BellaB Posted September 28, 2013 Share Posted September 28, 2013 My boyfriend and his mother do not want us together because they like his former GF who they still keep in communication with and he left her to be with me. Since then, the whole family hated me because of it. Today, his former GF and his mother went out for drinks and for his mother to see his daughter and the ex GF must have added some things that I supposedly said because today his mother posted a status about me on FB using my name in it. She claimed that if something happened to her grandchildren, that's my a--. I don't even know what she is talking about b/c I never said I would do anything to my BF or his children so I don't know where this came from. I never even met his mother because of the drama surrounding their breakup so I don't see how someone can just jump to conclusions like that. The sad part is that I can't even defend myself from these lies because his mother and I do not have a relationship at all. Nobody wants to hear me out or anything. I love my BF very much and he loves me too and breaking up because of them is not an option. I just want to know, what is the best way to protect myself from the lies his baby mama tells his mother about me, because one day I do want to be able to come around his family if I have to. Link to post Share on other sites
harrybrown Posted September 28, 2013 Share Posted September 28, 2013 Your boyfriend does not want you to be together or just his mother? Link to post Share on other sites
Author BellaB Posted September 28, 2013 Author Share Posted September 28, 2013 Your boyfriend does not want you to be together or just his mother? It's just his mother Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted September 28, 2013 Share Posted September 28, 2013 I'm still reeling over that first sentence.. "My boyfriend and his mother do not want us together because they like his former GF ".... Once I get past that sentence I might actually grasp what the OP is actually trying to convey...for now I'll wait til clarity comes Link to post Share on other sites
Author BellaB Posted September 28, 2013 Author Share Posted September 28, 2013 I'm still reeling over that first sentence.. "My boyfriend and his mother do not want us together because they like his former GF ".... Once I get past that sentence I might actually grasp what the OP is actually trying to convey...for now I'll wait til clarity comes I tried to edit it, but the system will not let me. But it's basically his mother and his family. It's not him. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted September 28, 2013 Share Posted September 28, 2013 I think you should tell your bf that you hate that his mother blames you for the breakup of him and his childs mother. I think you should ask him what you should do. This way he knows it's not your fault and his family is being ass____s. Just say nothing and let him handle it. If you do get a chance to meet and talk this over with his mom just listen, speak your truth and try to be understanding. Don't get into a verbal fight with her. Link to post Share on other sites
anna121 Posted September 28, 2013 Share Posted September 28, 2013 My boyfriend and his mother do not want us together because they like his former GF who they still keep in communication with and he left her to be with me. Since then, the whole family hated me because of it. Today, his former GF and his mother went out for drinks and for his mother to see his daughter and the ex GF must have added some things that I supposedly said because today his mother posted a status about me on FB using my name in it. She claimed that if something happened to her grandchildren, that's my a--. I don't even know what she is talking about b/c I never said I would do anything to my BF or his children so I don't know where this came from. I never even met his mother because of the drama surrounding their breakup so I don't see how someone can just jump to conclusions like that. The sad part is that I can't even defend myself from these lies because his mother and I do not have a relationship at all. Nobody wants to hear me out or anything. I love my BF very much and he loves me too and breaking up because of them is not an option. I just want to know, what is the best way to protect myself from the lies his baby mama tells his mother about me, because one day I do want to be able to come around his family if I have to. Your boyfriend needs to get a clue and tell his mother to f-off (ok, maybe not using quite those words.) He might need to block her on FB. For sure, you should. It's not worth engaging her online - it will only look petty and embarrassing to others. But he needs to sit her down and explain that you two are together and she needs to accept that and treat you with respect. Otherwise, he should cut contact. If he's not willing to do that, he doesn't sufficiently value you as his partner and you need to end it. This is the definition of "deal breaker". Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted September 28, 2013 Share Posted September 28, 2013 Update! Clarity arrived! The OP forgot some important details that change the dynamics of this matter. Suggest reading past post by this person to get a better scope of the real issues in play. Link to post Share on other sites
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