movingalongnicely Posted September 28, 2013 Share Posted September 28, 2013 Ok I need some advice on this one... I'm pretty good at reading people, but this woman is confusing the hell out of me. We met about a week ago, got her number, asked her out to a nice local lounge... nothing to over the top, but not a dive or anything cheap either. Just a nice casual place to have a glass of wine and relax and get to know each other. We were texting back and forth before we went out and she was a little nervous and told me so, but seriously I told her to relax it's not like we're buying curtains together. Truth be told, I was a little nervous too. I got there a few minutes before her, she walked in, gave me a kiss on the cheek greeting. Cool, that's a good way to start. Next thing you know we're 3 glasses of wine deep, enjoying some light fare, conversation is flowing, and what felt like no time at all was actually 3hrs that had passed. It was getting late so we got the check, I walked her to her car and was just trying to be a polite gentlemen. I was going to go in for the kiss since I had a vibe that things were going well all night, but before I had the chance she gave me another kiss on the cheek goodnight. I was thinking to myself, ok, that means she probably had fun, but didn't feel a spark or anything, which is totally fine. Then she says that she wants me to text her when I get home so she knows I'm safe, which makes me think ok, maybe she is interested after all... I texted her when I got home and I told her that I had a great time and genuinely enjoyed our evening. She replied with the same and that left me cautiously optimistic... Next day I didn't text her until later in the afternoon, told her again how much fun I had (which I really did) and asked her if I could take her out to a restaurant she mentioned she liked (see I was listening!) in a few days. She said she was busy and I was like, "ok that's it she's not interested, damn, but it's ok, it happens". Then she said how bout a different day after that? OK COOL! We're back on. So now we have a second date coming up in a couple days and here is where I am confused... I've been trying to text her and get some conversation going to really learn more about her, but her answers are all short (which is normally a hint), BUT she responds within a minute after I text her. I know she was going to be out all day today with family, so I texted her this morning to say hi and see how she was doing before her day got rolling. I left her a huge out by saying that if she wanted to text me later in the day once she wasn't so busy, she could and I'd like it. I didn't text her after that and about 6 hours later, sure enough she sent me a text... So I try to drum up some conversation, but there is no real transition on her part between topics. It's like she answers what I ask her and then sits around and waits for the next question. I can't tell if she's not interested or if she's just not the texting type? I can't figure out why she'd go out of her way to arrange a second date if she's not really going to talk to me? I felt like we hit it off on our first date and I like her and she seems like a great person worth getting to know better, but I don't understand why she wouldn't be more interested in talking to me so very early on when there is really nothing at stake if she's making plans for the next date...? I'm usually spot on at reading people, but she's a pisces too and she's jamming my radar with all her mixed signals lol! What say you everyone? Link to post Share on other sites
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