Bad Decision?

[lovergal]

In approximately the past year, I had met and developed some good feelings towards 2 guys at different times. They both seem to be really nice guys, and in my eyes, probably the perfect type of guys that I can find. They also seemed to have expressed some interest in me. However, in the end, I decided to push them away, because I felt I'm not good enough for them. I am my own worst critic, because I know where I came from, where I am, and I'm not satisfied with myself. In the past few years, I have just been trying to rediscover myself and create a better life.

 

For the 2nd guy, I just saw him a few times at the gym recently. I don't know his name, nor have I ever spoken to him. We did have some eye contact though. He seems to be really smart, mature, nice, and has great body physique. When I realized that he may be interested in me, I was rather a bit intimidated, because my body physique is no where as great as his. Though, I have just recently returned back to the gym. I felt like he probably didn't get to have a good look at me, and thinks I have good/okay body physique, because he sees me weight lifting and doing cardio. I basically rejected on having communications with him. I would used to see him every morning at the gym. Now it has been 2 days now and I haven't seen him again. Was it a wrong decision that I didn't even give it a chance?

[Tayla]

Welcome to the forums. Its good to get a fresh perspective.

 

Sounds like you can use a reality check in a positive light. You are working towards healthy living thru exercise. Good for you! You have been approached so that means you possibly are friendly or carry yourself well. Ease up on yourself though and the "expectation" of what the "perfect" guy is. (Hint: They don't exist) Remember there are many fish in the sea, when one opportunity is relinquished, learn from it and wait for the next school of fishes to swim your way. follow your instincts...they are our compass. Best to you, and again welcome to the forum.

[lovergal]

Thank you for your advice and I will use some time to digest on it. I appreciate your help

[mikei880]

A piece of advice from a guys perspective.... I think you are overanalyzing things a bit. If you haven't spoken to the hot gym guy how do you know what his preferences are? Don't write yourself off because you don't think you are good enough for him... go to a county fair or the mall and watch the couples that are there, they will be in all shapes and sizes and "looks". Hold your head up and own what you are , you will project attractiveness that way. Keep up with the gym too, it's good for your overall well being.

[lovergal]

Thanks, I was hoping I would also get a guy's perspective

[OklahomaJones]

If the guys like you, I don't see what the issue is. I am messed up right now because a girl I was recently seeing, and adored.. I was crazy about her, felt that she wasn't good enough for me. She is like you.. low self esteem, doesn't feel she's where she should be, struggles with addiction, has a history of abuse and doesn't feel she deserves too be treated well. I like her just the way she is, for who she is, but she pushed me away and said I deserve better and she's no good for me and I'll realize it soon enough, etc.. All I want it her, but she won't give it a chance.

 

If you really feel that bad about yourself, then work on yourself before dating, but if a guy really likes you, for YOU, then don't let your insecurities ruin it. Just be happy someone appreciates you for who you are.