moimeme Posted February 6, 2005 Share Posted February 6, 2005 Thznk you for the nice personal attack, the subject here is not my relationship but what makes a person - Anais fulfilled. I realize that English is not your first language, but you need to be able to speak computerese, and an emoticon which indicates joking or teasing means you are not being attacked. You'd do well to remember this. thus preserve the bad place for people to be in, but which does pay the bills at the end of the month. When your soul is dead bills start not to matter. People come and go at the end of the day. That's how I feel about relationships. Jobs come and go at the end of the day. That's how I feel about 'career'. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted February 6, 2005 Share Posted February 6, 2005 I realize that English is not your first language, but you need to be able to speak computerese, and an emoticon which indicates joking or teasing means you are not being attacked. You'd do well to remember this. Sorry, it may sound funny, but I did't know this. When your soul is dead bills start not to matter. Me, just like Anais, I s'ppose, we love our job. Jobs come and go at the end of the day. That's how I feel about 'career'. I swish it were the case. She's not American so getting a job ain't that obvious - companies must pay if they'd rather have a foreigner than a native. In France you cannot even work unsell you find this one firm willing to go through all the paperwork, all the procedures, wiling to pay for you. If ever you want to quit that job, you have to find another another companiy willing to do that, go to the local administration, and go through the beaurocratic processs again. Had I been home (or native French), I would have been more inclined to say you're right... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Anais Posted February 7, 2005 Author Share Posted February 7, 2005 Yes I love my career and my family. And the problem is not in prioritizing at all. The problem is in how to be smart and patient to take the right steps that lead to a happy family life for a career woman. The thing is that no career and no marriage are perfect. In both one needs lots of efforts to make it work. I have been thinking long and concluded that only balancing both one can be, at least my case, happy. In family =no job scenario I would enjoy my long vacation for some years but then will regret for being a wimp once and giving up without reaching my potential . . I think even my husband wouldn’t love anymore the wimp I would become in this case. He loves me the way I am now. Always enthusiastic and happy with what I do. In career _no family scenario …I don’t even want to think about it. I have been there and no success/achievement seem to make your heart happy, you feel empty, life is grey. Curly, you know I am far not in management right? I remember I sent you my CV once. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted February 7, 2005 Share Posted February 7, 2005 Nope, you did not send me your resume. I would have remembered. We've only exchanged the names of our country . Link to post Share on other sites
Author Anais Posted February 7, 2005 Author Share Posted February 7, 2005 Oh you are right, I just read my message to you. I have missed the profession in CV. Let me PM it . Quite different hm? Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted February 7, 2005 Share Posted February 7, 2005 COOOL!! Looking forward to being impressed ! Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted February 7, 2005 Share Posted February 7, 2005 OMG, girl !!! I'm stunned! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Anais Posted February 7, 2005 Author Share Posted February 7, 2005 Oh yes I bet you think now I know why is she so crazy. You are right about being hard as foreigner to find a job. Now probably it is easier for me as hubbie is American. I was pretty lucky with job offers before though. I know there was time I would think it is such a big deal to get it and now I take it as granted. Humans! Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted February 7, 2005 Share Posted February 7, 2005 Well, Anais, I'm veru sure you're far off the average girl, if you know what I mean . Wonder how it must be to be so gifted ... Being a foreigner is hard no matter where you are, USA or Europe. But exciting too. Personally, at the end of the day, I still think it's worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Anais Posted February 21, 2005 Author Share Posted February 21, 2005 Well, Anais, I'm veru sure you're far off the average girl, if you know what I mean . Wonder how it must be to be so gifted ... Nah…we all are good in some particular thing. .. That is about all that I can do well. Being a foreigner is hard no matter where you are, USA or Europe. But exciting too. Personally, at the end of the day, I still think it's worth it. I just feel I could use better English. I do pretty well here, no complains. People are friendly. It is going to be very hard for me to make a decision. I will be thankful for some prayers. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 May your guardian angel whisper in your ear and advise you in order to find your path, wherever it takes you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Anais Posted February 21, 2005 Author Share Posted February 21, 2005 Thank you Curly! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Anais Posted May 16, 2005 Author Share Posted May 16, 2005 A happy ending here! YES! I got it. I said no to all other jobs and after waiting long finally I got the job that I wanted!!! And it is where my husband is moving. I am very excited! And yes (Moose was right) put God first and then your family and the rest will work out. Thank you all for your advice and farewell. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 Congratulations and best of luck to you! Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted May 23, 2005 Share Posted May 23, 2005 If the marriage is great, I would never divorce/split for the career. But if the marriage is already not so good and my career is my passion then I'd choose my career. It also depends on the person itself and many other factors. Life often requires sacrifices, it's up to us to choose between two evils. Link to post Share on other sites
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