When to call it a quit?

[deni9]

Im in a relationship. Been talking/dating this guy since late June. Now he is a great guy. We have some things in common. Im 21. He is 20.

Now lately, I've been very doubtful. Even annoyed about him. He has done nothing wrong. He can be too much at times. Like tell me how much he loves me and how he misses me, but he overly does it. Sure, maybe he does love me so much. He is also very clingy. It can be too much for me. Im not use to this, my previous bf was nothing like that, and I was use to it.

It just can be annoying. I don't want to take my bf for granted. I don't want him to feel like I don't appreciate him, but I cant be fake with him, im the type if I am annoyed or bothered I show it.

 

And so he constantly asking me if im happy.

Honestly, I don't know how to answer that. I am. When im with him, I love seeing him and holding him and kissing him and touching him. But then he can say something stupid. (trying to mess with my head and get me mad) and he just kills it. and I tell him "not a day goes by without you saying something that gets me mad" and he laughs. and tries to hold me and kiss me and tell me that he loves me.

 

We cant even talk about stuff,without us having a huge disagreement. or one of us getting offended (its mostly him that takes it wrong or to heart) I like to conversate (what women doesn't) but sometimes he doesn't and tells me"can we not talk, and just enjoy eachothers company? because when we do we always end up arguing"

Honestly, I don't take it as arguing, I take it as talking about something serious. He likes to just brush off the big important stuff .

 

Like he doesn't let me work, doesn't like me going out or anything

and I want to change that. but nope, he says "not till we are married"

because he says that im chained down to him and I cant leave him

You can say he is insecure.

I mean he doesn't like me looking/talking to guys

he tells me "I can get any guy I want"

or he has to be with me in every event.

he is always wondering if I have had "better" in bed or penis size

and my past bothers him.

 

with all this being said, how do I call it a quits? I feel like im going to hurt him so bad. and I don't want to hurt him. I actually have feelings for him. and care for him. but man.......this is sooo much. its like he is sucking the living life out of me.

 

I just hate doing this. Also, I stopped talking to certain close people to me because I started dating him and now, that im going to break up with him I feel like "ALL FOR WHAT??....NOTHING!"

 

Thinking about all this stuff just makes me want to be single. and not even try with any guy.

 

its time to let him go, huh?

or am I just being an idiot and being unappreciated of him and I should suck it all up and fix this?