It hurts so much!

[Myonenonly]

My exhusband and I were married for 6 years and all toghther 9and halfs! I got pregnant in 2010 with our first child! I was only 12 weeks along in my pregnancy and I found he was seeing another girl! ... I was dEvasting I left him and move in at my parents he change his phone number and didn wan to speak wih me or anything he was very mean!One day he even through rocks at me so I would leave and threaten to call police if didn't leave! I spend the next 7 mothns of my pregnancy crying and I felt so vulnerable unwanted, sad and just terrible! Later he moved her in our house must have been within of me leaving! It was terrible I guess that's why he kicked me out that day I went to see him!! 3 years after I'm doing good! However he wasnt being Inconsisten in helping with our daughter! So I fIled for child support with out local county about a month ago he was very mad but before filing I wanted to talk to him about it but he declined saying do what you gotta do! So our divorced papers had not been filed.. So h filed for divorces two days ago I was served! Im happy that finally the paperwork is filed! I didn't do it before because it's pricey I don't reply want to deal with that! However as I'm reading the paperwork he claims his unemployed( fact: he's not) .. He claims I make more money tht what I make! He's requesting me paying for attorneys fees.. And want me to pay him spousal support and requ our daughter half the time!

[trippi1432]

Sorry to hear about your situation, our spouses seem to turn into people we never knew during times like these. From the sound of this situation, you are much better off without him. I believe you have another thread here where it said you had some money saved for training that you were afraid you were going to have to give him. No, you do not have to give him anything unless the court orders it...no matter what he says to you. Only a judge can enforce that.

 

If I were in your situation, I would take those papers to an attorney for a free consultation. If needed, I would use that money set aside for training to pay to have a response to his papers. Amended with the correct information, ask for a financial discovery where he has to give his expenses and how he is able to keep himself and his new woman up, ask for him to pay you attorney's fees and rebuff the spousal support. If you do nothing at all, no response, you leave it up to the courts and he just may get everything he is asking for.

 

Understand that his filing was a direct response to you filing for child support. Everything he is doing is for HIS benefit, not yours or for your child. He sounds very selfish. Please do at least get a free consult with an attorney, you don't need the most expensive one, shop around and explain your situation that as a single parent, you need help with this. Someone will surely take your case.

 

Lastly, do NOT give him any information on what you are doing, what advise you get from an attorney or anyone. Do not let him know what any of your moves are.

 

Good luck.