h0000 Posted October 2, 2013 Share Posted October 2, 2013 Every guy says "I wouldnt hurt you" but how would they know? LOL! I didnt believe them long time ago. My recent ex just dumped me and I honestly thank god I didn't allow myself to love him.Even so it is painful enough. I really dont know what to say to you except "time can heal" and "there are plenty of fish in the sea" . Dont emphasis too much on "marriage". Just think he's another bf that failed you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
melell Posted October 2, 2013 Share Posted October 2, 2013 Trust me, this realization is the best thing that can happen to you. I hurts a lot I know, but it eases up, and things do get better from here. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
h0000 Posted October 2, 2013 Share Posted October 2, 2013 I'm sorry that you were hurt but closing yourself off from others makes you emotionally unavailable and you'll miss out on life. "Love like you've never been hurt." To love someone with all your heart takes a lot of courage but always love yourself first. You deserve great love, but you have to risk your heart to find it. Otherwise, you risk living a superficial life where you never really commit to anyone or anything. Don't lose all hope in others. Be compassionate to both yourself and others. I dont think im emotionally unavailable though, just not that "emotional". I just control myself instead of letting myself get drowned in love. Love brings you extreme happiness and extreme pain. I rather just stay in the middle. I rather miss out a little bit on life than to experience fully the good and the bad. Link to post Share on other sites
Author send_me_flowers Posted October 2, 2013 Author Share Posted October 2, 2013 I'm sorry that you were hurt but closing yourself off from others makes you emotionally unavailable and you'll miss out on life. "Love like you've never been hurt." To love someone with all your heart takes a lot of courage but always love yourself first. You deserve great love, but you have to risk your heart to find it. Otherwise, you risk living a superficial life where you never really commit to anyone or anything. Don't lose all hope in others. Be compassionate to both yourself and others. i suppose im just hurt talking. i really thought he was the one for me. i feel in love at first sight i said when we met to myself i will never giv up on him and i never did he gave up on me. i wish he would have loved me like i loved him. i wish i could have been good enough to keep him. im suffering with this pain he has left behind while he is all happy living his life. i stuck by him through jail and he was planing on being with someone else all the while. i lost a huge portion of my life we was only together for 8 weeks before he went in. its all my fault if only i was the right girl for him i wouldnt be so hurt, i have cried for 2 hours my eyes are sore. i have no family and hardly no friends. a life without love is lifeless and thats my life right now nothing at all. you know if i died no one would care Link to post Share on other sites
Author send_me_flowers Posted October 2, 2013 Author Share Posted October 2, 2013 Every guy says "I wouldnt hurt you" but how would they know? LOL! I didnt believe them long time ago. My recent ex just dumped me and I honestly thank god I didn't allow myself to love him.Even so it is painful enough. I really dont know what to say to you except "time can heal" and "there are plenty of fish in the sea" . Dont emphasis too much on "marriage". Just think he's another bf that failed you. yes thats true how do you not love though. how can that be done please tell me. because i will save myself from getting hurt this wy again?? Link to post Share on other sites
Author send_me_flowers Posted October 2, 2013 Author Share Posted October 2, 2013 Trust me, this realization is the best thing that can happen to you. I hurts a lot I know, but it eases up, and things do get better from here. thank you melell its so hard i love him more than anything.. i seen you wrote on a post that once they get the courage to leave they start thinking things differently. what does that mean?? i just wish he would of been the man i wanted Link to post Share on other sites
h0000 Posted October 2, 2013 Share Posted October 2, 2013 I mean. .dont get too emotionally involved. I cant say we can completely not love, but we can control it. I just hold my feelings back and I imagine we break up and imagine how i would feel then I tell myself it feels ok. I can handle it. not the end of the world. It really sounds unhealthy. .I wouldn't recommend you to do it. .but if you ask tjats what I do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author send_me_flowers Posted October 3, 2013 Author Share Posted October 3, 2013 thanks for writing back. i know but if it helps not making you hurt than its worth. just never give your heart to another im never doing that again. i will probably be old and lonely with cats lol i have to try and forget this hurt and betyral its killing me Link to post Share on other sites
Fufu Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 Dear send_me_flowers, you are pushing yourself too hard. It's only 2 months. And emotional wounds doesn't heal as fast as physical wounds and what you are experiencing right now is what we called "Emotional Roller-coaster" I was in this forum in year 2010 and it took me about 1 and a half year to get over my ex of 3 years. It took this long and I'm glad my healing went well. I had lots of recurring emotional roller-coaster, however it always gets better and better and eventually I have none at all. Keep posting in this thread if you need to let go of emotional outbursts, we are all here to give you support 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author send_me_flowers Posted October 3, 2013 Author Share Posted October 3, 2013 Dear send_me_flowers, you are pushing yourself too hard. It's only 2 months. And emotional wounds doesn't heal as fast as physical wounds and what you are experiencing right now is what we called "Emotional Roller-coaster" I was in this forum in year 2010 and it took me about 1 and a half year to get over my ex of 3 years. It took this long and I'm glad my healing went well. I had lots of recurring emotional roller-coaster, however it always gets better and better and eventually I have none at all. Keep posting in this thread if you need to let go of emotional outbursts, we are all here to give you support thank you fufu i know im pushing it really hard but i hate myself for feeling this way, he is perfectley fine happy living his life, i need to let go he thinks i have let go but truth is i havent i loved him so much. its killing me that i will never see or hear from him again yet he is so fine with that. i dont know what to do anymore Link to post Share on other sites
Author send_me_flowers Posted October 3, 2013 Author Share Posted October 3, 2013 i just look back at all the memories and things we shared and it rips my heart out. he seore he loved me. and i made his life complete. he has lied broke my heart and he gets to walk away and leave me suffering. with no guilt or remorse, just he is thinking i dont want her i dont care how she feels that i used her when no one else was there i dont love her. leave her she will be fine with out me and get over it. how could he be so cruel to me Link to post Share on other sites
Fufu Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 You will be happy too Give yourself the time to grieve and then move on. Don't think about him anymore. Think of how you can make yourself happier When he decided to leave, respect his decision. You deserve far better than this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author send_me_flowers Posted October 3, 2013 Author Share Posted October 3, 2013 You will be happy too Give yourself the time to grieve and then move on. Don't think about him anymore. Think of how you can make yourself happier When he decided to leave, respect his decision. You deserve far better than this. i did i said to him i respect your wishes. but it still hurts me. i havent begged or pleaded ive let him go in the sense that i havent hung on to him but my heart and mind hung on. i just hope he realises i was a good person and in time i hope he regrets the hurtful things he made me go through but that seems to not happen. a friend of mine said if he doesnt now he never will Link to post Share on other sites
Author send_me_flowers Posted October 3, 2013 Author Share Posted October 3, 2013 he was cruel with me on texts and i said oh no one will want me he said no. i said i have already met someone who is better than you than he said to me ok good ive got someone alot silmmer than you. im a size 8 so i am hurt i said that to him because it wasnt true. i havent met anyone and he will think im going out on dates and im not why have got a big mouth:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
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