked me if I had met someone? I mean literally asked if we could talk. Said he had something he needed to ask me. We sat at the kitchen table because I already had my work spread out there. He wanted me to look him in the eyes and tell him I wasn't seeing anyone. Can you believe that? He wants to know if I AM SEEING SOMEONE? I almost lost it. Talk about great timing my phone rang with an issue from work and I had time to think. I told him I was hurt by his question since I am the one who had been trying for years to get him to work on our relationship. I told him I was disgusted that he thought so little of me and our marriage. But what really got him is when I asked him if he thought I was so disrespectful of him that I would lie to him, waste his time, his life, his love of 30 years for a side piece. He literally turned green. He stammered and said he knew I WOULD NEVER DO THAT TO HIM. Well the person he married wouldn't do that to him. But the person I am now wouldn't strike it off the list. He also does not know that the person who I am now is waiting to destroy his little fantasy world. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Zenstudent Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 I'm amazed that you can hold yourself together like this - I couldn't do it. He's obviously tryong to gaslight - cheaters 101. When do you plan to blow it up? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 The evening my husband returned from his business trip I had a bag packed for him and wished him well. He was in shock and I wasn't having any of it. I insisted he leave and wished him well. This is by far the best way to handle this. No reason to listen to their lies and this way causes the cheater the most pain. Stay calm and dismiss them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 My husband is growing suspicious. Get this he isn't growing suspicious that I know something but he asked me if I had met someone? I mean literally asked if we could talk. Said he had something he needed to ask me. We sat at the kitchen table because I already had my work spread out there. He wanted me to look him in the eyes and tell him I wasn't seeing anyone. Can you believe that? He wants to know if I AM SEEING SOMEONE? I almost lost it. Talk about great timing my phone rang with an issue from work and I had time to think. I told him I was hurt by his question since I am the one who had been trying for years to get him to work on our relationship. I told him I was disgusted that he thought so little of me and our marriage. But what really got him is when I asked him if he thought I was so disrespectful of him that I would lie to him, waste his time, his life, his love of 30 years for a side piece. He literally turned green. He stammered and said he knew I WOULD NEVER DO THAT TO HIM. Well the person he married wouldn't do that to him. But the person I am now wouldn't strike it off the list. He also does not know that the person who I am now is waiting to destroy his little fantasy world. Quite common for the WS to get paranoid that there BS is getting some side action on them. Link to post Share on other sites
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